Not physically attracted to the woman I'm dating

I've been dating a woman for about a month now. Personality wise she is perfect. We match on nearly everything, want the same things out of life, share a good number of hobbies and enjoy spending time together.
The problem is that I don't find her attractive. I was the one that asked her out because at the time I thought she was pretty. But over the last few weeks I've realised I just don't want physical intimacy with her. I think the problem is that she is overweight, normally I don't mind that, I like a curvy/chubby woman, only she isn't, she is built like a fridge.
I know if she was a bit slimmer, with her personality, I would be obsessed with her, but I'm not about to ask her to change myself just to please me.
What do I do? Do I end it as soon as possible? I don't want to keep her around hoping my feelings will change because I know she really likes me and I don't want to give her false hope and hurt her.

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  1. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Just make her lose her weight in a subtle manner. Take her out jogging. Eat at salad bars, etc.

  2. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    post pic of her body or someone similar so I can give advice
    >t. fitgay

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >post pic of her body or someone similar so I can give advice
      I'll have a look for a pic of a woman with a similar body

      If she loses weight she'll leave you and upgrade. Classic catch 22.

      >If she loses weight she'll leave you and upgrade. Classic catch 22.
      This actually happened with my ex before her

  3. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    If she loses weight she'll leave you and upgrade. Classic catch 22.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Ah frick OP. I'm really sorry for that, brother, I've been there.
      It's such a mindfrick - you really fricking LOVE the personality but your peepee is going 'mmmmnahhhh".
      As for the fridge-build thing - you can encourage her to work out (you work out with her and help her) but then you run into the real risk of
      I'd say find a middle ground with her. You cannot go further if you don't wanna frick her at least once in a while mate, trust me. I tried
      I was with a 10/10 personality, but absolute shit body and butterface. I TRIED to make it work but just... couldn't.
      I'd say help her lose the weight because:
      1. If she remains like this you'll cheat/leave eventually 100%.
      2. If she loses weight there are 2 options : either you frick her like a rabbit and she's your future wife - or she leaves you for someone else then you're back at point 1.
      With option 2 at least you have a shot at a happy marriage.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        How many years in total with her?

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        yap

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        >was with a 10/10 personality, but absolute shit body and butterface. I TRIED to make it work but just... couldn't.
        What was that like?

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          >What was that like?
          Painful. I felt guilty for not being satisfied with a good life partner. I felt shame and felt like a base animal for not being attracted to her. I felt shallow and ungrateful.
          I tried denying it and blamed myself for it over and over again, but in the end I couldn't escape the fact that I needed physical intimacy and I didn't want it with her.
          I ended up resenting her and myself for it because I couldn't accept that I really loved her as a person but was turned off by her as a woman.
          Like I said it was a mind-frick.
          I didn't cheat on her, despite being tempted to.
          I did try to encourage her to come to workouts with me (I'm fit), I tried to cook for us a healthier diet but she wasn't having any of it.
          Broke up with her, and hope her piggy ass is getting slamed by someone who loves and desires her.
          My current gf is a solid 6 (doesn't work out but is average normal body)- and I've never been happier, since I never required a sexy woman, or a hot woman, just one I actually like.

  4. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    break it off with her, way I last did it was I just stopped responding to texts/ setting new dates.
    Then eventually texted her that I've never really lost interest in medting up with a girl I've been dating before, (which was true at the time) and that even though I felt bad about it, we should see other people.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      This, im about to do this with my side piece. She's great and all, but she has a gut and a massively fat ass so it's a pain in the ass trying to push her fat and ass aside to get to her pussy. I can frick but I don't feel like cramping or forcing myself to enjoy sex when thinner women gave me none of this trouble and I know my dick isn't small so unfortunately she has to go cause it's really not worth it and I'm not gonna invest in a weight loss plan for her.

  5. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    If you haven’t thought about cheating before you will start thinking about it in this one it’ll be really odd to say the least.
    I used to completely just fall for the girl I was dating, couldn’t even look at other women or porn and feel any attraction, but I was with a girl that didn’t convince me fully appearance-wise and I could never get other women out of my head.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      This tbqh. I'm seeing a woman right now but I'm way out of her league and all I can think about is fricking someone else. She doesn't arouse me anymore and I just feel bad about it.

