Tired of being my bfs mom

It’s actually really annoying. Like I get that I’m smart and knowledgeable but it’s like he’s too fricking lazy to use Google for literally anything.

The other thing that really bothers me about him is he has like zero natural curiosity about anything. It’s like I have to spoon feed him any information. Are most guys like this or am I just lucky or something
We’re late 20s btw

Don’t tell me to dump him but other advice is welcomed

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  1. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    stop babying him

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      If I don’t he’ll literally sit on his ass all day doing nothing

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        then... let him? idk man your guy seems happy being like this, i couldn't handle a complacent partner myself, but it just sounds like you expect him to be a different person

  2. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Have you tried talking about it or broaching the subject? Change ain't likely if he isn't even aware it's an issue for you.
    Alternatively, test him for a mother complex.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Yeah I have. He literally just doesn’t care about anything and will only do literally anything if it bothers me or if I tell him to.

      I don’t know who could live with this.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Sounds like you can if you're not dumping him.
        It sounds more like you're dating a sack of flour. That being said, maybe give him a challenge or something? "Hey, set up our next date." Or "Find us something to do today." Give a bit of pressure. If he ain't worried about not being a lump for you, then it doesn't sound like a good relationship

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          Yeah, he sounds complacent, like he got the girl so now he doesnt have to try anymore.

  3. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    people are just really dumb sometimes

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      He’s like this 24/7

      then... let him? idk man your guy seems happy being like this, i couldn't handle a complacent partner myself, but it just sounds like you expect him to be a different person

      Who tf would be attracted to this

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        >Who tf would be attracted to this
        frick if i know, you're the one who should be saying if you are

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          He literally stuffed his bedside lamp with tissues cause he’s too lazy to throw them out

          (cont.)
          sounds like he might be depressed anon

  4. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    He literally stuffed his bedside lamp with tissues cause he’s too lazy to throw them out

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      cant imagine how worn and haggard you must be to have a bf that does this

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      It's a perfect allegory.
      Your relationship is a lamp, he's the guy that is throwing his problems there and doesn't clean up his life.
      It's gonna work out for sometime but not for long.
      You have to talk with him about it. He can be either a jerk or just depressed. You have to find out before you get really annoyed with your life with him.
      It depends who you are- a led bulb that is very, very patient and won't get hot. Or less patient just like a regular bulb which can be very hot and that leads us to a fire hazard... Think about it.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Lol. Idk I think this is literally just who he is as a person.

        He just dgaf.

        Idk if this type of stuff is common in men, I read that it is. Like men don’t help clean around the house and are slobs and similar stories.. don’t care about stuff getting done so women have to carry the “mental load”

        Idk it’s hard to imagine anyone being worse than this tho

        This is how he “folded” his bedsheets I washed.. is that normal

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          There's being a lazy slob that just needs discipline and motivation, then there's a literal npc that cannot function without being prompted to. Many men may be the former, but them and the latter are not the same.

  5. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    You women sure know how to pick winners

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      I mean I live in a Misogynistic country full of man children so there’s not much hope here lol

      Any advice?

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        pick better or stop whining. you're probably one of those women who tells men on the internet that they need to do a bunch of shit to get a gf while you're dating a loser who would tell you to frick off

  6. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I should probably mention anything that looks remotely clean In the photo is because I cleaned it

  7. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >Don’t tell me to dump him but other advice is welcomed
    you will do that yourself soon
    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cascade_Model_of_Relational_Dissolution
    you are already at contempt, obviously.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Who tf wouldn’t be tho

      If you have to do it now, if you ever get married this is how it will be until you're old and gray with him. Just saying, don't expect that behavior to change; those are innate characteristics and some men do actually require a mommy gf to function, so decide if you're cool with being that forever. Some women like it I think, at least the taking care of others aspect.

      Lol they’re babying a guy you like vs some dude who can’t function unless you nag him I feel like it’s different

      There's being a lazy slob that just needs discipline and motivation, then there's a literal NPC that cannot function without being prompted to. Many men may be the former, but them and the latter are not the same.

      Yeah this … like I dated a messy guy before but it wasn’t this bad because he actually liked going out and doing things and cared about his health despite not being the most organized

      And it wasn’t because he was lazy it was mostly his adhd

  8. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    If you have to do it now, if you ever get married this is how it will be until you're old and gray with him. Just saying, don't expect that behavior to change; those are innate characteristics and some men do actually require a mommy gf to function, so decide if you're cool with being that forever. Some women like it I think, at least the taking care of others aspect.

  9. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    My wifes like this, and Im more like you.
    3rd LTR in in my life, best relationship I ever had, you can have way bigger problems in a partner.
    Pro tip: you didn't choose to be curious. You were born that way and/or it was nurtured in you. You dont get to act like it makes you better. It doesn't. You just like to read shit for fun, and you probably have good memory retention so you picked up other bits along the way.
    Most people dgaf. That dorsnt make them worse or dumber than you. Just theyd rather spend their time and calories on other shit. Drop this one. Itll never change in him, and hes just fine. This is ultimately making you the problem here

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      https://i.imgur.com/uTXqaXQ.jpg

      It’s actually really annoying. Like I get that I’m smart and knowledgeable but it’s like he’s too fricking lazy to use Google for literally anything.

      The other thing that really bothers me about him is he has like zero natural curiosity about anything. It’s like I have to spoon feed him any information. Are most guys like this or am I just lucky or something
      We’re late 20s btw

      Don’t tell me to dump him but other advice is welcomed

      This just speaks to your post about his natural curiosity and such. Weird youd focus on that in the OP when it seems your main issue is he doesnt do anything.

      So why not dump him? Youre going to eventually anyway. Youre just saving up to make it more traumatic on everyone

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Spend their energy on what, lying in bed?

  10. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >bf's a complete waste of space and a joke of a man that needs his gf to be his pseudo-mother
    >don't tell me to break up with him
    Everybody, women.

  11. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Stop cleaning up after him and assuming responsibility. let it all rot without the assumption that you’ll be there to clean it up afterwards. Mimic him and become just as much of a task-avoiding goblin until he inevitably faces consequences for his laziness and ineptitude. Basically just don’t give a shit and let him live like that. Take care of yourself first but not him. He’ll get the idea pretty quickly once he sees it’s on him to get shit done. I’m guessing he only feels so comfortable being complacent because he knows you’ll cave eventually. Let him clean up his own messes. Unironically an exercise in trust. Sink or Swim. He’ll learn it

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      He literally does not give a frick if it’s dirty as a pig sty. He lived like that before.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Let him hit rock bottom with it and avoid helping or making it better for him. That’s all you can reasonably do. If you find that’s too hard to live with then you already know your answer

  12. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Anon, I took the time to read every post ITT, and not once was it brought up what he actually does or enjoys. I understand that he may not like to do most things that need getting done, but you’re trying to state that he’s a literal vegetable that stares at the ceiling 16 hours a day. Does he watch tv? Play video games? Is he often with online friends? Does he work? If so, where? These factors play a role. So far you’ve made this post about every negative quality while asking people shit like “who could be attracted to this” and it sounds like loading the table to receive validation for your current negative feelings for him. No advice given here will be useful as long as the question is set up this way.

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