What do you do after the first date? >Matched on Bumble last friday, quickly moved over to instagram, arranged a date

What do you do after the first date?

>Matched on Bumble last friday, quickly moved over to instagram, arranged a date
>went to that date on sunday spent whole day together and got along pretty well, whole thing didn't feel forced, lots of fun and at the end of the day we exchanged numbers
>Monday i message her if she had a good start into the week and we talk about our work, grocery shopping, her home decorations, memes and i arranged another date for the coming sunday, to which she agreed

So how do i proceed here? Do i stay silent till we meet? I much rather want to talk to her in person but also don't want her to think i'm not interested or do i wait for her to initiate a convo? I don't want things to go like
>stay silent, wait for her to initiate
>doesn't initiate
>ghost each other

I'm also driving to lanes here right now. Girl A, not mentioned here, is kind and cute and actually asked me out on a 2nd date this thursday
Girl B described here is kind, cute and i feel much more attracted to her personality-wise and looks-wise plus the first date was a much better experience with natural flow and i would rather do things with her

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  1. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Planning a date can be as fun as the date itself. Think of a couple fun options or restaurants you've been meaning to try and ask for her opinion. There's nothing wrong with telling her you're excited to see her again (and showing your excitement by planning for the future).
    A/B is a you problem, but the same strategy works for both.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Did that. Asked for her opinion on a date at the zoo and she said that’s a really great idea so that’s what we’re doing on Sunday. I just don’t know if I should do a lot of texting now. Maybe I ask her about what restaurant we are visiting after the zoo.
      The last time I was dating someone, we were texting pretty often but that kind off annoyed me at times because she got pissed off if I wasn’t answering for half an hour

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Oh, well definitely don't bring your old relationship into a new one. Maybe you just don't have a lot to talk about yet, or maybe she's not a huge texter. You're letting the ex's ridiculous demands get into your head. It's a fresh start.
        Send some goofy shit, say you're excited to see her and ask about her favorite animal or what she wants to see first. Zoo's a fun idea, that's nice and casual. You're doing fine.

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          We talked about a lot of things in person
          I also have some ideas floating in my head to ask and just feel better, doing that in person. She’s writing a book and I think it’s much better to ask about that in person it just feels weird to not text at all

          >Well we walked pretty close together and she brushed some dirt away from my legs, fixed my jacket but nothing sexual.

          You didn't hold her hand? Put your arm around her? Show her at all physically that you were interested? It's okay if you didn't, I guess. But if she starts touching you that's your queue to amplify. Don't make the same mistake on the next date because then she'll be convinced you don't like her like that.

          >I asked her about her schedule with my free time in mind and we settled for Sunday because girl A asked me out for Thursday before I set a 2nd date with Girl B

          Sure, whatever, man. Hopefully you get my point of the exercise.

          >hold hands
          >put your arms around her
          It was our first date, two days after the match. Is that really already the time to go that physical? I’m a beginner in that regards but the one relationship I had for 3 months, holding hands happened like after the 3rd or 4th date. Not like that is representative as this relationship was a doomed one anyways with lot of issues on her side. But yeah you’re right, I should seek some physical touch too like she did but don’t feel comfortable yet to hold her hand after one date

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Like I said, I typically go for the frick on a first date so holding hands isn't taboo to me or anything. Probably out of two dozen or so first dates, maybe three or four didn't put out immediately after. I use Tinder though and the women there know exactly what it's for. Just don't come across as a completely thirsty horn dog. Women want it just as bad as us men, but it's uncouth to just come out and say it. Which is why they drop hints like fixing your jacket and brushing your legs.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Yeah I’m pretty sure she is not a girl for first date fricks. We matched on bumble and her profile gives no vibes like that. But anyways, I’ll try to get closer, seeking some physical contact when appropriate

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >her profile gives no vibes like that

            No shit! I just told you they won't come out and say it. Good luck, man. You'll probably be alright. Just don't be such a pussy when it comes to getting pussy.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Yeah i guess but even in person, she doesn't strike me as someone who's dtf after one date, even with the "hints"

            >Do you usually go back to your place to frick? Are you suggestive about it or direct?

