Women never tell me why they reject me, they just say something vague like "you're not my type".

Women never tell me why they reject me, they just say something vague like "you're not my type". This is driving me insane, how am I supposed to fix myself if there is nothing wrong with me on paper.

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  1. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >Women never tell me why they reject me,
    nice guy ick probably

    they can never be direct , thats the rule of their subspecies.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >they can never be direct , thats the rule of their subspecies.

      Yeah they are garbage.

  2. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Because they know saying "you're nice, stable, and inoffensive, and I find that awfully boring. I'd much rather find someone with a more exciting and forceful personality" makes them sound insane, and it'd hurt your feelings. "You're not my type" is both completely true and avoids being hurtful or psychotic-sounding.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Personality is looks anon.
      OP is ugly.
      And by ugly I mean, most probably average.

  3. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    https://www.girlschase.com/article/whyd-she-reject-you-3-rejection-factors
    https://www.girlschase.com/article/5-super-common-reasons-guys-get-rejected-girls

    https://www.hotseatathome.com/members/wp-content/uploads/2015/12/TylerDurdens-Classic-Posts-Collection.pdf#page51

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Game is a scam. Either you are compatible or you are not

  4. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Because its nothing to fix. You give them the ick. That's who you are.

  5. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    There is nothing you can fix, so why should they bother? It'll just piss you off, and put them at risk of getting beat up.

  6. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    me personally i don't see much hope, nowdays especifically. I'm just thinking about just going MGTOW and give up honestly.

  7. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    You probably have a personality disorder You need medication and therapy

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      I have both.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Okay
        When that happens again

        here's what You do

        You tell them
        That it's a relief they Say it first
        Elaborate on how much miserable Your life is and start crying

        Or just pick an ugly chick next time

  8. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >Look in mirror
    >Say "Want to go out?"
    >...
    >Results

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      When your tulpa asks you why you're talking to yourself

  9. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    the thing that's wrong with you is a thing that causes men to get confrontational or violent when it gets pointed out. that can help narrow things down.

  10. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Nobody owes you help. You need to learn yourself what the hell is wrong with you.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >Nobody owes you help. You need to learn yourself what the hell is wrong with you.
      This +it's insane incel thinking to think they all have one reason they could reveal to you and fix things. They're allowed to just be variously not interested or at like aa 5/10 and they'd rather just leave after the first half of the date and get extra time to wash clothes before bed. Not everything you're being rejected for is the biggest flaw in the world that needs aa story behind it

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >Nobody owes you help.
      NTA but why are you here then, offering such "advice"?

  11. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    You're probably shorter than 6 feet tall.

  12. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    you may be ugly

  13. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    They probably scored some gigachad, and don't want to admit they're disloyal, so they reject you without really having a valid reason.

    "you're not my type"
    "it's not the right time"
    etc.

    Default answers for I found someone I like better, so I'm going to get rid of you.

  14. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    The problem is you're not strong enough and you don't make enough money.

  15. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    "You're not my type" means you are not ugly, but (surprisingly) you are not their type. I know incels don't believe this, but girls like different types of guys. You just need to try more to find a girl who considers you to be her type.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      if every girl you have gone on a date with says youre not their type and you fail to get a second date, it means youre fricking ugly. im a fricking freak

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        How did you manage to get the dates in the first place? If you truly were ugly, they wouldn't go out with you at all

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          Not really, women will sometimes agree to a date if you're nice enough without any real romantic or sexual interest.
          >t. literal goblin man

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        You not being their type IS why they reject you and it's a perfectly valid reason. And you're not supposed to "fix" that, you're supposed to date someone you're compatible with who will think you're her type (and she is your type, equally important).

        No, it means you're just lame and boring and dry them up like the Sahara. If you were an ugly freak why would they have gone on a date with you to begin with? Stop the cope.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >you are not their type.
      sure. the ugly type.

  16. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    yeah, they should just be honest and upfront. im going to give up. its not worth it. only brings pain, suffering, misery, sadness, and self hatred

  17. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    So you have a place, live alone by yourself, have a job, a car, and present yourself at dates wearing clean clothes and well groomed?
    At what point exactly they reject you?
    Before a second date?

