Just created some dating app profiles not too long ago on tinder, hinge, and bumble after about a year of not being on them due to school and work.
unlike however when I was last on them I'm not getting any success despite basically having the same profile that racked up like 50 likes in only a few days, now I can't break 20 in a week and a single match that never responded.
Do I just delete and restart in a few weeks or will they decide to shadow ban/blacklist me for whatever stupid reason they have. If not then what do I fricking do to either get noticed or to have a chance with people I've already swiped on and matched/chatted with in the past but not anymore? It's all so tiresome
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Don't even bother. Just don't.
I work too much to be able to start another hobby that I don't already have to meet a girl
What choice do I have?
I'm in the exact same boat as you and I'm telling you it's not worth it. Tinder is literally the only place where girls seem to have any interest in me but when I try talking to them after we match they immediately drop me.
well then what do you want me to do aside from just giving up and being an incel as you're basically suggesting to me
I've been asking myself the same thing, I wish I knew.
Go back to university. It's your only chance.
I may be pretty frustrated but I don’t subscribe to this level of defeatism
Especially when like I said I USED to have success
>but when I try talking to them after we match they immediately drop me.
That's because they have 500 other dudes in their inbox. I'm scratching my head why this girl chose to meet up with me of all people, I look decent with a great body but live at home and am currently jobless.
It's just chance. These apps are denigrating
Don't
I have so much going for me and consider myself above average in looks and general charm but I can't convince a 6/10 with barely a bio to hold a conversation with me, it really doesn't matter.
This is the only girl I've ever met off any app ever. Everyone else was an IRL interaction. I'm a 6/10 according to this website but I'm NSFFW and people like talking to me for some reason
>I look decent with a great body but live at home and am currently jobless
They don't care about your job moron they want your dick
Neither of us have a place of our own. She could've easily found someone who had one and looked as good or better than me
My body is on point though
I got about 25 matched between all 3 apps the first few times last year, now I'm barely over 10. Did actually meet a girl off it this time though. Dumb luck. Just had the second date yesterday and i think it's secured.
Remember the universal truth: dating apps exist only to make money from lonely and desperate men.
I’m aware of how predatory they are and I’m not giving them any money just to see the fifteen 4/10’s that like me
Delete, and do not EVER restart.
Online dating has destroyed the very concept of dating, and it has essentially turned dating into a MMORPG game of sorts.
If you find an appeal in playing the game, then by all means, play on. Create a new character if your previous one didn't get too far.
I will have no problem with people using dating apps if they are honest about their intentions, and are willing to accept honest criticism with dignity, but if you are going to be like the rest who lie about their intentions as well as the value of online dating to society overall, then you will have to accept whatever outcome of you taking part in online dating.
If you end up getting scammed or robbed and people laugh at you for it, you have to accept it with dignity. After all, it was as a result of your decision to seek a dating partner through an app.
If you end up getting killed as a result of getting matched with the wrong person, people will laugh at your death and make memes about it here.
If you end up meeting the perfect dating partner, and if you boast about your experience on the app, people will laugh at you for being unable to understand the concept of luck/probability the same way people laugh at those who pay the stupidity tax (playing the weekly lotto)
If you are going to be an indignant butthole, you're better off deleting the app.
Most sensible people do much beyond having a cheap laugh at the expense of the users of dating apps, but there are some people like me who, if given a position of high authority by luck, will hold you accountable for aiding and abetting the destruction of society.
Don't kid yourself that using the app responsibly isolates you from the liability of the app and the overall harm the app does to society.
One more user means the app has that much more influence over society.
Ever since covid, they've changed these apps to make them less effective for non paying users, to the point that now they might as well be a fully paid service. They simply don't work if you don't pay anymore. And if you pay it just means your profile is seen more, you don't automatically become more attractive.
Also I suspect a lot of girls subconsciously don't want guys who are on dating apps, even if they themselves are on them anyway. Being on a dating app is perceived by them as something "sad" and "desperate", like you couldn't get a woman the normal way and had to rely on an app. Obviously this doesn't need to be the case, but women probably can't help but see it like that and gives them negative bias towards any guy on the app before they even initiate a conversation.
Fair enough but then what do I do?
I work 5-6 days a week until I hopefully start my new job in fall/winter with a 4 day workweek. I don’t exactly have the option to meet someone organically through picking up and committing to a new hobby
You do nothing, tons of people have this problem now and there is no real solution that doesn't feel wholly unnatural. You have to somehow figure out where eligible women are available and force being there often and "organically" into your lifestyle. Same with trawling instagram for women like a weirdo I guess which apparently what everybody does now.
Isn’t there a lawsuit going on that should be doing something eventually?
I’ve heard and know it’s gotten worse but that doesn’t explain how I know guys who still get tons of matches even today without paying. They’re good looking for sure but I wouldn’t call them supermodels by any stretch
Dating apps appear to be on the downward trajectory and it seems like fewer and fewer women who actually want to date use these. They're on the instagrams or whatever. The app developers are also desperate to get you to use premium features so the free app will naturally become less usable over time.