Gf and I had an argument a few nights ago and told me she resents me because she left her ex for me and regrets it.
I asked her why she's still with me then if that's how she feels and the only reason being that she hates living with her parents and would be forced to move back with them if we broke up. We've been dating for almost 2 years and I considered the majority of that time good. I won't pretend I'm a perfect boyfriend, but i've never cheated on her and have taken care of her 100 percent financially since we started dating. I want to believe that she only said that out of anger, but if that's how she really feels I would have no respect for myself if I stayed with her.
However she is not a functional adult and will have no future unless she's with a man.
>21
>cant drive
>never worked a job
>dropped out of college
>family is living in poverty
>from a small town of 3000 people
Her saving grace is that she takes care of the house, cooks, will be a good mother, and is very cute. Sending her back to her parents would be a death sentence for her future and I still love and care about her.
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Just have a talk with her about it,if that's how she really feels you should break up with her,she could leave you if she finds another man to rely on.
>I want to believe that she only said that out of anger
Of course she only actually expressed her uncensored thoughts out of anger.
Do not marry a stupid girl just because she is cute. In 10 years, she will just be stupid.
Truth
Yeah, I'd agree. Being good at housework is bottom barrel talent. Same for men.
I say keep her
Why?
Lmfao the frick you mean "out of anger"? She clearly told you she's only with you because you provide for her. I'd kick her ass out on the street.
It's time to let go OP
>regrets being with you
>only doing it for the financial security, not because of you
>doesn't appreciate what you do for her
It's only a matter of time before she jumps ship the moment she meets a guy who she likes more and is willing to house her. You aren't obligated to help her just because she's a mess of her own design. A good mother she won't be, she's unhappy here after all.
You deserve happiness with a woman who wants YOU, she deserves to reap what she sowed and reflect on her actions to be a better person.
This.
>the only reason being that she hates living with her parents and would be forced to move back with them if we broke up.
I don't see anything wrong with that? You're with her because she's cute and a good housewife, she's with you because you provide for her, what's the issue here?
Imagine being this beta and low selfsteem to keep a prostitute who doesn’t like you living for free in your house for the sake of a fake GF Jesus.
Op don’t be a dick, tell her right away you won’t be her fake ass pussy boyfriend. That (if you can) keep her home while she finds someone else she likes she can stay a while(you define, 2.4,6,8,12 months whatever). And meanwhile you will be meeting new Girls because this “relationship” is useless and wastes your time.
Also she disrespected you big time and she’s in no position to do so. Only your mom and maybe your dad are allowed to do so? They changed your diapers while crying and shitting a lot of fricking years, this girl you’ve met 2 years and only parasites out of you.
>Imagine being this beta and low selfsteem to keep a prostitute who doesn’t like you living for free in your house for the sake of a fake GF Jesus
Your idealistic concept of love pushed by Disney movies is not representative of reality.
I can tell you've never experienced love. You look at couples as if its a business transaction
I'm 30 and single and now I regret dumping girls for the idealistic love you talk about. If I had just stuck with someone that I didn't love but was a good partner I'd probably be happier today.
To be 30 year old you talk like a teenager. If you don’t find someone good enough you stay single. What the frick is that “just stick with someone even if didn’t like her that much” shit? That’s what prepubescent teenagers do because they fear being alone. No wonder you talk about muh disney induced love, only homosexuals use those moronic terms
Throw her the frick out. Let her parents deal with her. She’ll be fine, it’s not OP’s job to provide for someone who clearly does not respect him and does not appreciate it.
Date for love, not for benefits, and even then, there are very few.
Women who do not love you and have nothing to offer are no more than parasites.
You can keep her if you want but remember she will leave you if she finds better options. Use her for what you want ( sex, cleaning house...) but also look for other girls maybe you find a rare one that will love you gor the person you are.
Imagine if you were with someone who could have a future after leaving you and they said "the only reason you're still with me is that you wanted a housewife" out of anger.
You two are perfect for each other- go make up
I’m sure she meant it, you don’t say things like that and not mean it. Anon this is beyond a red flag. It’s amazing you even have to ask a question when it’s so obvious you should leave her. Have some self respect.
Believe me she’ll be fine. Girls are very good at taking care of themselves and she’ll find another guy to take care of her. Worry about yourself, like what happens 5 years from now when she finds that guy anyway and leaves your ass. You irony is that you are the one in danger here, not her, worry about yourself.
>er back to her parents would be a death sentence for her future and I still love and care ab
dump her, she'll figure it out in time. if she told you that she probably secretly wants you to end things
You are pathethic, tell her to frick off
Man you have to dump her. When a "better" guy is her eyes comes around she'll hop over without a second thought, and that will happen eventually its only a matter of time. good luck anon.