  6. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I know what you mean. My gf has put on weight -- not much, just enough to destroy the slimness of her face -- and gotten acne scarring since we started dating. Her personality is great and our dynamic is great, but I'm now physically sort of indifferent to her. Basically, I would feel differently about her if her face looked different. A bit weird, but it's a fact.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      > A bit weird, but it's a fact.
      Been there.
      Confront her on it in the gentlest fricking way humanly imaginable since women are 1000% turbo autists about their appearance. But if you continue like this as

      Ah frick OP. I'm really sorry for that, brother, I've been there.
      It's such a mindfrick - you really fricking LOVE the personality but your peepee is going 'mmmmnahhhh".
      As for the fridge-build thing - you can encourage her to work out (you work out with her and help her) but then you run into the real risk of
      I'd say find a middle ground with her. You cannot go further if you don't wanna frick her at least once in a while mate, trust me. I tried
      I was with a 10/10 personality, but absolute shit body and butterface. I TRIED to make it work but just... couldn't.
      I'd say help her lose the weight because:
      1. If she remains like this you'll cheat/leave eventually 100%.
      2. If she loses weight there are 2 options : either you frick her like a rabbit and she's your future wife - or she leaves you for someone else then you're back at point 1.
      With option 2 at least you have a shot at a happy marriage.

      If you haven’t thought about cheating before you will start thinking about it in this one it’ll be really odd to say the least.
      I used to completely just fall for the girl I was dating, couldn’t even look at other women or porn and feel any attraction, but I was with a girl that didn’t convince me fully appearance-wise and I could never get other women out of my head.

      have said you will cheat/leave her.

  7. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    You cant think your way into being sexually attracted to someone.

  8. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    This was my situation and I was with her for a little over a year before we finally broke up.

    Mostly I was just at least satisfied to get some sexual and relationship experience on the board. But yeah, you should end it, OP.

  9. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I have been in this situation, OP. My first practice gf had a perfect personality, but was chubby which made my pee pee go down a lot with her.

    7 years after I finally accumulated enough courage to tell her that I am not physically attracted to her anymore. Of course, it was a huge scandal with crying and stuff, but in the end, I stopped lying to myself and to her as well. So it was the right decision.

    Ask me anything, OP.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Not OP but what happened? Are you still with her or did you get with someone more attractive? If so was it worth it?

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        For fricks' sake he (or she) is trolling. Probably assblasted that men have the nerve to want to try to get some experience when lack of experience may as well be a death sentence when it comes to dating.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        What happened? I told her in private that she is not as sexy to me as she thinks she is. After that I moved out with my already packed stuff and found a new apartment and a new girlfriend.

        Lesson learned: dont stay with a nice, perfect woman who doesnt arouse you anymore or who is not sexy in general for your pee pee.

  10. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I was in a similar situation with my last gf.
    I realized I was not going to change her.
    So I changed myself.
    I worked harder and harder on myself. I trained everyday to become the best me.
    One night we go out to a burger and I just said I was not hungry and and just looked at her guzzling her menu.
    Fortunately at some point she dumped me because could not stand me not enabling her fatness enough.
    I was relieved.
    The experience of trying to feel something for a so disgusting being somewhat traumatized me.
    Now I'm ready to be more honest with myself.
    I swore to god Ill never frick a landwhale again.
    Unironically, I prefer death.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      reading some of these posts about people describing their ex partners in such a brutal way makes me wonder how you fricking got together in the first place. not trying to judge but it does leave a shit taste

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Are you a woman? Seems like these mild descriptions of women making themselves unattractive struck a nerve and I can't imagine any other explanation.

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          im trans

  11. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I had this same issue. The girl I was seeing had shoulders like a man. It was fine when she was naked laying in my bed, but when we were out in public it made me feel ashamed. When we had our first argument I used it as an excuse to break up with her. I dont know if you should do the same. I think you should try to be better than me. She seems to have a lot more going for her than the girl I was with. And all women get fat eventually, at least with this one you can see what thats like.

