Only attracted to older women

I’m 26 and I find myself only being able to imagine myself with a late 30s-40s woman. Young women I’ve been with have too many problems and I find it extremely unattractive.

I seriously think I want to be with an older lady but I don’t know how feasible that is. Also is there something psychologically wrong with me?

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  1. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Definitely feasible. They're all over, and they're usually overlooked by men. Around that age, a lot of women start to not worry about money anymore and instead shift to caring about beauty. So if you're good looking or at least in good shape, big plus.

    Just set your age range on one of the apps.

    Psychologically? Maybe. How's your relationship with your mother? Lol

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      My relationship with my mother has always been perfect. She’s my best friend. My father was abusive and I found solace in being with my mother. Which probably has something to do with my sexual interest in older women.
      It’s not a weird mommy son dynamic though. It’s a perfectly normal heterosexual desire to dominate and be the man in the relationship. I can’t stand mommy fetish shit.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        >My father was abusive and I found solace in being with my mother

        Bingo. See? I called it:

        >Also is there something psychologically wrong with me?
        No. When discussing matters like this in psychology, the term ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ isn’t useful. It simply is what it is. Whether or not having a MILF/older woman fixation is a problem is for you to judge if it gets in the way of your enjoyment of life.

        There is a psychological explanation for it anyway. Which personally I believe is true since it resonates with me, as an older woman lover too, like you OP.

        Father issues is what causes it. Despite the logical assumption of mommy issues, it is actually father issues at work. Most men with strong preference for older women typically have troubled relationships with their fathers. Whether it’s abusive dad, absentee dad, emotionally negligent dad, or genuinely decent dad who was too busy to connect with his son due to being overworked. Same result. The child ends up without a strong male role model in some way.

        So, he gets it from mom. He overdepends on mom’s love or approval. He grows up learning that women of seniority or authority are the only females that are safe. So the kid now an adult will feel safest sexually with older women too.

        >Father issues is what causes it. Despite the logical assumption of mommy issues, it is actually father issues at work.

        Yeah, so basically that lack of a father figure created a void in you. One that says “Low self-esteem”, “self-doubt”. Lacking father figures causes immense self esteem issues in children. No secure and trustable father = children don’t feel safe and secure = they grow up internalising this feeling of non-safety. They become insecure.

        And when children feel insecure, or hurt themselves, they run to mommy. They can kiss it all better. Well as an adult, this same thing is at play. They feel lonely, and wish for romance or sexual validation? They run to the stand-in for mom, an older woman.

        This does NOT mean incest. Nor does it mean you have any sexual desires for momcest or your own mother. It is simply a fact of life that all of us, men and women, dysfunctional or ‘normal’, we all subconsciously search for traits in our partners that we considered familiar or ‘safe’. Everyone does this. And it is logical. This is how humans learn about love first, by watching their parents as children. They are the first couple we ever set our eyes on. Our mothers are the first women we ever meet. That’s reality.

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          im

          yeah im married to a 49 year old and im 23
          its possible

          apologies if you are that guy from atoga yesterday lmao

          and this completely describes my situation
          its kinda like a blessing though because older women are easy mode

  2. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I won't read non-problem threads because no problem.

  3. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >Also is there something psychologically wrong with me?
    No. When discussing matters like this in psychology, the term ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ isn’t useful. It simply is what it is. Whether or not having a MILF/older woman fixation is a problem is for you to judge if it gets in the way of your enjoyment of life.

    There is a psychological explanation for it anyway. Which personally I believe is true since it resonates with me, as an older woman lover too, like you OP.

    Father issues is what causes it. Despite the logical assumption of mommy issues, it is actually father issues at work. Most men with strong preference for older women typically have troubled relationships with their fathers. Whether it’s abusive dad, absentee dad, emotionally negligent dad, or genuinely decent dad who was too busy to connect with his son due to being overworked. Same result. The child ends up without a strong male role model in some way.

    So, he gets it from mom. He overdepends on mom’s love or approval. He grows up learning that women of seniority or authority are the only females that are safe. So the kid now an adult will feel safest sexually with older women too.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      What is the age gap between you and your woman? Does your relationship work?

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        >What is the age gap between you and your woman? Does your relationship work?
        My wife, She is only 3 years older. We are both early 30’s. The relationship works amazingly well. She is very much ‘motherly’, very disciplined yet gentle, stern yet sweet.

        Though I do not wish for her to act as motherly to me. For our children only. I no longer seek much older women because I realised that getting a gf my own age = im preordering a MILF lol. She will mature in time, she will become older along with me. And as a result, she won’t have to worry about me her husband growing unattracted to her. She will be getting romanced and plowed well into her 60’s from me. So in the end, it all works out.

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          3 years is not bad and you’re right, she should be a motherly figure for your children. You got more than two?

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Ain’t knocked her up yet. If you can believe it she wants me to kick the nicotine first before she’ll let me shove a bun in the oven. Which cracks me up because there she is right there, chiding me like a mother, like i can’t have my dessert unless I eat my broccoli first lmao.
            She is right though, nicotine can frick up sperm count. I’m working on that atm. Wish me luck boys.

            It's an interesting perspective.

            For some, and for me, the appeal of older women linked to their developed personalities, emotional maturity, and stability.

            >the appeal of older women linked to their developed personalities, emotional maturity, and stability.
            Like that of a mother figure, eh?

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Man, I got 3 in last 6 years, my mrs is 5 years older than me. Best feeling of my life when I got my firstborn. Highly recommend but you gotta work fast with cigarettes if you want to knock her up. Think she’s gonna be a good mother?

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Congrats man, good health and blessing to you and your kids.

            I know for a fact she’s going to be a great mother, yeah. She’s demonstrated her instinct for it remarkably well. Fawning over other people’s babies, pampering cute little animals, turning to jelly over anything small and adorable. Very good cook and enjoys nesting at home, decorating the home and making home feel like home.

            She had mother issues herself. So she has a stronger pull towards men than women. While I am younger, I act older than my age. Part of the perks from surviving childhood abuse, it gives out wisdom.

            Both me and her work through our respective issues, mine with my father issues, her with her mother. So it’s all going well. We’re both wide awake and ready to face any tricky generational trauma cycles from cropping up, lest history repeats itself.

            How you enjoying fatherhood? I am excited for it and terrified of being a dad. Since yknow, father issues with me. I fear of repeating my father’s mistakes. Is it similar with you?

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            All is good now, but first time was hellish, we both didn’t know how to raise a human lol. Prepare to be tired all the time and to give your wife as much help as you can. She’s gonna be exhausted and the changes in her body will make her prone to depression.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            did you have sex while she was pregnant?
            id love to see my wife pregnant

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            I dont think I can be prepared for it lol. But I can make peace with that. Took me a minute but I learned that the best things in life that really count are the shit that has a bit of sacrifice and pain to pay first. That’s about as prepared as I can get.

            Thanks for the insight anon. I’ll take any of those i can get

    • 3 weeks ago
      ozymandias

      It's an interesting perspective.

      For some, and for me, the appeal of older women linked to their developed personalities, emotional maturity, and stability.

  4. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    yeah im married to a 49 year old and im 23
    its possible

    apologies if you are that guy from atoga yesterday lmao

  5. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    seek therapy.
    i had a co-worker who was into older wmn and the dude had so many other issues wrong with him.
    being attracted to older wmn is a warning light on your dashboard.
    good luck to you.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      What exactly are those issues? I think I look after myself pretty well I’m just a bit depressed and burned out most the time

  6. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    you are fell for a psyop. why would you want an older women way past her prime?

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