Two years ago, my wife began denying me sex, citing a complete loss of sexual drive.

Two years ago, my wife began denying me sex, citing a complete loss of sexual drive. When I expressed my needs, she bluntly suggested I find someone else, even giving me explicit permission to have an affair.

With her consent, I found a mistress, a 24-year-old single mother of a little girl (my wife and I are both 31-32). I always respected my wife’s boundaries and never brought my mistress to our home.

Well yesterday, I discovered that my wife is having an affair to "get back at me." Part of me is angry, saddened, and backstabbed. I mean how is this "getting back" at me? We stopped having sex because she said so, and I found a mistress with her explicit consent. We have a prenup so I'm not losing much from this divorce. Still, I don't understand her or what went wrong.

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  1. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Her "permission" for you to cheat was really just an excuse for her to cheat. Regardless, you're moronic for having a marriage like this.

  2. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    >Want to cheat on cuck husband
    >Don't want to get called a cheater
    >Hmmmm
    >I'll just get him horny and tell him to cheat first so it's mutual
    The gender war was rigged from the start menbros why are we so moronic

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      If the wife permitted it, it's not cheating. OP would have never even initiated his outside relationship if the wife was fulfilling his needs. That being said, he probably should have just begun divorce proceedings the second his wife said she was okay with him having sex with other women.

      As for you, OP, is there anything you can think of that "killed" her sex drive with you? Are you overweight or something?

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        >If the wife permitted it, it's not cheating.
        Some of you people are just not cut out for life on earth. I hope your next life takes place on wherever people think like this

        • 1 week ago
          Anonymous

          (you)

        • 1 week ago
          Anonymous

          Brother, I would never want an open relationship and I would have initiated the separation process if I was ever presented with the option, even if I was guaranteed my hypothetical wife would never see other people. But infidelity is the action of being unfaithful to your partner. This isn't some subjective interpretation, that is the literal definition. OP's wife gave him permission to pursue other partners, he is not being unfaithful to her, he is not going behind her back. OP's wife giving him permission to do X thing concerning their marriage, does not in turn give her permission to do X. She is being unfaithful in doing so. Step off your sanctimonious high horse for one fricking second, and think about what is being discussed.

          I'm pretty much normal looking, I'm on the short side and not very tall (1.68 cm) but that has never been an issue before, I don't know what made her lose her sexual drive but I'm tired of guessing , I tried to repair our relationship in many ways possible, I probably should have divorced before but I didn't wanted to end my marriage over petty disagreements without at least trying to working out our issues first.

          Yea, doesn't really sound like something worth beating yourself up over. Best bet is to just move on and close this chapter of your life. At least you became aware of this when you're still relatively young.

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        I'm pretty much normal looking, I'm on the short side and not very tall (1.68 cm) but that has never been an issue before, I don't know what made her lose her sexual drive but I'm tired of guessing , I tried to repair our relationship in many ways possible, I probably should have divorced before but I didn't wanted to end my marriage over petty disagreements without at least trying to working out our issues first.

  3. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Just divorce her. Divorce isn’t that bad nowadays, the divorce rape meme is just that, a meme, especially if you live in a state that allows gay marriage.

  4. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Marriage is over when wife denies you sex. It means she doesn't like you any more. There is no reason to be married and in yours 30s if you don't both want kids. Simple as. Abandon ship.

  5. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    You did nothing wrong, and she cheated on you.
    Never forget that.
    Never.