            Or her's, whichever is more convenient. Most of the time we went back to her's. They tend to feel a little more comfortable in their own space and as long as you're doing your job right at making them feel comfortable they'll usually be dtf. Instead of suggesting or being direct, I just concentrate on making sure they're having a good time and more often than not she's the one inviting me over. Then it becomes her idea to have sex. That's where I've had the most success.

            >Have you experimented with getting laid on the first date with little flirting or physical contact?

            Not really. I've definitely had a few first dates where I knew I wasn't going to frick because we didn't click. But I can honestly think of only one time where the flirty verbal banter was there during the date without the physicality before she jumped my bones on her own accord.

            >Did you set the tone of the outcome being sex over text before the date?

            Not necessarily. Flirty innuendos referring to sex without actually mentioning sex? Absolutely. Telling her I want to cum on her face before we've even met? Absolutely not.

            Yeahhh, they're definitely going to want to screen you in person at a neutral public place beforehand and you should definitely want to be screening them as well.

            If you're having trouble thinking of cheap first date ideas, just remember places with activities is a lot better than the ole cliche dinner and a movie. Eating in front of a stranger can be a little awkward and I've served in restaurants long enough a long time ago to see some disastrous first dates where the dude is practically holding the chick hostage at the table. And then at the movie you sit in silence for two hours. It's just awful for her.

            Grabbing a drink and shooting some pool is always a good idea. The zoo is a great idea but a little too "serious couple" for me. It'll be fine for OP. He should try putt-putt next if Sunday goes well.

            Anyway, here's the actual secret to see how well your first date is going and how well your night could end: grab a drink, shoot some pool, throw some darts or whatever, chat a bit, feel each other out while just killing some time (I'm not escalating physically a ton here but instead I am really just matching what she's doing).

            If you like what you see and want to go further, ask her to a second location, like another bar down the street where there's music playing maybe or something like that. This accomplishes two things: It gives her an easy out if she's not feeling the vibe with you and allows her to bow out gracefully. But, if she's willing to go with you to that second location, she'll probably let you come over that night.

            While not applicable in my situation with either girls, i still got nice advice from you anon, thanks
            >try putt-putt
            great idea, noted

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Otters hold hands when they're snoozing so they don't float away from each other. :3
            She sounds cute, good luck on the date.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Do you usually go back to your place to frick? Are you suggestive about it or direct?

            Have you experimented with getting laid on the first date with little flirting or physical contact?

            Did you set the tone of the outcome being sex over text before the date?

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >Do you usually go back to your place to frick? Are you suggestive about it or direct?

            Or her's, whichever is more convenient. Most of the time we went back to her's. They tend to feel a little more comfortable in their own space and as long as you're doing your job right at making them feel comfortable they'll usually be dtf. Instead of suggesting or being direct, I just concentrate on making sure they're having a good time and more often than not she's the one inviting me over. Then it becomes her idea to have sex. That's where I've had the most success.

            >Have you experimented with getting laid on the first date with little flirting or physical contact?

            Not really. I've definitely had a few first dates where I knew I wasn't going to frick because we didn't click. But I can honestly think of only one time where the flirty verbal banter was there during the date without the physicality before she jumped my bones on her own accord.

            >Did you set the tone of the outcome being sex over text before the date?

            Not necessarily. Flirty innuendos referring to sex without actually mentioning sex? Absolutely. Telling her I want to cum on her face before we've even met? Absolutely not.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Very interesting anon, thanks for your response.

            Why not just organize direct hookups, from tinder to house, without going through the date first?

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Yeahhh, they're definitely going to want to screen you in person at a neutral public place beforehand and you should definitely want to be screening them as well.

            If you're having trouble thinking of cheap first date ideas, just remember places with activities is a lot better than the ole cliche dinner and a movie. Eating in front of a stranger can be a little awkward and I've served in restaurants long enough a long time ago to see some disastrous first dates where the dude is practically holding the chick hostage at the table. And then at the movie you sit in silence for two hours. It's just awful for her.