  12. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I was in your shoes once. I tried to make it work for years, but I gave up eventually because I honestly was unhappy with this.It really sucks and I still miss her, but it's just not possible to maintain a relationship with someone you are not attracted to.

  13. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    okay its starting to bug me. What is this picture from? I know I have seen this face before

  14. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    How fat is "built like a fridge?" If it's something she can reasonably fix you can (benevolently) manipulate her into slimming down. Consider the fact that most women get fat as frick at one point or another so you might run into the same issue. If you love her for her heart I would really consider staying because personality is #1 and is extremely hard to come by.

  15. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I was in your shoes but stayed for 5 years till I broke up with her and broke each others hearts. It’s not worth it. You need to be physically attached to your woman if you ever want a happy fulfilling relationship without the desire to cheat. Just say you’re not looking for anything serious and you want to explore other options or some bs to break up with her. DO NOT EVER MENTION OR IMPLY YOU AREN'T ATTRACTED TO HER.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Same situation and it's getting accidentally too serious. The main problem for me is I can't cum with her, even though I never go soft. It's a shitty experience for her too because she's self conscious she can't get me off, and I'm too embarrassed to tell her I don't find her hot enough to get in the zone. I'm meeting her family next week. 🙁

      What does your last line mean? They're gonna know something is up and they can tell when you're lying to them.

  16. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    She deserves the truth and who knows, she might feel the same way about you too! That would be a happy ending. Hopefully she finds her true worth and moves onto women.

  17. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >The problem is that I don't find her attractive
    So you're ditching a soulmate for the most vain reason possible.

    > I think the problem is that she is overweight
    Solve this with "lead by example". Don't argue. Go do powerlifting, when inquired why just answer, "because I want to" and don't elaborate. If she have any sense she'll follow, if don't, you deserve it.

    >I'm not about to ask her to change myself just to please me
    You're weak

    >What do I do?
    Pray to the Lord to save your soul, because you're a dumb wretch sitting in a treasure box without knowing it because you're so dumb you never gave the time of day on thinking enough to open to see what's inside.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      moron tier advice. Physical attraction is the cornerstone of a successful relationship. Ignore it at your own peril.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        You just said only pretty people will ever have functioning relationships, while calling me a moron. Fricking sauce, man

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          >Fricking sauce man.
          Life bro. I’ve dated girls I was in attracted to. It sucks and you’re constantly fantasizing about other women. Shit just works so much better when you think she’s the hottest b***h on this planet. Go tell your bf/gf “I’m not attracted to you but you have such an amazing personality,” and see how they react lol. Most girls want a man who intensely desires them.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >It sucks and you’re constantly fantasizing about other women
            You're weak

            >Shit just works so much better when you think she’s the hottest b***h on this planet.
            High sex-value women are a curse and you're dumb not to see it, or lying about having them. Because I know you don't have a high sex-value wholesome woman merely because you're here talking to me and no self-respecting man with a hot loyal b***h in his house would spend time in fricking /adv/ of all places.

            >most girls want [insert whatever truism here]
            Quantitatively false, qualitatively bullshit, objectively irrelevant

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >you’re weak
            Yeah wanting to bang women you’re attracted to is de facto evidence of weakness. Do you get you’re indicting yourself? You’re the one who’s weak. You’re the one spending time in /adv and just you have no respect for yourself by your own standards. It’s classic projection. You should be in therapy, not handing out advice on this site.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >wanting to bang women you’re attracted to is de facto evidence of weakness
            It is. It's poor impulse control. Specially when you have a woman of your own, it makes you not only weak but a thunderous c**t. Also, I doubt you "banged" very many of those.

            >It’s classic projection
            >no u
            lol, the measures people go to keep themselves asleep
            I am a voice in your head, not other person. Heed me or not as yourself, you'll live the life you deserve. I doubt you'll be able to figure it out, though.

