Sexless marriage

My wife doesn't want to be intimate with me often since we are married.
Now she is angry at me because I complained about it. What should I do?

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  1. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Once they start to go down this path it’s unlikely to reverse, sorry to say but cut your losses and divorce.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      This miserable, incel moron doesn't know what he's talking about

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        >t.doesn't know what he's talking about
        go spout off some more buzzwords I'm sure you'll get some "updoots" here

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Not true.
      See

      Real advice.
      Don't get hung up on her. Start reinventing yourself. For you.
      I'm not saying cheat or anything. What I am saying:
      If you focus on her and start hanging off her and expecting things of her, and complaining and whining, you're gonna drive her away. She's already probably feeling some relationship malaise. You MUST give space in this situation. It is a gripping sand too tight situation. I can guarantee you 100% this is fact.

      -getting your own life together without her approval seeking has a high chance if spurring some attraction In her, maybe even a bit of jealousy and possessiveness, always a great way to get someone to crawl back.. and worst case scenario if it turns out she's just done with you, you're already halfway back to recovery instead of the blindsiding situation of being out on your ass suddenly AND having no identity friends anywhere to go or anything to do.

      They mostly do this because dudes then start suffocating them. It doesn't help the situation if she's in a slump, especially if it had nothing to do with him in the first place. Makes you look weak whiney and dependant.
      Dudes by and large tend not to just take a step back and worry about themselves for a bit.
      Then women get all worried like they're not good enough.

  2. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Just establish the rape rules. My wife has no sex drive, so we established an open window where I just have sex with her. Exceptions are if she has a bad day, is sick, and anal only quarterly.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >the rape rules
      The what now?
      I thought there's no rape between married couples?

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Yes, but if your wife is sad or has a cold it would be distasteful to dump a load in her unless it's been a few too many days without.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      That's just a free use agreement
      >and anal only quarterly.
      kekked & based

  3. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    If your wife gets mad about you bringing up shit you are concerned about you are on a downward spiral. What did you say exactly?

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >What did you say exactly?
      "Honey, There's something I want to discuss with you. It's been 6 months since the last time we had sex, and I don't like this"

      This story needs more details for us to give any semblance of informed advice. Women stopping to give sex is not some magical given thing.

      Well, we were having some fights and after a while we didn't have sex anymore.
      Most of our fights are sex related, since she only want to do it in missionary position, and if I demand to change she would stop the sex.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        >"Honey, There's something I want to discuss with you. It's been 6 months since the last time we had sex, and I don't like this"
        If she got mad at this, it's over man.

  4. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    This story needs more details for us to give any semblance of informed advice. Women stopping to give sex is not some magical given thing.

  5. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Ask why she doesn’t want to be intimate without immediately complaining

  6. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    [...]

    We've been married for 2 years now
    No children well because there's no sex.

  7. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    [...]

    If she's not putting out for fun then OP doesn't want children because they make the inevitable divorce much messier.

  8. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Is she on hormonal birth control? If so, the hormones are probably turning off her horny signals as her body thinks it's already pregnant and doesn't need a mate.

    Many things men do are supremely unsexy. Make sure you think closely about what she does get turned on by and respond to, and ONLY do those things.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >Is she on hormonal birth control?
      No, she made it clear she doesn't want anything that mess with her hormones.

      you really should have addressed this as soon as you recognized it was a problem, not waited 6 months.
      what you need to do is tell her why you dislike the situation, directly and without any implications. you need to explain that her reluctance to have sex makes you feel unwanted and that this actively harms your relationship. don't coerce her or make it seem like she is the singular cause of the problem. make the conversation as much of a good-faith effort as you can. with luck she will respond to that.
      if she doesn't get it, then she's an idiot, doesn't love you, or is getting her action in on the side.

      >tell her why you dislike the situation, directly and without any implications
      Yeah, I sat with her in nice restaurant, told her about this situation.
      She would answer what you want to hear at that moment, then fail to do what she said.
      And blame me for being to rough or well endowed and that hurt her and she need some time to heal.

      Do you tell her how hot she is and flirt with her? You b***hing about not being serviced is not the way

      >Do you tell her how hot she is and flirt with her
      We go out on dates every week end, comment on how she look like drop dead gorgeous.
      At least spend an hour each day of quality time, and cuddle together every night.
      Am I doing something wrong?

      https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oyDBtEm3HS8

      https://www.girlschase.com/content/sex-drive-compatibility-drive-collapses-relationship-sex-issues

      Thanks.

      Real advice.
      Don't get hung up on her. Start reinventing yourself. For you.
      I'm not saying cheat or anything. What I am saying:
      If you focus on her and start hanging off her and expecting things of her, and complaining and whining, you're gonna drive her away. She's already probably feeling some relationship malaise. You MUST give space in this situation. It is a gripping sand too tight situation. I can guarantee you 100% this is fact.

      -getting your own life together without her approval seeking has a high chance if spurring some attraction In her, maybe even a bit of jealousy and possessiveness, always a great way to get someone to crawl back.. and worst case scenario if it turns out she's just done with you, you're already halfway back to recovery instead of the blindsiding situation of being out on your ass suddenly AND having no identity friends anywhere to go or anything to do.

      >Start reinventing yourself
      I've start doing this.

