How do I stop being jealous of women for how easy it is for them to get laid? They don't even have to try.
My ex-gf is definitely winning in life. It's been 6 months, and she's probably fricked like 10-15 dudes. I barely managed to sleep with 4 girls. It's frustrating to know she's beating me at life.
Consider seeing women's side of the coin, and how you place value in where women have it easy, but you're not placing value in the areas you have it easy.
That is if you actually want to stop being jealous of women and aren't just venting because you don't have easy access to sex.
I do actually want to try to stop being jealous of women. It's taking a toll on my mental health.
Serious question, where do I have it easy as a man compared to a woman besides something small like walking in the park at night.
My ex-gf, she is a gorgeous mid twenties woman. She has
>Unlimited access to sex
>Unlimited access to attention whenever she wants it, dating apps, she can upload a pic on insta and get immediate validation
>Unlimited access to parties and social things because she's a pretty girl
>She's broke, but no one judges her because she's a girl
>She's allowed to show her emotions because she's a woman and she's encouraged to do so
And she had the audacity to constantly complain about men and how much she hates men. I still don't understand what massive advantage we have in the modern day, besides physical strength, that really isn't even a big deal. Social things matter most in life, so women have it waaaay easier. It makes me so jealous, it's way easier for a woman to live life to the fullest.
Fricking more guys is not winning at life. Getting a long term, stable relationship with a faithful guy is.
You're projecting the testosterone worldview into a fundamentally different type of person.
>Serious question, where do I have it easy as a man compared to a woman besides something small like walking in the park at night.
I don't get taken seriously as much as men at work, despite having better ideas. I get spoken over. I didn't get a raise this time, despite having compliments from the entire company and despite deserving it, and yet, my male colleague did. Which I did bring up to the company but it's annoying that this is happening in the first place.
I have to always prove I know about my work expertise while my male colleagues are taken at face value.
It's also significantly more unsafe for me to exist outside without another person, as the last time I took a walk by myself, still at 7pm I got followed by a guy.
Also things like me being this apartment's owner, and when we're having a building hall meeting, I don't get addressed despite being the one talking, and men only speak to my husband, despite him not owning the house.
Shit like men addressing me by "girl" when I'm nearly 30 in a professional fricking setting. Thankfully not the CEO or anyone actually important, but clients and other male colleagues do this.
Another thing is despite my 2 brothers being capable, I'm always expected to be the one cooking at gatherings like Christmas for 12 people alone (which I make a point of not doing, and ask everyone to bring something, and then causes all sorts of pearl clutching).
Truly for many things that are not romantic/sexual, I'm always having this uphill battle about having to show that I'm rational and know what I'm talking about.
and forgot to add
is right, you're only looking through testosterone tinted glasses.
Sex isn't everything, just like my other issues aren't everything. It's just that typically women have it better one some matters and men have it better on other matters.
Okay, while you do have some disadvantages fine, they pale in comparison to the disadvantages of being a man, and it's not even close. If we switched places and you bcame the average male, you'd trade in a heartneat
Sex is living life to the fullest. You get limitless sex and partying and social attentio. just because you're a woman.
My hot ex gf is living her best life, parrying, doing coke, fricking random dudes, she gets infinite social attention and sex, she never has to be lonely, just because she's a woman, and she had the audacity to hate men and complain about men, when women clearly have it better
You didn't convince me at all, I acknowledge the disadvantages you listed yes, but life to the fullest is sex and you know that deep down, you're lucky
You place far too much value on sex
No I don't. Sex is living life to the fullest, and it goes hand in hand with social attention, which is what we as humans desire most at the core. Everything is sexually motivated.
Women are SO privileged in that regard. They have nearly infinite access to sex, they get to make the most out of their lives of endless pleasure and attention. They get to make an onlyfans and travel to Dubai and post snap stories about it then have the hutzpah to complain about men??
Sure Women have disadvantages of course, but who cares if you can deadlift more when you have limitless sexual exploration.
They push this narrative that men suck and have it better, but they would be begging to go back if they switched circumstances with an average man. It just doesn't seem balanced at all.
