Women always say they want to date a confident man. But how does one actually become confident?

Women always say they want to date a confident man. But how does one actually become “confident?”

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  1. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Stop giving a frick about what anyone thinks of you
    Seeking approval is a feminine trait
    Do whatever you want whenever you want
    Stop caring about being likeable

    Women like that shit

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >Seeking approval is a feminine trait

      Wrong.

      Men seek approval. At work, at school, from girls, from their friends, from their family. Every man is concerned with having a good reputation in his circle. Only the incels don't seek approval but good luck trying to be happy by being a unfrickable loser forever.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Post digit index ratio, you low T homosexual. Bet you're a vaxxie maxie too.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        If you're a normal man, your normal self will fit in naturally. You won't have to seek approval, it will come to you.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        seeking approval is a beta trait

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Stop giving a frick about what anyone thinks of you
        Seeking approval is a feminine trait
        Do whatever you want whenever you want
        Stop caring about being likeable

        Women like that shit

        Both of you are wrong. Seeking approval for something you can say as surely as anything has objective value and that you should be proud of is not the same as seeking approval for things that are subjectively valued by certain prostitutes and pussies. Seeking approval for being a really good special forces commando or a skilled musician is not the same as seeking approval from a woman by getting a gay tattoo or playing in an emo band or letting her frick other guys. Anyone who does not see a distinction between these two things needs to reconsider their life. You might say that a truly admirable man seeks approval from no one, save God, or himself; maybe, but making no distinction between legitimate and illegitimate sources of pride is not useful.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        >Men seek approval. At work, at school, from girls, from their friends, from their family. Every man is concerned with having a good reputation in his circle.
        Wrong. Real men don't seek approval, they put their stamp on the world and the quality of their output DEMANDS recognition whether others like them or not

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Confidence is an attractive trait in both genders, it isn't a one way street. Confidence is an indication of an emotionally well adjusted individual whom is socially competent, engaging, and has a healthy quantity of self worth, self esteem and self love. ie. The ideal circumstances for a romantic partner and thus why it is such a desirable trait.

      Because real confidence involves so many positive internal traits, it is difficult to convincingly fake. So instead most people who attempt to fake confidence come off as complete losers or obnoxious c**ts. is a good example of the latter, this anon clearly does not understand what confidence actually means and lacks a deeper emotional understanding of others so he just sees confident people doing particular actions and makes bad assumptions. Like touching an elephant blindfolded. You can seethe all day long, it won't change reality.

      >Seeking approval is a feminine trait

      Wrong.

      Men seek approval. At work, at school, from girls, from their friends, from their family. Every man is concerned with having a good reputation in his circle. Only the incels don't seek approval but good luck trying to be happy by being a unfrickable loser forever.

      is correct, approval is a social animal trait and has nothing to do with gender. If you remember from above, part of confidence is being socially competent. That means someone who can not only successfully start conversations with ease, but someone whom conforms to the social norms necessary to do so. Indeed, a confident person thrives in social situations and understands when and how societal rules can be bent.

      Confidence is something you just have to do the internal emotional work, and social practice, to achieve. It's mundane, tedious work. But that's not exciting so you'll all just seethe and cope and never get anywhere because you don't want to grow up or make the real changes to self necessary.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Great post, but it was really annoying how you misused whom. Whom is when the word who is the object of a sentence, but "individual" and "someone" were the objects.
        That shit is grating.
        Great post and insightful.
        To whom it may concern.

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          >Whom is when the word who is the object of a sentence, but "individual" and "someone" were the objects.

          literally what the frick are you even saying right now. explain this shit in understandable terms you schzio.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Who did this to whom. If the thing being replaced did something, it's who but if the thing being replaced had something done to it then it's whom

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            learn how word good

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Bingo. Inner peace, knowing and loving yourself. Being in tune with who you are. Then the outward love happens, I.e. being social, caring, emotional connection, i.e. what women (and yes, men too) want. How to get there? Religion, meditation, volunteer work, are good starters.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Who cares. Just do it. A confident doesn't think about how he became confident, he just is.
      > Men always say they want a chick big breasts and ass and is trad. How how does a chick become that?
      Do you care? No.
      Women just want a man who isn't cringe to be around. Who can take a joke, can take criticism, can handle the ups and downs of life without turning into a drunken alcoholic or a mall shooter. Has basic social skills. Doesn't have grudges, or weird hang ups and randomly gets triggered and starts lashing out. Who isn't always looking for a way to get passive-aggressive revenge against women. "Hurr durr girl rejected in me in high school so I avoid holding the door open for other random woman!"
      On a practical level, in the beginning, to make a good confident first impression: You dress like you are confident in your appearance, even if you don't look like a movie star, you at least have to confidence to reflect on what haircut and facial hair suits your face. Wear clothes that fit in a style that flatters your social position.

