Sexual problems at 28

>Be me, 28M
>GF is 27
>We've now dated 5 months.
>Sex was incredible the first two times, I lasted forever and she loved it.
>With rare exceptions, the sex has since been shitty and I can tell it's affected the relationship and her motivation to be with me. >We just had a conversation about this where she admitted it, but seemed optimistic about figuring it out.
>What normally happens during sex is that I lose erections or have premature ejaculation.
>Trying cialis atm but it doesnt seem to change anything.

I don't know what's going on and it's frustrating for both of us. What are your thoughts?
Thank you all.

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  1. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    She's willing to talk it out instead of just breaking up, what more do you want?

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Well, sex is imoortant to her and I'd like to be able to please her and rn I dont know what to do about this problem. Again, I either lose it or prematurely ejaculate and idk why that would be. I'm wondering if anyone can talk about such experiences and what they've done.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        dude, the female orgasm is irrelivant to sex.
        If you're cumming for her, that's good enough.
        If she's guilting you about not doing anything else that's only putting more stress on you for no fricking reason.
        A majority of women never climax from sex.

        Try having rough sex with her or something... spice it up.

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          fricking idiot

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          And then people wonder why relationships keep failing. A woman can climax more in one session than a man, if you're not making a woman cum at least once per session she will get bored and frustrated. Imagine if you had a partner that couldn't make you cum and didn't even give a shit if you did, how long would you want to stay?

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            I eat and finger the best I can, but she tells me all she really wants is penetration.

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Nta

            That doesn't address anything he said.
            Most women never have orgasms in the first place.

            Op should ask her to show him that she can make herself orgasm in the first place. Female orgasms are very based in thier own heads. How the hell is he supposed to do a thing she has the keys to, and has locked away.

  2. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Your dick can taste that old ass poon. YUCK!! You do realize they’re barely legal Filipino chicks near the mission right?

  3. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Do you watch porn and jerk off

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      A few times a week, yeah. It's not something I'm not super into, but it's like a ritual to relieve stress.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        That leads to performance issues such as you have. Porn and masturbation dull the dopamine receptors in your brain chased ED and other things

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          Can you speak from experience?

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            No I can speak from science

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Okay, I'll admit now I used to do nofap and noporn and it seemed to help my sexual abilities a bit. I've literally always had problems down there and don't know to what extent it's porn versus just my anxiety, which is general and severe. I'm not medicated due to fear of side effects, but I've been diagnosed.

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Why dont you stop jerking off and watching porn and see if it helps? Can't hurt.

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            I will. I just hope she has patience. It seems she would base on her word. I've literally been crying today hoping I dont lose her. She said I can confide in her with anything...

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Good luck man, really rooting for you

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        >yeah i have erectile dysfunction but i jerk off to porn a few times a week, i don't even really like it but i feel like i have to
        You are an addict. Make the choice between a healthy sexual relationship with your girlfriend or pornography, you can't have both.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Voice Of Reason

        Can you speak from experience?

        Okay, I'll admit now I used to do nofap and noporn and it seemed to help my sexual abilities a bit. I've literally always had problems down there and don't know to what extent it's porn versus just my anxiety, which is general and severe. I'm not medicated due to fear of side effects, but I've been diagnosed.

        STOP WATCHING PORN
        STOP JERKING OFF
        THREAD IS OVER
        DICK IS FRICK
        OVER 657,563,783,113 DEAD COOMERS

  4. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Aren't you two too old for dating?

  5. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Tongue and fingers. Also, are you a fat piece of shit? An alcoholic? A smoker? Do you do cardio (I don't mean walking, I mean running at least 20 minutes a day)? Is your diet shit?

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      I'm skinnyfat with shit diet and little exercise.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Then that's most likely your problem. Try to do some exercise every day. With doing some cardio or similar regularly you will improve your overall stamina and endurance, helping you in staying active while having sex.

  6. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Unless you have some physical problems then most likely it's a mental problem.
    From what I've read it seems that you feel that you need to satisfy her and therefore are putting yourself under stress, and that's what's causing these hickups.
    It could also be stress from work, study or relationship problems, but if not, then having sex without expectations, doing things that both you and her like and see what happens without being disappointed if it doesn't work out is definitely a better approach.

  7. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I have had the same issue but I am 33M and she's 40F. Really into her, sex was great and then one time I lost my erection when I had a stomach cramps and it has been an issue now and then. Things to do:

    - Communicate with her, let her know that you worry about it.
    - Don't keep it in your head all the time. I know it's hard not to, but that just makes it worse. Remember the times things went well and focus on those. Think about how much she enjoys it.
    - Try the pills but don't just count on them to do it. They help make it easier to get an erection but they can't solve the mental issues. You need to break that barrier. If you can get erections and are checked out then there's nothing wrong physically. It's your mind, master it.
    - If you're busy with your girl and it does fail on you, don't make it a big deal. You talked to her about it, right? Kiss her, hug her. Talk to her about some other stuff and let it rest for ten minutes. Don't immediate get dressed and abandon everything, don't try to force it. Get your mind back into the relaxed zone then slowly start up again.
    - Lastly, kick the porn and jerking off. Keep that sexual prowess for her. Starve your body of satisfaction and let it crave her.

    Good luck buddy. I'm nearly through these issues, took me about 3 months though. Don't expect it to be fixed immediately, take your time. If she likes you, she'll accept the healing process.

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