      Cheat

      I have for years

      It’s amazing

      At this point I've started to see the appeal of femboys

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Just remember anon, the "with you" is always silent when women talk about why they won't do ____. Is she constantly glued to her phone? I recommend that you just have her served papers and move on with your life. Seems to me that you're putting in the effort, and she is not willing to do the same. Just calmly tell her that you're considering divorce, being that she won't have sex with you.

        Before that, make sure that she has ZERO access to your money, or your assets. Remember, you're the prize, she's an accessory.

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          This

          Also, all the guys in here that are telling you to work on yourself, and she will want you more don’t understand women whatsoever, and are giving you the worst advice you will ever hear.

          You need to either get a side girlfriend, or divorce her, or both.

          But for the love of god don’t ever think that some entitled dumb selfish newlywed wife who only cares about her end is worth putting in 110% for. That’s a great way to end up wanting to put a gun in your mouth. Instead start telling yourself that you have self worth, and you deserve better then this, and find someone who will give you love the way a man is suppose to be shown love in a marriage or relationship

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >Make sure you think closely about what she does get turned on by and respond to, and ONLY do those things.
      Overly worrying and strategizing like this is also highly unsexy. On top of that, makes you more vulnerable for manipulation where she can mold your behavior using sex as a carrot.
      I myself prefer the method of just not giving a frick about what the gf thinks at all and if she eventually starts acting funny not putting out I just get it elsewhere and end things with her, not sure about the ordering of those.

      >What did you say exactly?
      "Honey, There's something I want to discuss with you. It's been 6 months since the last time we had sex, and I don't like this"
      [...]
      Well, we were having some fights and after a while we didn't have sex anymore.
      Most of our fights are sex related, since she only want to do it in missionary position, and if I demand to change she would stop the sex.

      6 months? wtf
      I keep hearing stories like those and make me want not marry at all. Living with someone 24/7 by itself already sounds like a nightmare.
      Imagine other than that you don't even get some. Losing your liberty, privacy and peace of mind of being by yourself for nothing.

  9. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Start charging her rent, since she wants to just be roommates. Separate your finances asap. Also get a hold of her electronics, can guarentee you that she has someone kn the side. Document everything

  10. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    you really should have addressed this as soon as you recognized it was a problem, not waited 6 months.
    what you need to do is tell her why you dislike the situation, directly and without any implications. you need to explain that her reluctance to have sex makes you feel unwanted and that this actively harms your relationship. don't coerce her or make it seem like she is the singular cause of the problem. make the conversation as much of a good-faith effort as you can. with luck she will respond to that.
    if she doesn't get it, then she's an idiot, doesn't love you, or is getting her action in on the side.

  11. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Do you tell her how hot she is and flirt with her? You b***hing about not being serviced is not the way

  12. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    https://www.girlschase.com/content/sex-drive-compatibility-drive-collapses-relationship-sex-issues

  13. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Real advice.
    Don't get hung up on her. Start reinventing yourself. For you.
    I'm not saying cheat or anything. What I am saying:
    If you focus on her and start hanging off her and expecting things of her, and complaining and whining, you're gonna drive her away. She's already probably feeling some relationship malaise. You MUST give space in this situation. It is a gripping sand too tight situation. I can guarantee you 100% this is fact.

    -getting your own life together without her approval seeking has a high chance if spurring some attraction In her, maybe even a bit of jealousy and possessiveness, always a great way to get someone to crawl back.. and worst case scenario if it turns out she's just done with you, you're already halfway back to recovery instead of the blindsiding situation of being out on your ass suddenly AND having no identity friends anywhere to go or anything to do.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      how do you not just hate women when you read something like this? like im a normal enough guy and ive had sex and relationships but holy frick this is exactly how my ex was and its like, are all women just moronic fricking animals?

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        All people are moronic animals. Including you.
        You're just not trying to frick men or center your life around one, so it's less noticeable.

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          yeah except i am not a moronic animal when it comes to being like "hey i can through my emotions and logically assess them" and ive met almost no women who can do this or even want to do it

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            You're moronic in some way bud.
            And the fact you don't know that is a huge tell you may be more moronic than most.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            i didnt say i wasnt moronic man, i meant that the fact that women cant seem to actually sit down and honestly discuss their feelings and work towards a common goal is frustrating to me. obviously i have flaws and moronations but this specific thing bothers me

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Your ex and this one anon's assessment = all women, yep you're moronic all right.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            jesus fricking christ if your way of offering comfort and advice is being a snarky homosexual then you should probably never talk again. i get it, the foids arent all like this

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >t.moron

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      This is the only based post in this thread.

      In short, make yourself more frickable (not just "better" - women will frick men who are shitty but not men who are not-frickable). Your strategy to save the marriage and your strategy to exit the marriage are the same. Sucks you signed that piece of paper though

      And PS, your wife gets first dibs to your dick, not exclusive access

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      This 100%.

      Keep in mind if this doesnt work and she still doesnt see value in you you can just dump her ass and youre now back on the dating market as a higher value man than you were before. Its a win win.

  14. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Cheat

    I have for years

    It’s amazing

  15. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    My ex literally broke down bc we didn't have sex for like a month and to be honest I lost attraction for her and she was right to be insecure and mad.
    If she gets mad at you for trying to address a problem that could easily destroy your relationship. Then its pretty much over and she's gotten complacent and lost attraction to you. If she wont hear you out it shows how much she cares which is little she may even be cheating or about too.

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