      > Seeking approval is a feminine trait
      That right there is lack of confidence. It means you are scared of thinking about how you come across so you throw your hands up helplessly and give up, or threw the chessboard on the ground and claimed you won.
      Incels almost never reflect on how they speak, what kind of vocabulary they use, their terrible posture, body language, when it oozes lack of confidence.
      But the thing is it's not about listing features and then working on each feature. If you are confident you just naturally act confident you don't have to think about it. Realistically, maybe think about a few things, but once you get the ball rolling and "get it" a person naturally exudes confidence.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Good post.

      >Seeking approval is a feminine trait

      Wrong.

      Men seek approval. At work, at school, from girls, from their friends, from their family. Every man is concerned with having a good reputation in his circle. Only the incels don't seek approval but good luck trying to be happy by being a unfrickable loser forever.

      Shit post (not shitpost, which are at least funny).

      If you're a normal man, your normal self will fit in naturally. You won't have to seek approval, it will come to you.

      Yes, this guy gets it.

  2. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    o la vica
    troia da sborrare

  3. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >But how does one actually become “confident?”
    It means physically attractive, nothing you can change.
    Women are deceptive and dishonest about their sexuality, do not take anything they say at face value.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Exactly. Personality traits are all made up bullshit anyway.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Exactly. Personality traits are all made up bullshit anyway.

      More cringe incel posts, frick off.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Found the female.

  4. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    You're going to die one day and eventually everyone you know and love will die too, effectively killing you a second time since your memory will be gone too. It will be as if you never even existed at all at that point.

    Stop worrying about such trifling things. Don't let your perceptions of what you think other people think of you hold you back. Despite how much of a fool you may have looked like when you approached that girl, she's probably going to forget about it by the next day. It all amounts to nothing in the end anyways, and that is a beautiful thing.

  5. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    You have to understand the female definition of confidence.
    In their eyes, handsome men are confident because they are more likely to shrug off or not care as much about female attention. Humans tend to do that when they have something in abundance. It's really that simple.
    They can spot "fake" confidence because average or ugly guys can't possibly be truly "confident".

  6. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    actually talk to them without spilling your spaghetti is a good start. Eye contact, etc.

    And then pass shit tests. And stop being so agreeable

  7. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    By having sex.
    How do you have sex? By having had sex.

  8. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    If you're the unfortunate ones, as in, the ones born with a consciousness, you learn to act confident with copious amount of bullshit.

    If you struggle with eye contact, try to focus on their nose or mouth instead.
    When you're filling your mind with worries on how they are perceiving you, have you noticed the lines on their faces? As in, the contours of the different elements that constitute their face? Isn't it fascinating how their nose protrude out of nowhere and then its lines go up and up above their eyes but then suddenly it turn sharp to the each side of their face?

    Honestly im sorry for rambling so much, considering im suicidal and bound to jump on the metro tracks any day now, that might be indicative of the worth of this "advice".

    Also yeah your issue might not be social/behavioral but actually something medical like low vitamind D, testosterone or sedentary lifestyle.

  9. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    "Confident" is code for "attractive and neurotypical". If an ugly guy is confident, they'll just view his as arrogant.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      That isn't at all true. Real confidence can never come off as arrogance. What is attractive comes down to the league you're in and individual preferences.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        You've indulged in the fatal mistake of taking people at their word. When people see someone ugly, they will immediately view everything they say or do in the most negative light possible. It works the opposite way when you're attractive. You could be 0.01 percentile in terms of extroversion and the same behavior that would be viewed as cowardly or creepy for others will instead be seen as "cute" or "mysterious" because they like the way you look. This is a very uncommon type of person, however, as being desired and well-liked your entire life will naturally make you extremely confident in yourself. It goes without saying that being ridiculed and ignored will naturally have the opposite effect.

  10. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Do you know what's a good recipe my great grandmother taught me? Just a splash of buttermilk, some cornbread, and some black pepper of the top. Shit's amazing.

  11. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Learn your limitations by pushing them. Take initiative in conversations or when things need doing and don't publicly take abuse from anyone, particularly women.

  12. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >But how does one actually become “confident?”
    Confidence in general is just trust/faith. This is earned over time.

