tl;dr became basic white girl to make friends at new school, didnt work, no friends, only have boyfriend now and that isnt working either.

tl;dr became basic white girl to make friends at new school, didn’t work, no friends, only have boyfriend now and that isn’t working either.

I know minors aren’t supposed to say stuff on here but i honestly need advice. So last year i decided i was goin for completely reinvent myself by going to a new school and becoming the popular girl i’ve always wanted to be (also i transferred with a friend of mine who felt similarly) . So i get clothes the other girls are wearing and prepare to become the new me at this school. So after a week or so i notice it was a horrible idea, everyone already has their groups and i couldn’t even retreat to the weird girl group because i was cosplaying as someone im not. But after a while i end up getting a boyfriend and my friend i transferred with getting friends and kind of leaving me. Well im content with having my boyfriend as my only friend but our relationship is like going downhill at a crazy rate and idk what to do. I want to just break up but then I’ll be completely alone. Should i just stick it out till the summer then break it off or just like do it now and get it over with. I also think im just going to go back to the old school, i didn’t notice how hard it is to make friends. I’ve had the same like 4 friends from elementary/middle school up to now and 2 of them don’t even like me after i transferred. I hate that i made such a bad decision, what can i do to fix it all?

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  1. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    How the frick do you end up here

    Just go watch Mean Girls unless you want to date me instead

    • 1 month ago
      femanon

      lol i found out about NSFFW from watching chris chan videos. And i’d probably rather date you than watch mean girls, i don’t like that movie

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Yeah why not have a cool NSFFW bf instead just break up with whatever dope you got now

  2. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    First off, underageb&

    Second, high school bullshit will become completely irrelevant within a year of your graduation. The best advice I can give you is to stop giving a shit and do whatever you want. I’m serious. My biggest regret from high school is caring way too much about what other drooling morons thought about me. Hell, you might just find out that the real you is more endearing to the type of people you would enjoy being around.

    • 1 month ago
      femanon

      i mean i want to be myself to make friends but like i don’t know it’s kind of hard to explain. But like all the weird girls i wanna be friends with since i know we like the same stuff probably don’t wanna be friends with me since im dating this dick head and dress all ‘normal’. And i know it’s stupid caring so much about all this stuff but like. Idk it feels important

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Are you dating to eventually marry or are you just dating to move up the social ladder? If it is the latter you probably should stop because that is some very poor habit making right there. Also dating to move up the social ladder doesn't work cause either party can dump them off of it at any time.
        Also if you don't actually talk to them and communicate you don't actually know them and are just roleplaying with yourself so actually talk to them, roflcopter.

        • 1 month ago
          femanon

          well i dated because NSFFW and my friends rotten my brain and made me think im fugly and need to take this chance to have a boyfriend and it’ll solve all my sadness and problems ever

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Lmao that's cute.
            Leave NSFFW and never look back. You can periodically visit NSFFW for cute animals and weird facts when shitting. It is the healthiest option.

  3. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not; someone who likes your facade doesn’t actually like you.
    This is doubly true for your relationship. Getting or staying in a relationship just for the sake of not being alone is terrible. I can only hope that you haven’t let yourself be used by this guy in the meantime. Teenage relationships almost never last, and boys that age are notoriously unreliable and hormonal. If you think you’ll find love by dating around in high school, you’re much more likely to get your heart broken, and that’s going to mess with your future relationships, too.
    If you absolutely have to date because you think a guy is special, then take things very slowly and never give in to pressure for speeding up. If a guy demands you do something sexual for him as a condition of staying together, he’s not a guy you should expect to value relationships.

    • 1 month ago
      femanon

      yeah, i regret not taking things slow enough. We’ve only been dating for like 5 months and i already feel sexual drained. I hate sex and i think i’ve ruined how i feel about sex forever by dating this dude. His ego and popularity dosent align with his looks. Oh! Nd that’s a whole nother reason i’m scared to break up with him, he has anger issues and im scared he’s going to 1. beat me up 2. tell everyone about all these secrets i’ve told him or 3. do both! Ugh, i wish i just waiting to meet a guy i really really liked and felt comfortable with

  4. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    the only thing that matters at your age is your school performance. ignore the cretins, just focus on your future. you'll be leagues ahead in just a few short years

  5. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Homegirl I hope you are larping because let me tell you even from a small town career in a pre-k through highschool school, any girl that cared about being popular rather than literally anything else like school work or I dunno videogames was a bit of a weirdo that was too self-concious/judgemental of everyone if they were trying to gauge everyone on a ladder.
    Also never complain about grades infront of the entire class, no one wants to hear how you think your B is so much worse than their F. (I had to teach a freshman girl that senior year in a class because it was like a 92 compared to a majority of 60-70s of her compatriots )

    • 1 month ago
      femanon

      my grades r mid lol. And i hate talking in front of the class so god no. and i can’t even remember the original reason why i wanted to get out of the weird girl group. I think maybe it started as just wanting to try something new and kind of spiraled into feeling stuck in this new persona

  6. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Obvious larp thread

  7. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    There is zero hope for you if you're new. You stay the new girl forever no matter how much guys like you

  8. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    If you’re not an entertaining or useful person to be around, no one will want to hang out with you.

    Problem is that you haven’t been exposed to enough traumatic experiences in order to pick up on reading what people want and need despite what they say or how they act.

    Best normal advice is try not to be boring and stay on good terms with good people.

    • 1 month ago
      femanon

      i feel like im a like mediumly social my normal person. But like i feel like even if i say something completely normal in a group they give each other like the look that people only give when like the really sped kid says something that is so weird that like there isn’t even a right response. I don’t know i never thought ‘maybe im autistic’ till i came to this stupid new school

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        That means you’re actually just lame.

        You might’ve said something technically right or had a surface level opinion, but it doesn’t resonate with the kind of person they are or you’re missing the details of the situation they’re talking about/people involved.

        • 1 month ago
          femanon

          i guess, i have never really thought about myself as a boring person and most of the times i get weird looks it’s either that like i just was trying to help with the work but im moronic and not contributing anything or i make a joke and they all just look at each other. I hate being a teenager and i hate being in school. I can’t wait to just get a job and be able to live alone and hopefully work at a office at a computer all day or something like that

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            My word choice and phrasing is really aggressive. You’re not the one to blame, figuring out social games with a group of people that you don’t really know is incredibly tough. But it’s not impossible to get through this and time is on your side because you just moved to that school.

            If you’re reliable whenever people need someone to talk to or help them with their classwork, people are going to feel warmer around you. Just don’t force anything and have fun in an easy and natural way. It makes anyone more likable.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Girl drama is so fricking complicated because there actually are just cruel people and dynamics involved sometimes.

            Figure out who are actually friends out of the group and who is there for convenience. Peel off the people that are friends for convenience to like you more instead of the hardcore friend group. Once you have social capital, push back a bit by playfully insulting the b***hy friends with funny jokes without seriously going in on them. That was my general strategy at least when I was a young psychopath. It helps to bring in some people outside the friend group.

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