  18. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    dude, billion of people in the world, thousands of types.
    come back crying after your first thousand girls whom you don't type with. finding the right peron takes time and effort

  19. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >how am I supposed to fix myself if there is nothing wrong with me on paper.
    Dating isn't an equation, and not all women are the same.
    "Fixing" yourself for one woman will make you unattractive to another, and the mindset that going out with a woman is fully within your control, as long as you learn the right sequence of buttons, is itself a deeply unattractive one to most women.

    Even if these women gave you specifics, you'd likely argue with them on why they should accept you. While there may be some areas where you could broadly improve, that doesn't mean any particular woman will be interested in you afterwards.
    Sometimes, they're just not interested, and vague lines like "you're not my type" are a polite, low-conflict way for them to signal guys to move on.

  20. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    There isn't anything wrong with you.
    Stop assuming that women's failure to be attracted to you is your problem.

  21. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    The fact that youdo not understand what "you are not my type" means kinda hints to me that you are dating people based on just their looks or some narcissist minimum of "payed attention to me"; while you should be dating people based on how good your dynamic actually is. If there is no chemistry there should be no interest from your side either, and as such term "rejection" would not really apply. Rejection is what teenagers and old-time friends may experience, not some adult randos seeing each other for the first time.
    You should have a type. And everybody else does already. And there is nothing to fix there, relationships are not a theatre, you should be honest and authentic in them. Or you will be miserable for life.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      This post screams of entitlement, and ignorance of how the dating process really works.

  22. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Constant rejection? Your face lacks bone projection. They give you a chance because they like the attention. "You're not my type" because it's polite, women's priority is maintaining their social perception.

  23. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    A lot of women don't ever honestly articulate what they find attractive or unattractive and can barely verbalise it outside the "ick" meme. And really you probably don't want them to be honest because it's likely an inalienable aspect of your looks or personality. All that matters if they don't like you so the only common thread you can change is how you are treating them, asking for their opinion will be useless.

  24. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    You're just not my type. Anon. And I can't tell you why simply because you don't deserve to know. And that'd all there is to it.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Do women understand this makes men want to beat the shit out of them when they say this kind of trash?

  25. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >how am I supposed to fix myself if there is nothing wrong with me on paper.
    You're so close to the solution man.
    There IS nothing inherently wrong with you. Even then, do you really think changing yourself to suit others, no matter who it is, is the path to happiness?

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      This just sounds like cope. There's clearly something unattractive if no girl is attracted to you. If every woman rejects you and you are alone, it's worth changing

  26. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    So here's the reason why they don't tell you, and why employers don't tell you why you've been rejected either;
    Men are fricking drama queens and they're more often than not dangerous.

    There, I said it.

    If a girl told you why she's not into you she has to strike a fine balance of saying the truth and dealing with the potential fallout of doing so.
    That is a problem for several reasons; Every single guy will instantly try to convince you otherwise and start arguing about the back and fourth of why [girl's] opinion is completely wrong and why he's "a totally nice guy".
    Now those guys are blind to other perspectives then their own and girls are neither here to give you therapy, nor dealing with your fits of rage.
    And speaking of that: It's simply a fact that girls are weaker than guys, and that there's actual danger involved for girls. That means not only physical violence but also other types of abuse.

    And there's also various amounts of drama that directly spawn off shit like that, even if it was just a date that didn't go as he hoped it would go.

    And all of that can be avoided by giving the guy you've just spent three hours with a bullshit answer.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Do women understand this makes men want to beat the shit out of them when they say this kind of trash?

      Perfect example kek

      Men (the type to use NSFFW) will respond to any given reason with either coping, inventing their own reasons, minmaxing like it's a strategy game or chimping out. There is nothing you can do to make a man as angry as rejecting him does and there is no good way to reject a man, because they do not see you as a human individual. They genuinely see you as a box holding something they want that arbitrarily decided to close itself to frick with him specifically
      There is no getting through, and that's why ghosting is better. I'd even say ghosting/fading out is the wisest choice when men show bad traits because no matter how much you beg and plead and explain, he will either refuse to change or worse, learn to hide it better for next time

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Telling a man how and why you rejected him is a waste of time, men will scream until they're blue in the face that they "just want to know how to improve" while they're just finding new ways to cope and hate you for every valid reason you give. It doesn't matter! If you get to this point with a male, he won't get it. Because he doesn't want to. The smartest thing to do is to get out and to avoid pissing him off the best you can, like you would with a violent moron (see: Lenny from mice and men)

  27. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I'm saving this thread and then typing out a longer reply.

