>september. >gf convinces me to go to a drag show. >much more interactive than I thought

>september
>gf convinces me to go to a drag show
>much more interactive than I thought
>drag queen slaps my ass during performance
>everyone laughs including gf
>too surprised to determine course of action, stand there stunned rest of show
>gf teases me about it later
>get into argument about it - I feel violated, she thinks it was all in good fun and doesn't want me to ruin it for her
>she brings up this event in every argument as an example of me overreacting
>follows that particular drag queen on instagram because he's her "favourite"

Here is the advice I'm after:
I feel like if she didn't keep bringing it up I'd be able to forget about it and get over it, but because she brings it up in almost every argument we have, I am constantly reminded that I let a homosexual touch me like that, did nothing about it, and was laughed at by a crowd of people among which was my girlfriend. I've asked her to stop revisiting the topic but she won't. How can I get her to stop? I think she views me as less of a man because of it and is daring me to do something about it (especially since the guy is apparently her favourite drag queen ever since it happened), but I'm not sure what.

How do I get her to see my POV? I pointed out that if some guy slapped her ass like that and was laughed at, she'd feel objectified and would probably cry. She agreed with this assessment but thinks it's different because I'm a guy and it was "just" a gay guy.

How do I get over this? Like I said, I don't think I'd care this much normally but because I'm reminded of it every so often, I can't escape the feeling of shame and anger for letting it happen. I feel like less of a man for it. How do I shrug it off?

She's also pissed because I won't go to more drag shows with her and thinks I'm being controlling, even though I'm happy for her to frick off and go by herself, but that's just me venting.

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  1. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    >>gf convinces me to go to a drag show
    Lmao my gf invited me as well but I wasn't moronic enough to go.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      I've always thought drag queens were sex pests but figured since I've never met one irl that it might just be /misc/ rotting my brain. Obviously I know better now.

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        >*goes to a drag show to own da chuds*
        Well, you sure showed them didn't ya?

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        >Obviously I know better now.
        You knew better before

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      You went to a drag show?
      With a woman?
      Am I going crazy?
      I have spent enough time here to know men here would rather kill themself than feed lgbtq movements
      Damn, your woman truly whipped your ass, literally

      I went and the girls were cute and the guy was a YouTuber the girl I went with wanted to see. I'm Asian she's white and she kept saying we're related and kept kissing me. Great time.

  2. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    >gf convinces me to go to a drag show
    stopped reading, kys and name her in the note

  3. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Idk man it sounds to me like your gf doesn't like or respect you, enjoyed seeing you humiliated and enjoys revisiting that. Even made the drag queen her hero for humiliating you.

    Also why'd you even go to a gay party if you don't like gays? Are you dumb or something?

  4. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    It's so gay to get traumatized from a cheeky spank by a drag queen.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      It's actually straight to not like getting spanked by another dude

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        some might disagree

  5. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    so the meme is you're with a woman you don't get along with

  6. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Your gf values an actual homosexual in woman's clothing more than you, her supposed bf, fighting you over her kink for absolute degeneracy every chance she gets. She may be your significant other but you are not hers, and she is far from wife material. Gather your things, leave her citing a lack of respect for you and your boundaries, block all forms of communication from her, and never look back. Pick up the hobbies you've put on the back burner for her and start being happy again rather than a cuck. You'll thank me in a year or two if you actually take this advice.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      This, don't put up with her bullshit because it'll only keep getting worse. Get the frick away from her and spend some time getting back into the things you like, if you stay and keep putting up with this shit you'll only become a miserable bastard who fantasizes about fellatiating a shotgun.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      OP I think this may be the way. Seeing how she has a lack of empathy, hypocritical, and is trying to push you to do stuff you don't want to do is frick shit. If it is showing itself now I can only imagine it will only get worse not better.

      I would sit her down and tell her what you told us. If she doesn't respect your feelings then cut the b***h off. Not worth the future headaches.

  7. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Being realistic here getting slapped on the ass in this context with everyone finding it to be a riot isn’t them laughing at you but with you assuming you’re someone who has a sense of humor and maybe they’re assuming you know the score at shows like that already. This should be enough for you to patch up the ol’ ego and move on even if you just never like those shows. But really this is just unrealistic masculinity surfacing in you what some might call toxic masculinity. It was a funny slap on your ass in a space where people are having fun. Now sure you can still complain about your boundaries and maybe your girlfriend could accept that some people don’t want their asses slapped in pretty much all contexts but I don’t think anyone at all was out to get you, to make you feel small, etc. and it’s mostly you doing that to yourself because of some unhelpful things you believe about yourself or about men. Truth is you two might never see this the same way but I actually lean more towards her side with this

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      >ting slapped on the ass in this context with everyone finding it to be a riot isn’t them laughing at you but with you assuming you’re someone who has a sense of humor and maybe they’re assuming you know the score at shows like that already
      you sure its not the predatory nature of these circles?

