Wife libido issues

We got married just under 2 years ago now. Things have been fantastic. She is my best friend and we can talk about anything to each other, harsh, kind, serious, silly etc... it helps that we've known each other for a while prior to this.

The only problem I have is that my wife seems to have a very high libido. She's never had any partners before me and I am her first, whereas she isnt for me. She often wants to have sex pretty much every day. Often on the weekends she'll start tugging my shoulder up to 3 or 4 times for me to frick her. I always go the full way for her so she's satisfied. My wife's pretty shy and quiet so you'd never expect her to be like this if you saw her which is why it surprised me. The 2 girls I'd been with in the past were nothing like this, if anything I was the one who was bugging them lmao

I have no issue with satisfying my wife when she wants it but she doesn't understand that as a man it takes time to recover. I usually like to go multiple rounds in a session and ideally do it once every 4 days or so, so that I can be at peak performance so to speak (lol). Whereas she likes the constant sort of action that isn't enjoyable for me to support. Not to go into too much detail but I'll finish her off via other means than my dick since i don't wanna drain my balls every day, multiple times a day. Plus I like the feeling of saving that pent up energy for my wife that recovery gives you. Not to mention it's how I'd give her the best experience too since it's about both of our enjoyment.

I don't know if it's just because she thinks men are horny sex obsessed being and that's why she's doing it, or whether her being new to sex altogether means that she's kinda got hooked to the dopamine release? I'm not sure. But I'd have thought she'd get tired by now since it's been 2 years since we got married

Am I being moronic or am I onto something? I want to speak to her about it but I don't want to hurt her feelings and make her feel rejected.

Mike Stoklasa's Worst Fan Shirt $21.68

DMT Has Friends For Me Shirt $21.68

Mike Stoklasa's Worst Fan Shirt $21.68

  1. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    You’re supposed to knock her up, not even joking. You want a vacation from sex? Knock her up. She’s a married woman in heat and her instincts are driving her crazy, her ovaries demand to have their eggs fertilised. You and her might not think that this is what it’s about, but that is what it’s about.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      I agree.

      Nope I don't use toys. She's super easy to finish off. Literally with my hands I can finish her off in 2 mins. But I'll go down on her too since she likes that. Gonna dip outta the thread and come back to see responses later

      going down on her? thats gay

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >Gonna dip outta the thread and come back to see responses later

      Oh no you don’t Super Mario Man you get back here and listen to me lecturing you on why you need to get your wifey pregnant. You can’t avoid mother nature forever and your wife knows it.

      I'm not really looking to get her pregnant just yet and I imagine nor is she. In the near future possibly but I'd want to have a more comfortable foundation so the kid could have the best possible life.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        >I'd want to have a more comfortable foundation so the kid could have the best possible life.

        All a kid needs is a mom + dad, love from both mom & dad, time given to them from mom & dad, and most importantly, mom & dad need to love each other and never argue in front of the kid. That’s all. Money comes and goes. You could be comfortable financially today, but tomorrow it can blow away, only to come back again. There’s a reason why there’s kids who grew up poor yet had a fantastic childhood and relationship to their parents, or rich kids with rich abusive parents who grew up miserably.

        How old are you and Mrs woman?

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          Ok but then what does OP do if she has the baby and still wants the same level of sexual contact? Then there's 2 problems. Using babies as solutions to problems is not always the right thing to do

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Heavily pregnant women ain’t in no mood to have hyper-sexuality. Especially after the kid is born too. Both OP and Mrs. OP will be way too preoccupied taking care of the baby to be smashing multiple times a day. That’s most likely why Mrs. OP has that much energy in her, she has nowhere else to channel it due to the massive amount of time on both their hands.

            If OP doesn’t want to knock her up, he’s gonna have to find them an activity that drains the excess energy from her in a non sexual way.

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Idk about you but my wife was very horny during pregnancy. And after she was still the same, luckily for me though my libido matches hers though so it wasn't a problem, and she also wasn't horny every day like OPs wife. You're right with the busyness thing though, but again my wife was still just as horny as before pregnancy, she just had less opportunity to act on it since we were busier. But now that our kids older she's back to her old habits lucky for me haha

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          I'm 27 and she's 26.