            Grabbing a drink and shooting some pool is always a good idea. The zoo is a great idea but a little too "serious couple" for me. It'll be fine for OP. He should try putt-putt next if Sunday goes well.

            Anyway, here's the actual secret to see how well your first date is going and how well your night could end: grab a drink, shoot some pool, throw some darts or whatever, chat a bit, feel each other out while just killing some time (I'm not escalating physically a ton here but instead I am really just matching what she's doing).

            If you like what you see and want to go further, ask her to a second location, like another bar down the street where there's music playing maybe or something like that. This accomplishes two things: It gives her an easy out if she's not feeling the vibe with you and allows her to bow out gracefully. But, if she's willing to go with you to that second location, she'll probably let you come over that night.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Yeahhh, they're definitely going to want to screen you in person at a neutral public place beforehand and you should definitely want to be screening them as well.

            If you're having trouble thinking of cheap first date ideas, just remember places with activities is a lot better than the ole cliche dinner and a movie. Eating in front of a stranger can be a little awkward and I've served in restaurants long enough a long time ago to see some disastrous first dates where the dude is practically holding the chick hostage at the table. And then at the movie you sit in silence for two hours. It's just awful for her.

            Grabbing a drink and shooting some pool is always a good idea. The zoo is a great idea but a little too "serious couple" for me. It'll be fine for OP. He should try putt-putt next if Sunday goes well.

            Anyway, here's the actual secret to see how well your first date is going and how well your night could end: grab a drink, shoot some pool, throw some darts or whatever, chat a bit, feel each other out while just killing some time (I'm not escalating physically a ton here but instead I am really just matching what she's doing).

            If you like what you see and want to go further, ask her to a second location, like another bar down the street where there's music playing maybe or something like that. This accomplishes two things: It gives her an easy out if she's not feeling the vibe with you and allows her to bow out gracefully. But, if she's willing to go with you to that second location, she'll probably let you come over that night.

            You will have my time

            I like you, you know what you are doing. Several locations and you being non needy and chill gives them the feeling of freedom and safety. Huge congrast with majority of guys. She entered your world, no pressure, just fun

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Exactly, you get it.

  2. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    https://www.girlschase.com/content/3-second-date-strategies-make-her-flirt-and-swoon

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      jfc here's some psychopath shit

  3. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >What do you do after the first date?

    Usually I frick. Did you not escalate physically at all? Whatever you do, don't escalate sexually over text at this point. Keep up the light banter throughout the week, but make sure it's fun and light. You can also throw her a curveball and ask for another date before Sunday. Just be like "hey I'm gonna catch this game at this bar, wanna go?" If they like you, they like this: it shows initiative and that you want to hang out with her.

    As far as your two girl dilemma, date them both. Dating is supposed to be fun and you're not exclusive to anyone.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Well we walked pretty close together and she brushed some dirt away from my legs, fixed my jacket but nothing sexual.
      I asked her about her schedule with my free time in mind and we settled for Sunday because girl A asked me out for Thursday before I set a 2nd date with Girl B

      https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o58mobKfDvI

      https://www.girlschase.com/content/3-second-date-strategies-make-her-flirt-and-swoon

      who thinks about doing that from toilet wtf

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        >Well we walked pretty close together and she brushed some dirt away from my legs, fixed my jacket but nothing sexual.

        You didn't hold her hand? Put your arm around her? Show her at all physically that you were interested? It's okay if you didn't, I guess. But if she starts touching you that's your queue to amplify. Don't make the same mistake on the next date because then she'll be convinced you don't like her like that.

        >I asked her about her schedule with my free time in mind and we settled for Sunday because girl A asked me out for Thursday before I set a 2nd date with Girl B

        Sure, whatever, man. Hopefully you get my point of the exercise.

  4. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Tell her what you want and expect from her and see if she does it.

  5. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    lmao why are you idiots trying to push that aggression, op is gonna go to the zoo with a cute girl and hold her hand while they feed lettuce to a giraffe

  6. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    just send her cute or funny pictures every now and again that require no commentary, and she'll probably send a message or two in response each time

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