Oh well, I'm just so jealous of Women, so jealous they get to live their lives to the fullest. I just carry this jealously. It makes me so mad to know that my ex is dominating in life just because she's a woman
hold on let me just make my life better by having infinite access to my own pussy
get fricked
Fine, I guess we don't understand each other perspectives, we clearly feel strongly about it but see it differently
All I know is, my exgf is winning in life because of how easy the social stuff is for her, and it just doesn't seem fair or balanced to me, and it's annoying to watch that and see so much male hate, but fine, I'll acknowledge I don't see how it you do and I don't actually know what it's like to be a woman, but it's the same coin, you don't know what its like to be a man and deal with our cons
Idk, maybe I'm over generalizing by saying all women in general, but hot women like my ex are so socially advantaged and that's worth way more than a job title
yeah that's just the fricking point. you're so angry you can't even be yourself any more. i know what you feel like. trust me, my fricking life is so absolute dogshit that it's amazing i'm still alive, and i'm a woman.
tbh i just think that people who are not that different have pretty good lives. try to limit a bit how much shit you show that you have inside of you, or even the good people will not wanna see you. you don't know how long i've been a normie copycat, haha. it works too well.
oh and as for the male hate? yeah male hate is pretty moronic. most people think so, but a lot of people can't help to pick the opposite end of the spectrum just to feel like they have any power at all to fight back.
If you think every average woman can make OF and earn enough money to take a trip around the world with it you're delusional at best. The top earners on OF are also the top quality women, just like top quality men get a ton of free pussy too. Best looking people always have it easier. I assure you, if your average plain Jane tried to make OF she wouldn't make more than pennies with it.
Pretty sure you're confusing the advantages of beauty with the advantages of being a woman. I'm a middle of the road dude and would NEVER want to switch lives with an ugly chick.
Hell, if there's any sociological research about gender differences that factors conventional beauty I'd appreciate a link. I've already seen "Student Beauty and grades under in-person and remote teaching"
You do place too much value in sex.
Sex and relationships are an important part of being human, obviously.
You know what's part of being human? Having a raise that's enough to make me survive and be able to have kids, which I didn't fricking get because I have to actively try 5 times harder just to convince everyone I'm worth a damn, despite my ideas and work having objectively earned the company money these past 3 months especially.
I'm actively not getting as much resources because I'm a woman, and I'm sorry, but that's more important on a basic level (literally how much food I can buy) than it is to have sex every day.
Okay, How much sex have you had effortlessly? Would you really trade spots if you knew what it was like?
Would you really trade a raise and work cred for having to work so hard to get laid and get social attention? You never have to feel lonely, at all.
Plus I have 2 jobs, one in a corporate setting where there as many higher up women as men, and another in a restaurant with equal amounts women of servers, managers, and bartenders
You are actually moronic if you think it makes women feel good to be pumped and dumped.
Incorrect, because I've had a TON of female friends say how they like random hookups just as much as men. So that whole "sex is different for women" thing isn't true, I've hears first hand women like casual sex just as much as men
enjoying casual sex isn't "getting pumped and dumped". The "pumped and dumped" implies the guy lied to them (promises of a relationship or that implication) to get in their pants and then leave.
Casual sex doesn't fix loneliness anon
I have 2 jobs as well actually. 1 corporate and I freelance at night.
>Would you really trade a raise and work cred for having to work so hard to get laid and get social attention? You never have to feel lonely, at all.
I spent most of my life being invisible actually. And when I wasn't I was physically bullied first by my primary school teacher, then my colleagues. It only fricking stopped at 7th grade, and the bullying became only verbal.
So actually I did feel fricking lonely for a long time.
I did have more ease having sex, but it was also guys who would use me as I was a pot of insecurities. So it wasn't as rosey as you'd want to believe.
I was very lucky to have found my husband.
Yeah but you still got so much sex. Are you comfortable saying your bodycount? Probably like 50 I imagine, you got that effortlessly and you wouldn't trade it if you could
7.
Lol 50??? Who even fricks 50 people?
I met my husband when i was 19, I'm now 30.
My exgf had that bodycount, she got limitless options and sex, and she is right now too
You know, I think she lied to you to make you more insecure.
I was a damaged teenager from all the abuse and bullying and at 13 years old I had my first """boyfriend""" who was a 21 year old delinquent who was still in school. He was pretty stupid. I told him I fricked 10 people before him and the idiot just believed me. He was my first technically and didn't even notice I was a virgin.
After all, what weapons do women even have against men if not psychological?
Unfortunately I had that mindset growing up, and I'm glad I'm out of that.
No she didn't lie about it, on the contrary she's very proud about it. She is a feminist that thinks sexual liberation is good and women should have enormous bodycounts
She even told once she fricked 2 dudes in the same day when she was 17
She is a super hot brunette, she right now gets to frick and party as much as she wants. I hate that she's winning in life and having full heartfelt experiences so when she looks back in her thirties she'll be proud she got to be a bawd and have had ao much sexual experience
God I hate her, and I espeixlalt hate how easy it is for her in life because she's pretty and a woman
oh... so you completely fell into her trap then? Don't you see she's probably gushing about how mad you are at this?