          Ok but then what does OP do if she has the baby and still wants the same level of sexual contact? Then there's 2 problems. Using babies as solutions to problems is not always the right thing to do

          Yeah that's what I kinda think

          Idk about you but my wife was very horny during pregnancy. And after she was still the same, luckily for me though my libido matches hers though so it wasn't a problem, and she also wasn't horny every day like OPs wife. You're right with the busyness thing though, but again my wife was still just as horny as before pregnancy, she just had less opportunity to act on it since we were busier. But now that our kids older she's back to her old habits lucky for me haha

          Hm

          How is it so hard, frick the horniness out of your wife. There's literally incels on this site that would sacrifice their left nut to be in your position

          It's not as simple as you think and I laid it out in the OP. I still do what she needs as it's my duty to fulfill her needs as her husband but I was just discussing whether I'm alone in my feelings or not.

          Take her on more dates and get her out of the house more, then she shouldn't be able to bug you as often since you'd be in public. Maybe even more vacations and mini trips if you can afford it.

          That's the thing I already do take her out a lot. I thought getting her to do more stuff would wear her out and make her tired but if anything it revs her up even more. Any physical activity especially makes her pent up. Took her on vacation too and she still wanted it.

          Practical answer: widen your repertoire to at least four levels of sex-making

          1. The full deal, taking hours and making her come over and over.
          2. The quicky - one orgasm each, efficiently and satisfyingly
          3. The 68 - I'll give you one and you can owe me (in either direction)
          4. The everything but - hands and mouths, but give me a break to recharge.

          - and maybe other variations. The point is that #1 is the ideal, but you can legitimately say "Let's settle for one of the others tonight."

          I think this makes sense now. In my head the first type of sex you explain is what I regard as sex. I prefer that style and it's what I think is important. Whereas she likes the whole scale, mainly numbers 1-3. I don't like number 3 since I don't like one sided sex personally. But I'll do it for her I suppose.

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          Not OP but you seem knowledgeable. Please give me your opinion:
          I'm a father of three, we both obviously love our kids, but we don't have intimacy anymore. Do you think this is a problem for our children as long as we respect each other? We are together for 12 years now and we are like roommates more than a marriage.

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            How do you relieve yourself? Masturbation? Like 0 sex at all?

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            I jerk off every friday or saturday (1x/week) and I box 5 times a week. I think I found some balance and I'm fit.
            It wasn't always like this. three years ago I was full of rage against her and about to look for sex elsewhere.

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Why does she not put out? Have you spoken to her about this? Does sex just not appeal to her at all? Were you going the extra mile to make sure she finishes and also enjoys it? Depending on how old you are it could be early menopause. Is she not even willing to do stuff just for your sake at least in a while? You have literally the opposite problem to OP

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >Why does she not put out
            she is not into anymore
            >spoken to her
            more than you can imagine. Too much. It could've ended up our marriage
            >sex just not appeal to her
            she was always boring in bed. She enjoys, but she is lazy beforehand
            >she finishes and also enjoys it
            she finishes always, but before the orgasm, it's just a chore for her
            >do stuff just for your sake
            nope. She is selfish with sex. I stopped initiating because it feels almost like raping a sea star lol
            >the opposite problem to OP
            I know, but I was asking If this is a problem for our children as long as we respect each other? I should probably make my own thread. Sorry OP.

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >it feels almost like raping a sea star lol
            Me too mate

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Take her on more dates and get her out of the house more, then she shouldn't be able to bug you as often since you'd be in public. Maybe even more vacations and mini trips if you can afford it.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      fpbp. Get her pregnant and wait 9 months anon.
      Problem solved.
      You'll be posting here in 2 years complaining about your dead berdoom.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        That's the thing I don't want a dead bedroom. It's kinda a Goldilocks situation where I want it just right. So once every 4 or 5 or so days is perfect for me, with maybe increased frequency whenever we want or on weekends. Maybe I'm just complaining too much and should be thankful who knows.

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          you are the stupidest fricking low t poster on this entire board. there’s probably 5 active threads at any moment about wives who don’t want sex. once they get married their sex drive drops by 50% when they have kids it drops by a further 95%. if your wife actually wants wiener are you a homosexual? maybe you can put on some cuck porn in the background to let her know where she can really get her rocks off

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Bad idea, don't do this. Don't bring a kid on this earth for a selfish reason, makes sure you can provide for them properly. Then you can do it.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        it is irresponsible not to uphold your part of the genepool.
        you on the other hand, should contemplate on wether you're a worthwile lineage.

