dating and ambivalence

>be me
>see start attending a church
>get along really well with a girl i like
>stop going because i had to move
>end up moving back into the area
>see her again
>she runs up to me and gives me a deep hug
>do my own thing for a while
>start thinking about her along
>think about asking her out but also am kinda apathetic a bit too
what should i do? i kinda like this girl but i also feel apathetic/ambivilant about the whole situation. part of me feels lazy and feels like it's too much effort but the other side is telling me to take the opportunity while it's there. i'm not sure if she likes me or not since i'm not good with picking up on signals. what should i do?

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  1. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Might as well try doing something, anon. You got anything better to do? Doubt it.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      yeah, i might as well. i'm probably just being lazy more than anything i guess. one moment i like her then the next i'm like "do i really" "should i bother if i'm half hearted and hurt her along the way" but i dunno, i might as well do it and just take the band aid off in one movement

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        If you end up loving her, you end up loving her. If you don't, you part ways. If you're being a responsible person throughout, I don't see anything blameworthy in just seeing where life takes you.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        https://i.imgur.com/f37Rtkx.jpeg

        >be me
        >see start attending a church
        >get along really well with a girl i like
        >stop going because i had to move
        >end up moving back into the area
        >see her again
        >she runs up to me and gives me a deep hug
        >do my own thing for a while
        >start thinking about her along
        >think about asking her out but also am kinda apathetic a bit too
        what should i do? i kinda like this girl but i also feel apathetic/ambivilant about the whole situation. part of me feels lazy and feels like it's too much effort but the other side is telling me to take the opportunity while it's there. i'm not sure if she likes me or not since i'm not good with picking up on signals. what should i do?

        Black person, good luck finding a church girl 20 years from now when you'll realize how much of a dumbass you were

  2. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Action or inaction.
    Action.

    Its possible the drive to be with her will come after it starts. Just be aware of how you feel and communicate. Make sure she knows you like her and want to try TO try.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >action
      i know i have to act, the problem is that i chicken out every time i go to do it or get too anxious to approach

      [...]
      Black person, good luck finding a church girl 20 years from now when you'll realize how much of a dumbass you were

      i know and i know this girl is pretty good too so it's only a matter of time before she loses interests and finds someone else. hopefully she just doesn't see me as a friend. not sure if the hug thing was just her being friendly of if it was a sign that went right over my head

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        You're overthinking it. She could like you as a friend or a partner, its all down to if you make a move or not.
        Theres no certainty in this, but this chances are unlikely that she'll just grow to like you like that.
        You to go for it, thats your best bet. Ask her out, be honest with how you're feeling, maybe she'll like that you're nervous to ask.

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          stupid question but what's an ideal place for a first date? i'd hate for her to say yes and be like "well ii didn't think i'd get this far"

          in my mind i'm like what if she just tolerates me but you're right i'm overthinking this and i'll need to actually ask her to see where i am with her

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            If its something you need an answer for then its not a stupid question. What is there locally? Art galleries, a small event, boardgames shops are popular. something where you can talk and also have something to fall back on as a topic.

            You've got to shoot your shot. Sometimes women do "see you that way" until you make your move.
            Just be sure to talk clearly and with confidence.
            Best of luck.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            thanks, i think i've got the picture. my final worry is that we'll go on a date but she'll just see it as two friends hanging out but i don't think she would be that dense. i think if a guy is asking a girl it's pretty obvious

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            You're still hung up on her seeing you as a friend.
            Ask her out, enjoy each others company, make her laugh. Be bold.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        ask her out idiot
        >hey anonette wanna go in the park and feed the ducks by the lake?
        simple as that
        when you meet her there give her a hug
        try to hold her hands
        etc

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          there's a park/garden i know about that's really popular, maybe that would be better than just a coffee date and actually stand out.
          >just do x...
          i know, i know but i've actually never done this before and kinda look at stuff like step 1, 2 etc. i'm just hoping i can do it confidently and not look anxious

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >there's a park/garden i know
            perfect
            >i've actually never done this before and kinda look at stuff like step 1, 2
            try not to spill your spaghetti
            >i'm just hoping i can do it confidently and not look anxious
            as long as she accepts the invitation, there's nothing to worry about
            she's into you and unless you do some nuclear autism, everything will work out fine

  3. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    now leave this god forsaken shithole and message her, you goddamn moron
    or go to church if you don't have her number
    I'd kill to be in your shoes

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Donate your meme reaction folder to someone.
      Shower, get a good hair cut, wear some new and nice clothes.
      Go meet some people, talk with confidence.
      Meet a girl, if you like her and you think she likes you, then ask her out.
      You can do it.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        I live in the middle of nowhere on the countryside, I have little to no money, and for now I'm working on my technique and repertoire
        sorry b0ss, this year I'm busy

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >message her
      can't do since she doesn't do social media (or used to but then stopped) which i see as a plus these days.
      >kill to be in your shoes
      her sister is friendly and cute too but i'm like 80-90 percent decided on this girl. her dad is a nice guy and her family all seem to like me so this all seems to be lining up for me
      >i'd kill to be in your shoes
      it unironically happens when you least suspect it. stuff happens in life and like a tree that branches out causes things that cause other things that happen which lead you to a girl, life is unpredictable

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