Stop placing value in such moronic things.
She doesn't know, but yes she lives rent free in my head. You say not to place value in that, but deep down we're wired to desire sex and social attention the most.
Oh well, I'm just jealous and bellyaching anyway, I can't change it, I'm just mad at life for how easy she has it socially and how privileged she is in that regard, and she doesn't appreciate it.
I'm jealous she hurt me and she's winning in life, she's beating me, I can't compete. I could never keep up with having as much sex as her, it's just not even close.
She wins and she'll be 35 one day looking back and admiring her sex life
I'm beating her in all other areas of life, which helps me a cope a little but we all know it doesn't matter compared to unlimited sex, partying and attention
Maybe I was wrong about you specifically, and I'm sorry for that. Maybe not all women, maybe just women lime my ex gf who gets infinite sex and attention, but I'm sorry to you specifically. You sound like a nice person
>7 at 19
jesus
sounds like you just suck at your job and have an inflated ego due to all the estrogen, tbh
nah, I wouldn't ever think I did a good job if I didn't have proof of it.
The cooking thing and safety thing are valid points but literally all of the stuff you mentioned about workplace dynamics and career happen to men too. Competent but non-assertive men get passed up all the time for incompetent but loud dickheads, and their are plenty of women that get promoted to executive positions.
Of course. I was thinking that as I was writing it. Though I've noticed that my male colleague who does suffer with social anxiety and is a shy, softspoken person, did get a raise.
And this is not a case of me thinking I'm better when I'm not, because my side project got accepted and made the company money (they showed metrics) and the project I've been working on since I got in 3 years ago just launched and both players and the company have been praising specifically the part I worked on.
Have you tried asking for it? How do you know your male colleague didn't just nut up one day and ask for a raise or threatened to leave?
In a previous post, I've already explained I brought up this situation at work.
Just sucks that it happened in the first place. Not sure if they will effectively give me the raise lol.
none of these things are inherent to being a man and there is plenty of help for women who have these problems with it being recognized and addressed but that is not the case for men at all.
MOST dudes I know do not get taken seriously, get spoken over, never get raises and have to swap jobs if they want better, are always doubted about their capabilities, and people try to constantly scam them about shit if they can't prove they know.
Sure, there is absolutely a certain kind of dude who thrives here, and many who don't have many of these problems, im definitely one of them, because of my personality traits and certain aspects of my upbringing that developed certain skills and habits in me + how I look and sound makes one of the dudes who very much is always taken seriously
but that doesn't mean I don't see it happen to others, friends, colleagues, random guys, or even do it myself when someone is just an absolute dickhead to shut them down when I recognize they lack these traits.
I am not going to deny that you have these problems or blame you for having them even if some women can overcome them be because of who they are or where they are, but you also unfairly ascribe these benefits to all men while acknowledging not all women get these things, do you not see how that can go both ways?
most men have very little chance to do better in their life or improve, it takes massive amount of work for them to get anywhere with endless expectations of them which only increase in both the scope and level of these demands in the modern day, while this is absolutely not true for women and the only areas women have any substantial disadvantages in are the workplace.
I don't really think thats a very good trade off, many men don't care much for work vs the rest of their life, so what do they get? no advantages, just because you care a lot about your career and see the advantages doesn't mean men have it easier in life overall or for most men.
as the other guy said, most of the work-related stuff happens to men, too. the difference may be that those men that would regularly get spoken over didn't even make it into your company, so your view may be biased.
Men have a superpower which is they can play video games and drive a shitbox and be happy.
access to sex
With MEN.
access to attention whenever she wants it,
You shouldn't want that or care about it.
access to parties and social things because she's a pretty girl
You could have this too if you were actually cool and had friends.
>>She's allowed to show her emotions
Again, you shouldn't even want that or care about it.
You sound like you have a female brain OP.
Have you tried having some self-respect and a proper relationship?
Being a Man Is Pogchamp Being A Woman Is Pogchamp
Sounds like you both suck lol. Sex without love is masterbation. It's not wrong, but making a habit of seeing someone for the utility they offer you becomes your relationship style. You won't magically have a different way of interacting if you meet someone you actually care about.
Please pay attention to this post OP, I used to feel the same way you do. I was irrationally upset at how women could get sex on demand and wanted that same power and freedom.
I was 100+ lbs overweight and kind of a dweeb so I started a looksmaxxing journey. I lost the weight, got really jacked, and got a new fashionable wardrobe. Fortunately I always had a handsome face even while fat and I don't have autismo social issues so the difference was night and day as I approached my goal.