  2. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Hope your using a dildo of the vibrating variety anon!

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Nope I don't use toys. She's super easy to finish off. Literally with my hands I can finish her off in 2 mins. But I'll go down on her too since she likes that. Gonna dip outta the thread and come back to see responses later

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        >Gonna dip outta the thread and come back to see responses later

        Oh no you don’t Super Mario Man you get back here and listen to me lecturing you on why you need to get your wifey pregnant. You can’t avoid mother nature forever and your wife knows it.

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          Clearly he's avoided Mother Nature pretty well up until this point if they've done it once every day for 2 years, possibly more on weekends

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        >She's super easy to finish off. Literally with my hands I can finish her off in 2 mins
        What's your secret?
        My wife take too long like 15-20 minutes to climax, which is really hard so I have to switch hands.
        But after that her libido plummets, and I left with raging hard on.

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          I don't really have a secret per se but I'll tell you what I did to learn about her. Basically it was just via trial and error. I was never really "good" at sex until I met my wife and we married. I decided to say frick it and just try and work out how to please her based on how she responds. I asked her what she liked but she didn't know since she'd never had sex before. So I just tried different things and was able to zero in on what works for her based off both what she said was making her feel good and her body response.

          My wife is kinda agreeable sometimes so I relied more on the latter method of working out what was working for her, since it's hard to hide when you're enjoying it. It sounds kinda cringy but it's true that each woman is different and has a different body which is why it's important to see what works for her.

          Once I had a rough ballpark of what she liked I just kept on doing it until I got really good at it and the rest is history. My wife is different though in that after orgasm she doesn't really tire and can go again in 2 minutes. Orgasm just makes her very happy and bubbly which is weird because it isn't really her personality normally. I dont know everything though and I do want to work out how I can make us both finish at the same time. I've only done it once before and that was by accident. Usually I'll finish her first.

          So basically just agree with your wife to be open, honest and vulnerable and work out what gets her going the fastest. And if her libido drops then she can finish last. Or eventually maybe you can finish at the same time if you get really good at your control

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Welp, I'm screwed then.
            My wife came to me she's a chronic masturbator before (Her roommate used to have sex with her bf next to her and she was getting turned on and jerk offd to that to get the arousal from her system)
            So penetrative sex isn't her thing at all, and she's got puffy mound, like really puffy pic related.
            So playing directly with her clit is a no no, I just rub her mounds to get her off, and switch with my hands or mouth when I tire, and even developed ambidextrous skill to do different motions with each hand.
            But her refractory period is long like few hours, until I can even touch her pussy again, and worse when she comes she need to close her legs to feel good and cum, I learned this the hard way when she suffocated me while I tried make her cum with my mouth only.

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >I learned this the hard way when she suffocated me while I tried make her cum with my mouth only.

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            I'd suggest you just try lots of different things to see what pleases her. Ask her what makes her feel good too. Most important thing is that you're both honest and vocalize what you feel. I know I keep on hammering that home but it's so important. If you constantly have a guard up when in the bedroom then neither of you win or get what you want. That's why sex can be an important bonding experience since it's kinda teamwork in a way.

            Maybe consider visiting a therapist together if she's having problems with penetrative stuff, that doesn't sound normal. At least compared to my experience, ymmv

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >Ask her what makes her feel good too
            I do that all the time, she like to be rubbed in that way only, she doesn't like me going down on her since it's "too stimulant" for her.
            I told her what i like repeatedly but she doesn't love doing it, and prefer to be pillow princess.
            Even dirty talking with her is a no.

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Seems like she's a selfish lover and possibly even scared of sex a little bit. Something being too stimulating makes no sense, it's sex that's kind of the whole point lol

  3. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Boohoo my Ferrari is too red. Shut the frick up

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      I wasn't trying to brag anon that's why I wrote that whole paragraph at the end 🙁

  4. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    OP behold your future

  5. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    how old are you and how old is she?

