Why am I so terribly terrified of Tinder?

>muh ugly
I got decent likes and matches with just one selfie of my face taken on an iPhone 7, it’s not really that i’m scared of it not going anywhere. There’s simply something terrifying to me about basically advertising myself for sex. I never had proper social media and I hate putting pics of myself anywhere. Frick, I even hate taking pics at all.

Last time I tried it, I literally put my head down whenever I was outside in case someone recognized me from it. I couldn’t sleep for days.

I’m too autistic to get anywhere with girls who approach me at bars and clubs so i’m going to have to try it again. My 23rd birthday is coming up soon and I don’t want to celebrate another birthday as a virgin.
What do I do?

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  1. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Get a pretty prostitute to frick, it's that easy

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >pretty
      It's not easy to frick pretty prostitutes off tinder unless you're Chad.
      I'd be happy with a 5/10 that isn't fat or black.

  2. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    You're too much self-conscious

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      probably true. Sometimes I feel ashamed of existing.

      • 4 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        As far as I know, this feeling will likely follow you for the rest of your like. Yet, if don't want to go insane and eventually waste your youth out of pure insecurity, your best bet is to expose yourself to situations that evoke this feeling and try to handle it.

        Tl;dr: Keep trying getting b***hes, conquer your fears

        • 4 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          So should I get back on dating apps? I assume it's better than nothing, right?

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Yes, but try to not let your brain go wild and jump straight to the I NEED TO HAVE SEX part. As you explained, you fricked shit up even when women approached you. Use Tinder as a way to expand your knowledge in casual conversations that have an underlying subtext(i.e. sex), eventually, after talking with enough girls, it'll help you get certain clues more easily, make you quicker to give responses and also make smart advances. With time you'll be doing the same with those girl that (supposedly) approach you at bars for example

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >As you explained, you fricked shit up even when women approached you
            Last summer I ended up in bed with a girl from the club that invited me back to her hotel and I still didn't have sex. There's dozens of similar situations.
            I guess I haven't reached the point of desperation where it becomes stronger than my autism and high inhibitions.
            But i'm getting old now, will be 23 in a few months. I can't be older than ER and still a virgin (excluding prostitutes).

  3. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >There’s simply something terrifying to me about basically advertising myself for sex. I never had proper social media and I hate putting pics of myself anywhere. Frick, I even hate taking pics at all.

    24 m and I feel this too man. Just broke up with my first gf (both met at 18, now 24) and dreading having to go back out there. I can't get good photos of myself worth shit so I might just abstain from the apps as long as I can

    Wanting to focus on passions/hobbies for most of the year anyways but I need romance and intimacy. Like you, I'm so autistic to the point where I can't get anywhere when a chick is remotely into me.

    There's a chick at the liquor store near my house who has given the frick me eyes on a couple times. I have zero game though and pulled a Pajeet-tier line to try and get her number. Not mad about how she thinks of me now, but rather how badly I fudged it just due to desperation. We must try to keep our heads up.

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      You can’t be that autistic if you had a gf from 18-24

      • 4 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        yes

      • 4 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        We were each others firsts and didn't know how to end things for a year or two when our relationship had a foot in the grave. I didn't really bother changing bad habits about myself to improve the general dynamic either.

        She basically pursued me obsessively at the beginning since I didn't know how to myself/was too afraid. Oh how I wish someone was like that for me again.

        • 4 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          Well at least you have years worth of relationship experience so now you only need to focus on actually just getting into one.

  4. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I'm 27 KV and have had the same hangup as you about making a tinder for a couple years. I've never had any social media and would just feel like a total clown making a profile for sex, paranoid of an acquaintance seeing it etc. By just making one, it looks like you've made more progress than me so congrats.

    I would really heed the warning from the post above about wasting your twenties out of insecurity. It feels like I was your age just yesterday as that was just before the lockdowns and everything. It's only after about a decade of missed opportunities due to anxiety that my stupid brain is finally realizing that nothing is going to land in my lap and that part of the part of the path to success is failure/rejection.

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Thanks. Yeah, my anxiety is really severe but I feel like I gotta make the move. But frick, it will lead to many sleepless nights. Anything that isn't LDARing in my bed takes huge effort and I don't feel it gets easier the more I do it.

  5. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    dude, what you're describing is some clinical symptoms.
    see a psychologist, have them do some test and figure out what your problem is exactly, then you will know what and how to fix. Forcing yourself is hardly efficient.

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Won’t they just tell me I have anxiety or something along those lines?

  6. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    ,

  7. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Over

  8. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >There’s simply something terrifying to me about basically advertising myself for sex.
    I have the same issue. I've been thinking of trying out Tinder because there just isn't a way to meet women irl, but the prospect of using Tinder makes me so anxious

  9. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

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