Eventually I was getting matches on Tinder and even messages from girls asking to hookup (girls are simps too as long as the guy is hot enough). I went from having only ever been with my 2 ex gf's to over 40 girls fairly quickly.
Thing is, something clicked around there. Hooking up actually wasn't that enjoyable. Sometimes it was but that's because sex with the person was enjoyable. What I enjoyed more than the quantity of hookups was knowing that I COULD do it. That I WAS desirable. Once I realized that, I moderated myself quite a bit. I've now only budged the number up to low 50s but thats because I'm being more selective. Sex is fun and you should seek it out, but only if the encounters themselves are fun, not to satisfy an arbitrary number of notches on your bed post. The girls I keep around now I do because sex with them is really fun.
If women getting sex on demand is bothering you, it's probably because it offends some fundamental desire or fulfillment in your life. You don't feel attractive, capable, or loved enough or something like that. Addressing those problems will more directly solve your issue than chasing max quantity of girls fricked, I promise that
>My ex-gf is definitely winning in life. It's been 6 months, and she's probably fricked like 10-15 dudes.
Having sex with 10 or 15 random strangers in 6 months is not a win for anyone.
She is winning man, and it's just not fair to me. Why does she get to live life to the fullest just because she's a hot girl.
She hurt me bad, and she gets to get off scot free and live life to the fullest
>How do I stop being jealous of women for how easy it is for them to get laid?
Become a sissy. You'll have plenty of male attention then.
Anon woman temporary advantages are that, temporary, sure she is pretty now but if she is the type of party girl you are proclaiming she is her biological age will age her really fast, we all age however remaining young, healthy and beautiful for more than 10 or 15 years than her will be more rewarding than her inmediate pleasures that she has today
They get laid...with men
You're jealous of their ability to have sex WITH MEN you homosexual. Why do you guys never follow this train of thought to its logical conclusion?
You can frick a lot of dudes if you want too OP...it's 2024, no one will judge.
That's fricking stupid, she gets unlimited access to sexual pleasure, which is living life to the fullest, because she is a hot woman, she lives in that way on easy mode, she has the easiest life in the measure of social attention and sexual.pleasure because she has a pretty face and is a woman, it's bullshit
Men have it 1000 times harder to get social attention and sex, men don't get to live life to the fullest in That. My ex gf is a hot girl who without trying will have endless parties and sex and truly live to the fullest, no one gives a frick if you're a man.
I have a good job, a fun side job as a bartender, savings, degree, car, motorcycle, my own nice apartment, I'm fit and workout 6 days a week, and I have to try so much to have slept with 4 girls during our breakup while she effortlessly gets endless parties and sex for being a hot girl and living on easy mode socially, man frick her for that, and the ENTIRE time we dated she endlessly talked about how much she hated men, yet she's fricked 50 of them?
You sound mentally ill, you're needy and seem to think you're deserving of a lot more than you actually are.
And again, let's say women have access to unlimited sex. It's SEX WITH MEN. If you hate pizza, would you be jealous of someone with unlimited pizza slices? No, you wouldn't be, because you wouldn't want the pizza to begin with.
Unless...
See that's bullshit though. There seems to be this saying that sex isn't the same for women, but I know that's bullshit because I have so many female friends that have talked about casual sex in the same regard as men. So the pizza analogy doesn't apply here. It's just a cope.
Maybe I am mentally ill, who knows, but that doesn't make me wrong about women's social advantages they don't appreciate.
Find me the typical mid twenties man vs the mid twenties woman. The man has to work WAY harder to even have a shot at sex, which is what we all deep down crave and want. The woman doesn't have to do anything at all to try, and then shits on that man for him being a man when he's not even happy
>The man has to work WAY harder to even have a shot at sex,
As it should be. We don't actually want the wrong men having sex and therefore possibly actually breeding.
Sure, it might be a win for you, but it's a loss for the human race.
>With MEN.
you guys don't seem to understand that today, it's infinitely easier to frick a hot girl if you're a hot girl than if you're a hot guy. it even works with girls that are mostly hetero. my ex was bicurious, very pretty but a total fricking autist socially. yet she had an easier time than I did flirting and getting physical with girls. there's less of a stigma, because it's "just fooling around".
i think a lot of men forget what they have. i believe its called a scarcity complex. Men tend to forget how strong they are in word, real-world opinion, and physicality. Do you think I'm ever going to hold a candle to the average man once I'm an old bag? I'm less than a worker drone. I'll be nothing to nobody one day because I won't be sexually attractive anymore, that's just how it is for women. But a man's power never ever expires.