  28. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    > how am I supposed to fix myself
    Take... The Looks Pill anon. See pic.
    Your looks ARE your personality.
    You are probably rated ugly by most women. Therefore you are entirely undesirable.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Men will also do copes like this for two reasons
      1. Men legitimately only care about looks and project this trait on women
      2. Men can NOT accept any fault and must invent copes that they can feel persecuted for such as having a negative canthal tilt or whatever minmaxed term incels have invented next

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        It's a set of observations anon that explain extremely well most female behaviour, not copes at all.
        "You are not my type" is just the female way of saying "You are too ugly, I know I can do better, and you even having the gall to approach me makes me feel ugly too, but I don't want to appear shallow.".
        It's just Occam's razor anon.
        There are some things op can do about his appearance, but they are relatively limited in benefits unless he's literally just fat.
        He's probably better off working on secondary though less important aspects of female attraction. Like money.

  29. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >Women never tell me why they reject me
    Honestly, they don't need a reason. But maybe you could ask a girl who knows you, like a cousin or a sister or something.

  30. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    [...]

    (cont.) it's impossible to be attractive to all types of women, at least for 99 % of men (inb4 women only want the 1%, yes, I know they do) so you've got to get into the top of a specific category, the one you already attract. Now in my case that doesn't help because I seem to attract exploitative prostitutes looking for a therapist in between their hunts for excitement, but there's the potential for a good line of thinking here. It seems that I am more attractive to artsy girls and that I fall hard for sporty girls, so I'll focus on those two groups the coming year. Sporty girls might also think less of me in terms of "boring" and more in terms of "goal-oriented" if they're deep enough in a sports mentality. Art girls might think "emotionally competent" instead of "wuss". It's worth a shot, I've got nothing else to do.

    [...]
    Perfect example kek

    Men (the type to use NSFFW) will respond to any given reason with either coping, inventing their own reasons, minmaxing like it's a strategy game or chimping out. There is nothing you can do to make a man as angry as rejecting him does and there is no good way to reject a man, because they do not see you as a human individual. They genuinely see you as a box holding something they want that arbitrarily decided to close itself to frick with him specifically
    There is no getting through, and that's why ghosting is better. I'd even say ghosting/fading out is the wisest choice when men show bad traits because no matter how much you beg and plead and explain, he will either refuse to change or worse, learn to hide it better for next time

    >They genuinely see you as a box holding something they want that arbitrarily decided to close itself to frick with him specifically
    I've done this a lot, especially when I was <25. It couldn't appear any other way to me and I felt very, very hurt. I didn't ape out at the women, I was just hurt and angry. Your expression of this behavior gave me a new viewpoint, thank you. I think the challenge is to
    >not minmax and see the woman as a puzzle
    >play the numbers game that dating is for men
    and
    >not end up with a prostitute
    at the same time, and the first one is the easiest to lose track of because the other two are conducive to it.

    I have to go to work now but I'd really like to keep discussing this if the thread is up in 10 or so hours. These two posts were mostly venting to get the day started. The takeaway points are
    >what if I don't have to let the bullshit get to me
    >what if women actually have different preferences
    >what if I'm not weak, I just make myself weak by thinking that that's how people see me
    >a line of thinking I get from a faulty interpretation of my interactions with girls because I don't know myself well enough

  31. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I think saying not my type implies something is wrong and unfair if its said by a guy or a girl. I know people want to know why something didn't work but its not always something done or not done or something lacking. I can only think of when in university I was interested in getting to know two guys that couldn't have been more different. I went out with both at different times casually and sex was not a consideration. One was clever, good looking, fun and spontaneous and the other serious, good looking, smart and on the baseball team. I enjoyed being with clever and fun and all other girls jealous but the smart and serious guy made me feel safe and I never felt like we would compete against each other but work together. So how could you describe why not to the guy I did not end up with? Neither was "my type" which to me more physical. But anyway one day serious guy "spontaneously" kissed me and I knew. So next time I saw fun guy I kissed him and knew immediately he wasn't the one.

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