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          >You just said only pretty people will ever have functioning relationships
          No they didn't you illiterate frick, they said you should be attracted to your partner. Not everyone is attracted to the same thing, this is basic elementary knowledge. OP stopped liking his gf because she got fat, if he leaves and she doesn't change, she'll find some chubby chaser while OP finds another skinny girl. There's no pretty people bullshit.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Good for you, every time you think something inadequate happens to your partner's attraction level for you, you can start again with someone else! Don't deal with your partner's problems, just get another wife. It will be easy and pain-free! Totally worth it, if compared to deal with your emotional and spiritual limitations for love!
            You demoralized wretch, you don't know what's coming and I can't stop myself with being pleased with how much you deserve it

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        >Physical attraction is the cornerstone of a successful relationship
        So when you two become old, the relationship will fall apart? Sure sounds like the mark of a successful relationship to me.

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          Old people are physically attracted to each other. My mom worked in a "retirement community" so it's old people that just need help it's not a nursing home. And they frick all the time. Old ladies that have taken are of themselves and are in good shape for their age are highly desired and get tons of attention.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >Old people are physically attracted to each other
            But not necessarily to their lifelong partners. You missed the point; if the tear and wear from age, which everyone goes through, is enough to ruin your relationship with your woman, then the relationship was shallow.

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          Old people are physically attracted to each other. My mom worked in a "retirement community" so it's old people that just need help it's not a nursing home. And they frick all the time. Old ladies that have taken are of themselves and are in good shape for their age are highly desired and get tons of attention.

          I will also add that I don't know who you are but I am going to assume you are a woman because a man would never say something so fricking stupid. This is the kind of thing that lazy hamplanets on Reddit say when a girl complains that their man doesn't find her attractive anymore cause she gained weight "he's only with you for your looks, what's he going to do when you get old. He shouldn't care how much of a fat lazy b***h you've become" It's completely bullshit, if you take care of yourself and stay attractive (all within the confines of normal aging, remember that he's aging too) your husband will be railing you into your 70s. 9/10 women of course won't do this and naturally he won't be interested.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            If you can't enjoy just having a conversation with your wife and you need sex to constantly be on the table then you don't love your wife. It's as simple as that.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Fatty detected. A man can absolutely love a woman for her heart and stay loyal to her even if sex isn't possible, I agree with you up to that point. But you're not just taking sex off the table when you let yourself go. You're taking all romance off the table. Do you not want the romance to be alive 20 years into your relationship?

            I am sure you, a woman, will convince yourself you understand men better than me, a man. Because that's easier than taking accountability, but what I am telling you is completely true.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >But you're not just taking sex off the table when you let yourself go. You're taking all romance off the table.
            Who said anything about letting yourself go? You're arguing a point that wasn't made. Of course both partners should maintain a weight and complexion they find respectful to one another to the best of their abilities. But the comment that sex is the "cornerstone of a successful relationship" is moronic.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            This website has gone to fricking shit since moot took away IDs. I didn't say that, that was someone else. But there's no way for you to know that.

            I agree that sex being the cornerstone of a relationship is moronic but the OP didn't say that they said physical attraction. I definitely don't think it's the cornerstone of a relationship but like I said if you don't stay attractive there is no romance. That's a big fricking problem for me but most people unfortunately settle with the romance dying after some time.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >"cornerstone of a successful relationship" is moronic.

            This website has gone to fricking shit since moot took away IDs. I didn't say that, that was someone else. But there's no way for you to know that.

            I agree that sex being the cornerstone of a relationship is moronic but the OP didn't say that they said physical attraction. I definitely don't think it's the cornerstone of a relationship but like I said if you don't stay attractive there is no romance. That's a big fricking problem for me but most people unfortunately settle with the romance dying after some time.

            >I agree that sex being the cornerstone of a relationship is moronic

            I don't understand how either of you could view sex as unimportant in a relationship as it seems you do.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Sex is the reason my ex and I broke up. Our personality's meshed really good with each other.
            But I just wasn't attracted to her anymore which ended the relationship sex is a pretty big deal in a relationship if you're a normal person. I'd say even that its a big cornerstone of a successful relationship.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            It's important, but if that's what your relationship is founded on above all else, then it won't last. Sexual interest between couples never lasts because women lose interest with familiarity (the average is 5 years before sex becomes a duty rather than a pleasure to them) and men lose interest as a woman ages (a younger woman will always be more attractive than an older woman for the majority of men).