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        Most people would assume you're okay with it if you went there. It'd be like going to an orgy and getting offended that someone started sucking your wiener. It's normal in that environment, which you willingly attended. Why did you attend if you don't like it? Makes no sense.

        For example, I would never go to a drag show because drag queens creep me out and I don't like gay shit. I would run far, far away. OP willingly attended and, surprise, a gay grabbed his ass. Who could have seen that coming? homosexualry at a gay event? How crazy!

        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous

          you have to turn it on, it can't be a psyop because psyops are dynamic not temperate

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        I don’t believe in that woowoo so it doesn’t come to mind. I definitely agree that if it’s common for people to get touchy at these events that it would be best practice to inform the attendees at least. If not do away with that altogether without developing a policy of strict consent. All the performer had to do here to cover all bases was ask if the ass could be slapped

        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous

          >I don’t believe in that woowoo
          its not a matter of belief anon

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >I think she views me as less of a man because of it

      It's not because you got spanked by a gay, it's because you let yourself get so worked up over something so trivial. absolutely has the right take here. I think the real question to ask is why are you two having so many arguments??

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >you HAVE to like getting touched on the ass because its a joke XD

  8. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    You went to a drag show?
    With a woman?
    Am I going crazy?
    I have spent enough time here to know men here would rather kill themself than feed lgbtq movements
    Damn, your woman truly whipped your ass, literally

  9. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    >convinces me to go to a drag show
    stopped reading. break up. its hopeless.

  10. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    You have one option, face him in a Hell in a Cell

  11. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    >follows that particular drag queen on instagram because he's her "favourite"

    Your girlfriend sounds fricking awful. Why is she so interested in drag queens? Normal women care about makeup and gossiping with their friends or some shit.

    Dump her and get a new girlfriend. It's not that hard.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Drag queens are really popular with women these days. No idea why. Most women I know like drag queens and watch them, at least on tv but some do IRL too. I fricking hate it.

  12. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    If you were a woman everyone would recognize that for what it is, sexual assault. It’s unfortunate that the world doesn’t take sexual assault against men seriously but you can’t change society. Talk with your girlfriend about it and if she won’t take it seriously then she doesn’t respect your feelings and personal security and you should leave.

  13. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    PSY

  14. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    You’re both degenerate libturds so I honestly don’t care lol

  15. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Holy shit leave that GF now. Wtf are you doing OP? You are NOT gonna convince someone like that to see things your way; she doesn't care. To her, you are a tool to use. Based on your description you are NOT controlling. She is actually gaslighting you. I know everyone says "that's gaslighting" about everything, but what she's doing to you is the definition of gaslighting. GET OUTTA THERE homie

  16. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    flirt with a girl in front of your gf and slap the other girl's ass right then and there and see what she says. your gf sounds moronic and like an butthole imo

  17. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    also aren't those just filled with literal homosexuals? like they don't even pass, so what's the point? If you wanted to see ugly mannish crossdressers you could do that dumb shit with your friends.

    I'd go to a trap show though no homo

  18. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Why are you dating someone who goes to drag shows? I'm not a /misc/tard either but I think everyone with a brain gets creeped out by that moronic shit. The world isnt divided into Nazis and SJWs. Face reality and accept thst you are dating who doesn't respect you or share your values.

  19. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    If I were you I'd leave her. You exposed yourself as a giant baby b***h boy so insecure in your own sexuality and masculinity that a drag queen touching your butt cheeks sent you on an emotional roller coaster. There's no way she's going to take you seriously after that kind of pathetic, beta display. Its like you let her watch you shit your pants while you sucked on a bottle and cried. Every time she looks at you she'll see that image. Break up. Run away from your shame, OP. Its your only option.

  20. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    You're a huge pussy

  21. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I went to a gay bar once and had short drunk man walk by and tickle my butthole, obviously I was caught off guard but didn't really give a shit, a super fine chick took me home with her later that night. Who gives af.

  22. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    make out with a lesbian to get back at her

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