Took Christian gf's virginity and feeling bad for the girl now

She (19F) is a very run-of-the-mill, average-looking church girl from a very conservative family. She was really into me, and I was pretty meh about her, especially initially. I felt like I was dating down with her, but I was kind of lonely and decided to go out with her. I ending up meeting her sister, her parents - all very nice people.

Not going into details, but we had penetrative sex last week. Afterwards, she got really clingy, and I started feeling bad about it because I took the virginity of a very nice girl who I was never very interested in. I met her parents, earned their trust, and I feel like just disrespected them by defiling their daughter. I feel like I disrespected her future husband, her body - I feel guilty about it.

I am one of the guys here who was also pushing for other anons to marry virgins, and I feel especially like a hypocritical ass since I've now contributed to what I consider to what I consider to be a huge problem in society - the lack of women who wait until marriage and have multiple sexual partners, harming their pair-bonding ability. I know if I break up with her, that would leave a sour taste in her mouth with dating - that guys just want sex and then leave. It'll probably damage her view of men and she may go the feminist route.

I guess my guilt here stems from how I never really viewed her has my ideal type but went for it despite that, ultimately ruining her for the guy she will marry. Idk what to do going forward. Do I continue the relationship just to see where it goes? I'm not going to sleep with her again. I told her that we shouldn't have done that and I will not do that again before marriage. But I don't really feel like I will marry her and don't want to hurt her more by staying longer.

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  1. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Don't feel bad, she'll do what every Christian girl does and lie about it.

  2. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I don't know, you did something bad but this is mostly on her

    Don't keep her around out of guilt, you don't have the moral fiber to carry on with such a project

  3. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    How did you meet her?

  4. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    i think youre overvaluing the harm you are actually capable of, she hasn't been ruined and im sure she can find a guy who she can have a real relationship with, not just someone dating her because why not. really the person who will suffer morally the most is you and i can already tell from how you talk about the situation as having compromised your own morals, leading someone on, seeing yourself as having forever ruined someone, etc.

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      She can never un-plap herself. She will always have been plapped by OP.

  5. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    And then you will keep telling everyone to marry a virgin. Lol.

  6. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Sounds like you only got with her to feed your own fragile ego, maybe you use plain girls to validate yourself because they're easy? I realized that I was just having sex with women just so I could feel better about myself, it was masturbation with someone else in the room. Something to mull.

  7. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I love how the OP is so worried about pair bonding, like this girl is a parrot or something. Humans are more complicated than that and our relationships form and break based on a bunch of shit we made up, but all choose to believe in anyway.

    Having disappointing sex with the OP isn’t going to stop this girl from being happy. Shame and condemnation from her family, community and hypocrites like OP might, however.

  8. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Probably a larp, but I'll bite.

    You're a degenerate, but so is she. She didn't have to have sex outside of marriage. She chose to do it. She signed up for exactly this scenario, and only has herself to blame.

  9. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Probably go become a homo

  10. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Obviously your only choice now is to marry her and suffer through a loveless marriage for the rest of your days, the resentment between you brewing and growing as the years pass, slowly poisoning your hearts and sapping what little happiness you might have gleaned from your short time on the Earth.

    Let me be the first to congratulate you on your upcoming nuptials.

  11. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    You're very selfish for doing that IF you were the one suggesting to have sex before marriage and to take her virginity. Although if she also took yours then it's not as bad I suppose.

    But at the same time you are also a bit dumb because those run of the mill plain women are fricking great. If she was really as much of a blank slate as you are saying you could have literally molded her into whatever you wanted, like introducing her into your hobbies and such.

  12. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >It'll probably damage her view of men and she may go the feminist route.
    Why do men think that they matter in that regard? The one who forms her view of men is her father and mother, not the person who sticked her dick into a slimy hole. Women become feminists when their mothers are unhappy with their family life and/or father are absent whimps.

  13. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    How is that the only thing you had saved?

  14. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Just stay with her and see if ur love grows bro.

    I was in the exact same position as you and I broke things off in a really shitty way.

    As long as she isn't putting you through hell just stick around and see what happens man, trust

  15. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    OP, I get you. I began dating a girl with slight asbergers a couple years ago. I fell in love with her but im kind of experienced and a little cynical. She was with one guy before me so I considered it good enough and I've been very close to asking her to marry me

    At the same time, I went on dates with other girls, kissed some and more recently fricked a girl. I do t feel bad like I thought I would. I have an opportunity to leave my current residence and I'm considering bringing her, but she's got a lot to learn in terms of housekeeping and I don't know how it's going to work.

    I feel like if I break up with her she's going to get herself killed or in a really shitty relationship. She seems so innocent and naive and moronic. She loves me so much and I care about her a lot. It's all so fricked up. We're fricked up op.

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      You and OP are actually just Black folk. The fact you can string someone along like that is proof. Congrats!

      • 4 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        What if we should be fricking as many girls as we can to reinvigorate the white race? What if it's the israelites idea to stay monogamous while wearing plastic underwear?

  16. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    well you just admitted all that, make peace with it
    don't stay if you don't actually like her cause she'll start realising it soon enough, you'll hurt her view of men & relationships even more, and waste her time too
    finding out someone is with you out of some pity or whatever is very very hurtful

    she deserves someone who is into her and you don't have to be that, you get to be yourself - you too deserve someone whom you truly like
    feeling bad and staying with her won't wash away the 'bad' thing you did - it's yours to carry and learn from

    I did that, I stayed with a girl cause "it was the right thing to do" - turns out it was the wrong thing to do cause I couldn't force myself to find something where there was nothing much

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