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      I'm 27 and she's 26

  6. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Reminder that reproduction is worse than murder

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      And yet here you are, choosing to draw breath, having benefitted from reproduction by your very existence.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        >having benefitted from reproduction
        benifited who??? social security?
        frick off.
        >muh gift of life
        The ramblings of brainless cattle.

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          Just have a nice day it's that easy
          Ywnbaw btw

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      You are part of a death cult. I choose life.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Life is the death cult. Without life there would be no death.

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          it should be without death there would be no life

  7. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    How is it so hard, frick the horniness out of your wife. There's literally incels on this site that would sacrifice their left nut to be in your position

  8. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Practical answer: widen your repertoire to at least four levels of sex-making

    1. The full deal, taking hours and making her come over and over.
    2. The quicky - one orgasm each, efficiently and satisfyingly
    3. The 68 - I'll give you one and you can owe me (in either direction)
    4. The everything but - hands and mouths, but give me a break to recharge.

    - and maybe other variations. The point is that #1 is the ideal, but you can legitimately say "Let's settle for one of the others tonight."

  9. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Cope AND seethe b***h

  10. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Why would you get married if you don't want to have sex

    That's literally the point

  11. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >The only problem I have is that my wife seems to have a very high libido
    >problem
    Give me your wife then you ungrateful b***h. I can satisfy her

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Why would you get married if you don't want to have sex

      That's literally the point

      Read the OP properly
      >"I did"
      No you didnt

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Skill issue. I can recover in like 15 minutes.

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          Your dick goes back to normal hardness in 15 minutes? I doubt that. It'll still get hard but it won't be full hardness. It'll be like 80% of the way there. Plus you won't cum as much either from the 3rd time round

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            it takes me like half an hour to recover, and for some reason i am even harder, it kind of hurts, and it takes me twice as long to cum
            weird

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            I'm like 20% softer each consecutive round so I can usually only manage 4 rounds max until I'm too soft, I take longer to finish too.

  12. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    can't she just like jerk off or something

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      I did speak to her about maybe her taking care of herself but she said that she doesn't enjoy sex unless I'm giving her pleasure. She said if its not me doing it then it isn't the same since a lot of her enjoyment is bonding with me physically.

      Get her pregnant, you absolute moron.
      Her hormones are screaming at her to get pregnant, and you both have probably done everything in your power to avoid satisfying that primal urge. Once she gets pregnant, she should settle down, and taking care of a baby/toddler is going to be exhausting enough that you just won't be able to have so much sex.
      And when your kids are older, good luck finding that much private time.

      The other obvious thing you should do is communicate with your wife. Don't leave things to guesswork on either end.

      I guess maybe it will cool down after she's pregnant. I hear horror stories about wives whose libidos completely disappear after being pregnant so that does scare me. But if there's one person who wouldnt lose theirs it's probably her lol. The way you're describing it sounds like it'd go too far the other way which does worry me slightly. Hence why I wasn't ready to get her pregnant just yet.

      You're right regarding communication, I'll just ask her, she'll be alright she's a tough girl

  13. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Get her pregnant, you absolute moron.
    Her hormones are screaming at her to get pregnant, and you both have probably done everything in your power to avoid satisfying that primal urge. Once she gets pregnant, she should settle down, and taking care of a baby/toddler is going to be exhausting enough that you just won't be able to have so much sex.
    And when your kids are older, good luck finding that much private time.

    The other obvious thing you should do is communicate with your wife. Don't leave things to guesswork on either end.

  14. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Is she on the pill?
    The pill messes with women and has tons of worse side effects than changed libido. If she takes it, stop it immediately.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      yeah she is on the pill. I thought it decreases libido though? But even when she wasn't on it she was still wanting it pretty often. But that was a while ago, like a year and a half ago. Maybe that would bring her libido level to match mine who knows.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      What other side effects does it have? I havent noticed any change in behavior, although she is the sort of person to hide any suffering and try and be tough to impress me so I'd likely not know lmao

  15. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >we can talk about pretty much everything
    >goes on NSFFW, of all places, to ask (with pic related) how to tell his wife he needs a few days in between sex to recover

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      I was hesitant to ask her because she gets embarrassed pretty easily and I wasn't about to ask her friends or relatives since she'd hate that. I considered maybe asking my mom out of desperation but that was just way too weird for me when I thought about it so I left it. So other than Reddit I was kinda out of options...