  6. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    It is over

  7. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Son, you will have my time, jesus

    >my wife began denying me sex, citing a complete loss of sexual drive

    Okay. Women dont lie, men dont listen. She is telling you, directly - *You dont arouse me anymore. My man. My hunter, I dont desire you, something is wrong, not my choice*

    >When I expressed my needs
    Thats not how desire, seduction or attraction works. Cant blackmail it, cant negotiate it, cant buy it. Its a FEELING, its how you make her feel

    >she bluntly suggested I find someone else, even giving me explicit permission to have an affair

    In THAT MOMENT when her attraction was high enough she, a woman, suggested a stupid idea. In the moment she was attracted enough to tolerate it. Because she is a woman. She is like a child. You dont ask your 8 years old son how parenting should go

    >With her consent, I found a mistress
    You listened to your 8 years old son and adopted another child, basically. Your judgement. Your actions. You are the man, the leader, the daddy

    >never brought my mistress to our home
    Irrelevant, you cheated

    >I discovered that my wife is having an affair
    Well, as leader you set the standard. Shw got neglected, abandoned, cheated on so she looked elsewhere. Very predictable outcome

    >We stopped having sex because she said so
    No. It happened because YOU stopped arousing her. Some new guy did it easily

    >and I found a mistress with her explicit consent
    Your honor, my son told me to shot a homeless guy in the head, I got the permission! Not my fault!

    >Still, I don't understand her or what went wrong

    Pay attention. This is important

    Mistake number one, dont follow women, LEAD them. They are emotional children, they are not men. They dont know shit. You judge, tell them whats best. Be the man

    Mistake number two, never ever ever see desire drop and attraction drop as personal attack or her choice. They cant help it. You cant force women to want you. Did you seduce her every time? Candles? Variety? Mystery? She fricked the new guy, why?

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      Yeah, this is all wank anons.
      Just don't get married.
      Don't tie yourself legally for life to a person who isn't capable of making up their minds on the colour of shoes they want to wear. Simple.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      shut the frick up captain r*ddit.
      be a cuckold somewhere else.
      The only thing OP did wrong was not killing his prostitute wife when she denied him his husbandly right to pussy.
      Heil Chudler, heil our people!

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      >come home tired after a long day at work
      >all he asked was sex

      Do you expect him to play her mental games when he is already tired from earning the bread all day long? Do you even KNOW how tiring, soul crusing and difficult is to deal with a full-time job, co workers and a demanding boss 10 hours a day?! Working hard to provide for our families is the way men express their love to their wives and children, women seem oblivious to this fact.

  8. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    lol it was a challenge, not a invitation, dumbass. Enjoy divorce court, prenups don't mean anything.

  9. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    So you both agreed that the marriage is over and that you should find someone else and you're surprised she did the same.

  10. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    The blackpill with women is that treating them well will dry pussy like sahara desert. My dad used to treat my mom like shit up until their old age, but she still loved him for some reason. He had a good head above his shoulders and knew what to do, maybe it's because of that.

    I didn't want to walk the same path as my dad and I treated all my exes with respect and consideration always, and can you guess what happened? The frequent gifts, the handwritten letters, throughly planned fun dates, all of these become an expectation, they start taking it for granted. It becomes an issue when you don't give it your %100, while she just lazes around and expects you to come up with something again. It becomes tiring. Your effort becomes worthless. They get bored and break up. Hook up with chad. Get burned with chad. Then start blowing off my phone. I had to put in a complaint with one of my exes because she kept harassing me.

    There should be a balance. Don't become boring. Don't sacrifice all your time and energy. Don't let yourself be taken for granted.

    Godspeed.

  11. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    If not bait: you're both immature morons who can't handle the basic, adult aspects of a long term relationship regarding commitment and communication. Either go to therapy and BOTH of you swallow your pride to make it work, or divorce. Staying together isn't sparing your kids heartbreak or dysfunction, you're actively teaching them dysfunction by maintaining a dysfunctional relationship. They are learning, and even if they don't know the details, the problems are obvious. It would be more productive and beneficial to them if you both parted and found good, happy, functional relationships so they can know what those look like and how they're supposed to work.

    If bait: kys

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      >therapy
      Imagine paying a woman who troon children for fun to fix something in your life

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        imagine getting offline for 5 seconds (impossible challenge)

  12. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    OP I highly suggest you obtain physical proof she gave you permission to see other people, then you will have the upper hand in divorce court.

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