    Self-confidence is self-trust. Do you trust yourself to be able to get what you want in life? Why, or why not?

  13. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Why do all prostitutes have a ring shaped light and why is it always reflecting in their eyes when they take selfies

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ring_flash

  14. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    The line between "confident man" and "selfish butthole" is so fine as to be nearly invisible

  15. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    You don't. I've never been confident, but my girl is always telling me how she wishes she could be more confident, like me. She says that's one of the things she's most attracted to by me. You can't try to be confident; it's an unconscious thing. The closest thing you can do is act as if you are confident. If you act it, but don't follow through when confrontation arises, it won't work. But if you act it and follow through, even if it isn't what you feel inside, it will often work. You'll still probably never feel it, though. And you may find that, even if acting confidently, despite how you feel inside, gets you what you want, occasionally, what you really wanted all along was the confidence: the ability to go through life unconsciously, without a worry. And that can probably never be synthesized.

  16. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >how to be confident
    You either had a life that facilitated that trait or you didn't. For those of us (myself included) that didn't - It's over. We are broken and worthless forever. We are the male equivalent of a girl with a 10+ bodycount. Noone will ever really love us and we have no value. All other takes are lies, cope, and delusion

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Guess that's why I'm with a girl with a 10+ bodycount.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        breasts or gtfo

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        You deserve better.

  17. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    by not caring what women think but knowing what they want and teasing them for more.

  18. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    In order to become socially confident you need to attain high self esteem. Genuine confidence is hard to fake because your subconscious state of mind (for better or worse) bleed through into your body language, eye movements, speech patterns and so on. If you have high self esteem and genuinely feel like you are a good person that is pleasant to be around and talk to you will feel no pressure to impress people and that will allow you to easily talk to people and effortlessly radiate confidence. In order to build self esteem you need to first figure out who you want to be (in terms of personality, hobbies, appearance), identify the means of becoming that person and incrementally challenge yourself.

  19. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Kek, when I was talking to my gf the other day, she said that she doesn't actually want me to become more confident or assertive since she likes my awkward self.
    I don't know what it's supposed to mean but I'm guessing I'm very lucky.

  20. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Imagine all the delusional neckbeards out there who act confident. Do you think they're drowning in pussy?

  21. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    By being genetically gifted in terms of physical attractiveness. Confidence and all that other shit is just what they say to avoid admitting that they just go for looks.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      this is incel confusion. extremely good looking guys turn girls off all the time by being non-dominant needy losers. the idea that being born good looking turns you into a dominant alpha is evidently not true although in theory it sounds like it would be

  22. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Try being a deformed freak who's been bullied all his life and then somehow be expected to pull confidence out of your ass.

  23. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    they mean they want a guide they can be a little girl around and follow him everywhere he goes, inversely that means he's a leader that doesn't need outward affirmation from her or anyone else
    in practice it'll look like the guy teasing her a lot, and when she teases him he'll ignore her or pat her on the head, or tickle her. inversely a homosexual will be hurt by any kind of teasing from a girl (e.g. why there's a special word for homosexuals called 'shit testing' for just being teased)
    worth noting that actual badasses who could kill everyone in the room are often gigantic pussies with women. being confident with the world doesn't mean you aren't a b***h towards your girl. they're like different skillsets entirely

  24. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Confidence comes from years of benefiting from the halo effect. It cannot be faked. Women like winners who've always been winners and will continue to be winners. If you are or were ever a loser it's already over.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >Women like winners who've always been winners and will continue to be winners. If you are or were ever a loser it's already over.
      not true. women love losers if they're rich. Charlie Sheen still gets women. serial killers have women attracted to them. OJ Simpson still posts videos of blonde 21 year olds partying at his house

  25. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    If you are in the 7% of men women find attractive it will be easier.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      This. If you're attractive enough, most of what you do will be perceived as confident.

  26. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Age. When you stop giving a shit, confidence comes naturally.

  27. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    My becoming competent. If you are good at something. Then do it publicly. When you are good at something you don't have to lie and seem confident. You are confident, it is the truth. This means self improvement, become fit, get educated, get a job that works for your lifestyle including what that means for a potential mate, save a nice amount of money, live independently, social skills and so on. Do what you know is good for you Anon. And do it well. She'll think its hot that you are a swiss army knife for life, and it will be likely that she will come to you with many of those things as well.

  28. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    you ever talk to somebody and you can tell they aren't sure of themselves or the things they say?

  29. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Just choose a dark triad personality and become it. Otherwise, youre looking at 5-10 years of everythingmaxxing.

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