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        >I wasn't about to ask her friends or relatives since she'd hate that
        If she didn't hate it, you would ask HER friends or relatives about your sex life? Anon, what the frick?

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          I wasn't about to, it was like a last resort option. And I meant her best friend tbh not family, that's a typo by me kek

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Are you gooning anon? You can be honest, you know, its only NSFFW

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            What does that mean? Haven't been on NSFFW since I got married tbh

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            You could've just googled but instead you pretended not to be a NSFFW frequenter

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            homie I promised to never Google anything from this site ever since I googled "goatse" at the age of 10 on this Godforsaken site kek

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Is your wife cute?

  16. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    my friendo. call me whenever your wife needs it. I gotchu covered big bro

  17. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Send her to me pls

  18. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Your solution is to introduce me to your wife I'll keep her busy for you you fricking pussy

  19. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Kys you will never understand my pain

  20. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I have to say the threads where people whine that their wives want TOO MUCH SEX crack me up.

  21. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >Wife libido issues
    get her a bbc

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Why are americans like this?

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        why are whites like this
        it's in their dna, whites are sexually inadequate

  22. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I have your issue, but the other way around.
    I've been together with my husband for 3 years now.
    No kids, and after the first 3 months, he just stopped initiating sex, I'm not exactly high sex drive, but I want to have kids.
    What to do?

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      get a black lover, he'll satisfy you sexually and give you strong mixed kids and don't worry your husband will be happy to help you raise them

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        >get a black lover,
        The BBC meme, is overrated.
        And worse black believe this meme, and they can satisfy any women just because they have BBC, which isn't even BIG.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Yeah that's strange I can't lie. Have you considered maybe he's addicted to porn? Could be a possibility, especially if you notice he steps out to go to the bathroom a lot in the middle of the night. Worst case he could be cheating. He could be shy or thinking maybe you're not into it, so stopped initiating. Best way to work it out is discuss it with him, depending on his personality you can change your approach.

      My girlfriend wants to have sex every day and I literally can’t. It’s such a fricking chore to have sex. If she wants to go twice it’s just not doable, so at least she knows that.

      Yeah I need to speak to my wife about this soon, I don't wanna hurt her feelings and accidentally make her feel undesirable so I'm just thinking about how to bring it up.

      kys moronic homosexual.there are 5 active threads complaining about dead bedrooms where anons are asking for massage parlours but you cant even put your wiener inside your girl once a day?

      Read the OP properly please anon. I do what she wants with regards to sex pretty much every day, since that's my duty as a husband and vice versa.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        oh sorry i misread but yeah you got lucky.some shy woman are horny little succubus
        just enjoy it and dont shame her anon.try to ask indirectly the topic why she likes sex so much.maybe she was a masturbator like that from the beginning

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          >she was a masturbator
          *coomer

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            i wish my gf was such a loyal coomer

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            i wish my gf was such a loyal coomer

            I asked her about masturbation and she said she did it once in a while like once every 3/4 weeks or so, but she vastly prefers sex after having done it. Honestly I think she just values the connection and spending time since she hates doggy style or anything where she can't see my face. Which sucks for me since I like those positions lol. But sometimes it creeps me out how much she'd not break eye contact during sex. The thing with her is that she's very eager to keep people happy, which is a weakness and a strength in that sotimes she'll assume a lot and never question those assumptions because she thinks it's helping. If that makes sense.

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            did she have an butthole ex maybe?

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            No I'm her first partner

  23. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    My girlfriend wants to have sex every day and I literally can’t. It’s such a fricking chore to have sex. If she wants to go twice it’s just not doable, so at least she knows that.

  24. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    kys moronic homosexual.there are 5 active threads complaining about dead bedrooms where anons are asking for massage parlours but you cant even put your wiener inside your girl once a day?

  25. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    ...can't OP just be honest with her? Especially if she's potentially doing it to try and please him?

    I'm not married or sexually active so maybe I'm missing out on something here, but to my schizo brain I guess I don't understand why simple communication isn't an option.

  26. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    God has cursed me to witness people more blessed than me that cannot appreciate his gifts
    If I met you irl I'd gut you for such a post

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *