sex question

I notice that me and boyfriend almost always have sex the same way, on his bed in the spooning position. At some point I just assumed that he would eventually encourage us to try more positions since he's the more experienced one and I was inexperienced before him, but could it be that he actually wants to do it in this position every time? Idk, I just assumed that since he's more experienced he would be trying all sorts of positions with me. but insted the sex is very routine, and always the same basically.

I do want to ask him why, but I'm curious to hear some insight first what other people might think this means. Does he consider me vanilla and that's why he sticks to this same position always, instead of introducing me to new things when it comes to sex?

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  1. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Idk how about you ask him instead?

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      This
      Women be like "why isn't he more into me" but refuse to take a single ounce of initiative like sucking dick better or wearing lingerie

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        When I go to McDonalds I only ever order the same thing every single time big mac trio with a coke, same with whatever chinese food places I always stick with the one thing I like and forever order that.
        Then again I have autism.

        And also even with sex I have my one favorite position/location as well but when I was with inexperienced girls (twice, girls were almost always more experienced than me) I'd also try to introduce new things/positions/places

        but like I said some people are happy to forever just get the #3 combo every single time and couldn't care less what might be going on in 1-2 and 4-onwards.

        >wearing lingerie
        that's kinda gay though, as a man, to be all excited that your girlfriend is wearing very pretty expensive underwear made with delicate materials woven into ornate patterns~

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          >I'd also try to introduce new things/positions/places
          What would make you not do this with a new (also inexperienced) gf?

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Like I said, it's probably just that autism of finding that seemingly perfect sex position and having those blinders on to anything else.

            Also I guess
            >missionary is exhausting for most guys with all the core/upper body strength needed to "plank" over a girl the whole time
            >I love when girls are on top but some guys might not like that because they don't control the rhythm and/or they might be scared their dick accidentally get snapped in half
            >doggy style can be very awkward if the girl doesn't rotate her hips right and the guy's dick bends funny or whatever and not everyone wants a front row seat to stare at a girl's butthole the entire time
            >lifting a girl by her ass and having sex with her wrapped around you is also a feat of strength
            >sex with the girl on a desk, table, countertop etc places a lot of trust in the furniture and that it won't break.

            and some dudes just may not be able to get hard for/in certain positions.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            that makes sense, I guess I was letting my insecurity take over since I was insecure that we are a "boring" couple for this and maybe it even means he doesn't find me hot. but truthfully i really like this spooning position that we do as well, but I guess it wouldn't hurt to ask him about this.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          >that's kinda gay though, as a man, to be all excited that your girlfriend is wearing very pretty expensive underwear made with delicate materials woven into ornate patterns~
          Right, it's gay to be stimulated by clothing that's specifically made to heighten arousal by highlighting the most attractive parts of a woman's body
          YOU homosexual

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      I want to ask him, guess I just feel scared and wanted to vent/ask for advice.

      This
      Women be like "why isn't he more into me" but refuse to take a single ounce of initiative like sucking dick better or wearing lingerie

      I didn't ask that though, I was more curious about why he doesn't seem to want to do anything else in bed even if he's the experienced one.

  2. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Tell him he's boring in bed.

  3. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    What is a “sex”?

  4. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >he would be trying all sorts of positions
    why? he's tried all those other positions with other women before he met you, why should he feel the urge to go through all that again?

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      I mean that's possible, in that case should I just ask him he wants to try x or y?
      The thing is that I'm not really sure what I like in bed since I don't have that much experience. So I'd be just shooting in the dark when in reality I want to introduce myself to other things that he likes but hasn't tried with me. Not just completely random things I'm not sure he would like.

      Maybe he feels most comfortable in that position, lacks confidence in other positions or finishes too quickly or something. You'll just have to have an open talk with him. Also, try to spice things up yourself, you're allowed to suggest new positions or take the lead.

      at one point he started to finish a lot more quickly than before, and it stayed that way, but I don't really mind it since I guess I take it as a confidence boost lol.
      another issue is just that I'm not really sure what I would like.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        >The thing is that I'm not really sure what I like in bed since I don't have that much experience.
        Then you'll have to experiment, like we all had to. Trying one new position each time is an easy and fun way to start.
        >at one point he started to finish a lot more quickly than before, and it stayed that way, but I don't really mind it
        He may be self-conscious about this, which leads him to play it safe.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          oh, that's possible too. maybe I should also mention that he's gained weight and he's possibly insecure about that. in case insecurity is a reason to this, how can I make him less insecure ? I already do things like compliment him but I'm wondering more about sex related stuff.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >he's gained weight
            This is probably deeply implicated in his decision.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            well if you were in that situation (if we assume this is the "real issue"), and your gf wanted to improve your confidence and do more different things (sometimes) during sex, what should she do to make the situation better?

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Ask me instead of a bunch of randos on a basque pachinko board.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            I'm just really bad at this stuff, ideas are appreciated

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            How about you go be stupid someplace else.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Don't be a c**t. Just admit it if don't have good advice on this aspect.

            I'm just really bad at this stuff, ideas are appreciated

            I fund that I can last longer, and she can come better, when she's sitting on me, facing me, with me sitting up. Like she's sitting in my lap and we're hugging, but with simultaneous PIV. Maybe suggest/try that position.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >fund
            *find
            I should also elaborate on the position/mechanics: I basically sit still while she grinds/swirls, not pumping up and down. The lack of movement by me, and the lack of in-out pumping, helps me last longer. She really enjoys it too.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            He may be insecure about his weight or other things, so again, communication is key. As for the sexual side of it,

            Like I said, it's probably just that autism of finding that seemingly perfect sex position and having those blinders on to anything else.

            Also I guess
            >missionary is exhausting for most guys with all the core/upper body strength needed to "plank" over a girl the whole time
            >I love when girls are on top but some guys might not like that because they don't control the rhythm and/or they might be scared their dick accidentally get snapped in half
            >doggy style can be very awkward if the girl doesn't rotate her hips right and the guy's dick bends funny or whatever and not everyone wants a front row seat to stare at a girl's butthole the entire time
            >lifting a girl by her ass and having sex with her wrapped around you is also a feat of strength
            >sex with the girl on a desk, table, countertop etc places a lot of trust in the furniture and that it won't break.

            and some dudes just may not be able to get hard for/in certain positions.

            this anon has some good points about positions from a male perspective. I'd also add that surprises go a long way, as do well-timed, flirty messages/comments in the lead up to sex. Show him you want to be sexually expressive and let him know he can be comfortable with you.

  5. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    That your lover has had gay sex before doesn't mean he's tried many positions, it doesn't mean he's adventurous and it doesn't even necessarily mean he knows what he's doing.

    If you want to try other positions, you have to communicate that.

    >> Inb4 "I'm female"

    Everyone on NSFFW is male.

  6. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    well I'm going to bed now but thanks for advice, anons

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Oh.

  7. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    This seems like an unusually not moronic thread ...

    1. If he's wearing a condom sex becomes boring

    2. If he's circumcised then he's missing 80% of the nerves in his dick and sex is probably boring

    3. If you're emotionally fragile or sensitive or mentally damaged in some way then he's probably just playing it safe and waiting for you to take the initiative

    4. If you're a narcissist then sex is going to be boring with you

    5. Can you show interest in his dick/balls?

    6. He may not be as experienced as he claims. It's common for men to lie about sexual experience because women judge men for low body counts.

  8. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Spooning sex is very comfy for both parties; it's probably his favourite and in with you not saying you want anything to change, he has no reason to change. Ask him to mix it up.

  9. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Open up the verbal dialogue about sex, you are in a relationship, so talk about what you want or would be interested in or just take it into your own hands and switch it up during.. it sounds to me like you’re just waiting on him to initiate so he does what he’s comfortable doing.

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