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >Sexual interest between couples never lasts because women lose interest with familiarity (the average is 5 years before sex becomes a duty rather than a pleasure to them)
            That sounds awful.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            What happens when she lose interest in sex at year one?
            I'm 35 yo, and it has been 2 years since I married, that last time we had sex was a year a go.
            Needless to say I'm sexually frustrated.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            That sounds awful. Is she at least pleasant and nice otherwise?

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >Fatty detected.
            Cope. You know nothing or the sort.

  18. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Leave her immediately, you should never stay with a chick you find ugly

  19. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    shes mexican huh?

    the most shapeless fatties on earth

  20. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I was in a similar situation. Really nice GF but she was on her way to become a fat frick. I framed it as I want to change myself, go to the gym. She saw me lose 15kg, she got scared that I would leave and became a cardio bunny. Now we're both in good shape and life is good. Try to make her go to the gym before giving up. You may be surprised by the result.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Precisely how it should be done. This is also a good way to gauge how much a girl is into you.

  21. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Whats up with NSFFW dudes and settling for fat girls lol

  22. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >she is built like a fridge.
    Then why did you ask her out you fricking moron

  23. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >everyone on this board tells you to lower your standards
    >if you do suddenly everyone tells you to break up with her
    This board is full of complete fricking idiots. OP if you can't do any better just stay with her. These fricking homosexuals telling you to leave her are probably just bitter incels who delude themselves into thinking a 9/10 Stacy is just around the corner waiting for them. Let me tell you that it's rare to find a woman with a decent personality, and it gets even rarer the prettier she is. If you like her then I don't see any reason to break it off just because she's fat. Like 75% of women are fat now. I'm sorry but that's just the world we live in. In all honesty you probably CAN'T do any better. If you think I'm wrong then break up with her immediately because obviously you don't want to date a fat chick unless you have to but otherwise just stay with her until you get bored or another girl comes along.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Nice lack of abundance you homosexual, its no surprise you hsng onto any crumb of pussy you can get. OP don't listen to this idiot, he coping by trying to spin you as the bad guy for not being attracted to a woman physically. Humans work very strongly off physical attraction and considering women exist en masse, I can assure you that you can find a thinner in shape woman who still has the personality you adore. Listening to morons like this is how you end up marrying your high school girlfriend with absolutely no experience in other women and then wonder why you're burnt out by age 35.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        >This board is full of complete fricking idiots.
        If he's not physically attracted to her he'll show it and she'll wonder why they don't have sex often.
        It'll straight up blow up in his face the longer the relationship goes on.
        Just because you think getting a chick is hard doesn't mean you should settle in an unhealthy relationship that doesn't satisfy you.
        Encouraging him to spend more time in an unhealthy/toxic relationship fearing he can't get anything better is what a beta would do.

        Seethe more homosexuals. I'm just trying to be realistic like you fricking Black folk always say. Don't get mad at me just because I'm not blowing smoke up OP's ass like you.

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          Automatically thinks I'm seething or mad when my post shows no sign of anger.
          I see not only are you a pussy beta but you're also heavily autistic. Get fricked homosexual.
          Have fun dating gorlok the destroyer because of her personality and your fear of being alone.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            The absolute seethe

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >buzzwords

            Atleast try homosexual, you tried to peddle your Gorlock love and got shat on. Back it up gay, show me how I'm wrong.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >This board is full of complete fricking idiots.
      If he's not physically attracted to her he'll show it and she'll wonder why they don't have sex often.
      It'll straight up blow up in his face the longer the relationship goes on.
      Just because you think getting a chick is hard doesn't mean you should settle in an unhealthy relationship that doesn't satisfy you.
      Encouraging him to spend more time in an unhealthy/toxic relationship fearing he can't get anything better is what a beta would do.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Breaking up is for her sake, not his. The longer he keeps up a romanceless relationship the more it's gonna blow up in his face when he finally does leave. OP's only options are to get her to hit the gym or leave, cause settling does not end well in any capacity.
      Well, I guess the secret third option is to get rock hard for fat girls, but unsurprisingly no one here's suggested he change his tastes.

  24. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Physical attraction is key to a healthy relationship.
    I was in the same boat as you. We got along great shared the same interests we were compatible in everyway just not sexually.
    She kept asking me why we didn't have sex much and broke down multiple times over it.
    In the end I just wasn't physically attracted to her anymore. If you stay on this path your just wasting time, you'll never get back.
    I'd try to help her lose weight or just end the relationship.

  25. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >> not physically attracted

    Then why did you progress beyond the first date? If you like her personality but aren't sexually attracted, you've got a platonic friend.

    Wtf is wrong with you

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      sometimes you try to convince yourself they're attractive and sexy, i did it for a couple months before realizing it would never happen

  26. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Dump her. Cut your losses asap, you're still at an early stage where the amount of damage to both of you will be minimal. If you love her personality now but not her looks you'll soon start to resent her and fall out of love.

    I myself am looking for the right girl in personality and ideally I'd want her to be a 7/10 in looks, just good looking enough to not be an attention prostitute on the internet, and preferably autistic.

    With this in mind, in the meantime while I don't find this ideal girl I'm going out on dates with what I can find to have some fun, and from what I observed is that I can tolerate an uninteresting woman if she's hot, but not the opposite. We like to think of ourselves as fully rational but biology plays a big part on our lives and tastes, you can't run away from it and the sooner you accept the better.

  27. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    is she a slampig or just curvy with sandglass body, if the latter you're unironically a homosexual and should commit unalive asap

  28. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I wish I had such a problem.

  29. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I don't want to sound like the village elder, but back in my day, fat chicks had a reputation (well deserved?) of giving ungodly fantastic mind blowing BJs. So if she's draining you once, twice a day like a goddess, what do you care how fat she is, she could have three eyes and one leg as long as she sucks like a vacuum cleaner and swallows.
    The other advice is I've been around a long time and I GUARANTEE if you continue and merge your lifestyles you two will look the same in about two years, either she's getting thin from good food and exercise or you are getting fat because of the opposite, so in a sense this is a very short term problem, soon you'll both have the same level of body fat, one way or another, so stop stressing and enjoy your time together.
    IF god help me you try to thin her down, THEN frame it as "healthy mother of our children and safe pregnancy" for gods sake do not sell it as you only want it because you daydream about doing anal to petite chicks.

  30. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Yeah I've been in this situation a few times. Not dating mind you, but in college there would be unattractive women who would show interest in me. I'm sure many men would have taken them up on it, which is fine, frankly I think men who want to date should just lower their standards as much as possible so that they're actually in a power advantage. But if you are a single man and an unattractive woman is the best you can get and you still don't want her, the reality is you just don't wanna date. Which is fine, focus on other stuff, that's what I did and now I'm fairly rich.

  31. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Similar situation couple years ago.
    >HS girl who had crush on me shows interest
    >decide to ask her out around 10th grade
    >stay together till freshman of college
    >by that point she had went from skinny alt girl to overweight alt girl

    Crazy how much it changed my attraction to her. Wasn't even a little chubby which is fine, full on ham beast mode. Which is sad because she was a very nice girl, solid personality too. I actually tried to promote the gym. She already ate well but clearly wasn't telling me the full picture. No way was she doing cardio (biking), walks n shit, and still gaining weight. So gauge it out for sure, try to promote gym and stuff, but if they don't follow just cut it off. Not worth the suffering you and her will both have in the relationship.

    Most anons answering have said something similar but I was wondering if any have actually just straight up told their gf/ex about the weight gain. Doubt it would work out though.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >She already ate well but clearly wasn't telling me the full picture.
      This is the shit you have to watch out for. Sometimes women use kind personalities to escape accountability, hoping their partner will overlook the festering pit of bad habits if they just keep showing love and support. Which is always bad, because it means they don't even care enough about themselves to make an actual effort.

  32. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Is OP pic your woman?

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