Have a serious talk about it
Its something that can still be corrected, but if left unchecked WILL lead to her leaving you eventually.
Ask her what she does that makes her feel like that, we don't really have her side so its hard to give an accurate answer but people don't choose to mentally be in the situation she is in, there is probably a path to both of you being happy together.
Honestly man, i may be the only one here who won’t hate you for being a simp and taking care of her. It would be the right thing to do. But you cannot stay romantically involved with her. IMO you should stop “dating” her and become roommates and agree to help her out. That is what I would do with my current live-in gf.
Taking care of financials is great, but do NOT mistake it for romance. Your partner will appreciate it, but it will also rack him or her with guilt, breed some amount of resentment (unless they fill a complimentary role, e.g. a SAHM situation), and it doesn’t stimulate the irrational, romantic part of our brains. It also breeds adverse incentives, reasons to stay even if she doesn’t like you (see: your current situation). Take this as a lesson to be more cautious in the future.
She doesn't love you. You're just another cuck.
Kick her out and stop being such a pussy.
>Tells you she still wants her ex
>Tells you she's only with you for your house and finances
While I do give her credit for her honesty, women will say anything they can to hurt you during a fight, even if it means telling the truth and exposing themselves (because they'll believe whatever you did is three times worse, so it's justified; simple Women Logic)
You pretty much know that once she finds someone better, she will leave your ass, no matter how much you care about her - she's already a self-claimed parasite and you seem to only care for her because she's some weird projection of your mother.
Grow up, man up. There's more b***hes like her out there. Maybe you'll luck out and find a girl that really wants to be with you and not just live in the same house.
Have some self respect.
Why would you stay with her?
Break up with her and kick her out
You're a cuck if you stay with her bro. Yourself over everyone and she clearly told you how she really feels
>will be a good mother
Are you really thinking about your future with a girl who has absolutely no ability to take care of herself at all, or follow through with basic stuff like holding a job, learning to drive or finishing college? You know deep down that she's helpless when you expect her to fester back home indefinitely until another meal ticket comes along instead of ever getting a job and making things happen for herself. She doesn't even take responsibility for her own relationship choices: it's your fault that she left her ex and is now unhappy.
She sounds like someone who folds at any sign of adversity and has no qualms about leeching to get by. Do you expect your relationship to survive any sort of financial difficulties?
What does she even bring to the table at the moment while you work all day and take care of the finances? You're kidding yourself if you think a stay-at-home gf with no kids isn't basically on NEET-mode 90% of the day outside of the couple of hours it takes to cook and wipe down some tables. Doesn't she ever feel bad that she contributes nothing financially?
Dump the bawd. Shes just using you for a place to stay and your money. She admitted it and yet you continue with this Obama nation. She can live with her parents thats not your problem. She cant even get along with her parents thst kust shows how immature her brain is. Kick her out
Are the parents Muslim who practice sharia law?
No.
She most likely made up some bullshit about her parents just you'd take her in like a good cuck lol
As someone who lived this for 7 years, end it now or live a miserable life where you hope something kills you without you having to do the job yourself. Your self worth and pride is more important than this woman's future, get a grip
>Gf and I had an argument a few nights ago and told me she resents me because she left her ex for me and regrets it.
strike 1, 2, and 3 right there
>I asked her why she's still with me then if that's how she feels and the only reason being that she hates living with her parents and would be forced to move back with them if we broke up.
strike 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, and 10.
the only answer to that is. "you better call your parents then. pack your shit and get out of my house."
>I still love and care about her.
Why?
btw she won't be a good mother. BPD b***hes like her are not.
no girl is worth putting up with the kind of disrespect you were shown.
She left her boyfriend for you, and you're surprised when she turns out to not value the men she's with? Wild, bruh. I hope you work it out soon.
>Sending her back to her parents would be a death sentence for her future and I still love and care about her.
Jesus, you disgust me. You deserve to be burdened with her.
>not a functional adult
>loser
>parasite
>from lazy ass poorgay family
>will be a good mother
lol, u dumb.
Tbh, I think it might be that she feels those feelings about herself and hasn't dealt with those feelings with a therapist or even herself. So if I was you I would tell her that she need to help her self, ie read hooks about personal development and how to heal any childhood traumas that might have/ are affecting her rn. & you too work on yourself so you understand why people do things and why people are the way they are. Mostly st3m from inner pain and not loving/forgiving yourself from your past actions and moving forward