Like I get that not getting fricked is hard but you have the ability to build your value for life. your girlfriend's value is ticking down with every second. so really, you win in the end. just like men always do
>I win a used up roastie single mom who wouldn't have pissed on me if i were on fire in her twenties
yipee...
i love having such 'value'
the folly is basing your life's worth on sex. Black person, look around you. men own the fricking planet. anything given to women is only because men say so. all women get is sympathy and sex, and this is only within a certain time frame before we get discarded to the side of society once our breasts start sagging. then, no matter how much work we put in, with boiling blood and hard effort, there is much less value afforded to it than to any man ever. you have to see the bigger picture in life other than measly validation, otherwise you're no better than the worst of women.
>all women get is sympathy and sex, and this is only within a certain time frame before we get discarded to the side of society once our breasts start sagging.
yeah, that's why your grandmother was telling you to get married and not prostitute around, because your pairbonded husband isn't going to throw you away when you hit the wall. maybe you should have listened instead of spending your life fricking chads.
thank you for proving my point even further
then here's my point: you're b***hing about your own choices and your gender's choices. if women refused to bawd it up with older men because they buy you nice things, then the situations would be 100% equal - it is entirely your fault. and as for your career? my company's HR department is filled with women. They do basically fricking nothing, they are incompetent at what they manage to do, they only work in the office 3 days a week, and they make 3x more than the lowly schmucks do. and this is by no means beyond the norm. your lives are not difficult socially or for career success.
>social creature
>only needs beyond food and shelter are social
>"all I get is every advantage socially with food and shelter provided unconditionally"
getting all your needs met just for existing is far more than men get.
Exactly!
Like it's ridiculous in today's fourth wave femininistic culture how much men are hated when women absolutely have it better
I am better off financially, career wise, and most domains than my ex gf, but she's winning in life because she gets infinite options socially without even TRYING, because she happens to be a woman
There's no justice for men here. Who cares about being able to powerlift or getting special career treatment, social things are what matters most
My exgf will always win because she's a hot girl. It's crazy how much she shit on men, but is blind to how good she has it.
>"get"
but men afford necessities to themselves. it is only by a man's good grace that a woman is given anything, at all. you should crack open a history book and compare whether the leaps and bounds of progress humanity has done and contrast that to creature comforts. for fricks sake, there's more to life than just pleasure. maybe its a "grass is greener" type of thing. I would rather not have my value be on a 35-year ticking time bomb, id rather be defined by the sweat on my brow for just about every second im alive to build it.
every woman is an HR crony now i guess. its so joever
you don't get to use #notallwomen when your gender mocked men relentlessly for the same thing
life is entirely about sex, and women are the sole arbiters even into old age
it's them alone who decide whether or not a man is genetically fit enough to have a place in society, or just a failed drone to be shunt out of all social realms
women are mother nature's favorite children, and the gatekeepers of whether a man is a failure or not
just because you care a lot about your career doesn't mean other people care that much, men or women
just because you don't care about sex doesn't mean others don't care, men and women
you fricking 7 different dudes as a teenager, deciding you didn't really like sex because they were bad at it, then married some dude you rarely frick so you can focus on your career and not be "alone" is your prerogative and not the life most people want to life, male or female.
The problems and issues you see and how men have it better are because you are a very small minority of people, not just a small group of women, but a small group of people in general and feel disadvantaged by that, on the flip side, men who would rather the advantages women have is absolutely not a small group of men, the women who much prefer the advantages women get vs men is also significantly larger group.
The women you hear complaining about men fall into 3 categories.
1. Career focused women (you) who hate that men have advantages there.
2. Women who are extremely undesirable for who they are and only offer looking pretty so are desirable for sex and struggle to lock down a relationship when the flip side is for example dudes who complain women only want them for their money, yeah these undesirables get taken advantage of as a wallet, just like these undesirable women get taken advantage off as a pretty hole, but neither of them are desirable partners. Generally its easier for women in this regard as well, but only in the short term, but men are made fun of for being this dude, while women are praised by other women for it.
3. The completely delusional who have no idea wtf they are saying or scammers who act like them to appeal to them.
Not to say there are not men who complain about women, there are a lot on the flip side.
But your problems only apply to a very small minority, that you happen to belong to (which sucks for you, my condolences, but dudes have the same problems).
>you fricking 7 different dudes as a teenager, deciding you didn't really like sex because they were bad at it, then married some dude you rarely frick so you can focus on your career and not be "alone" is your prerogative and not the life most people want to life, male or female.
who is this girl in who bullied you in high school and why are you writing fanfiction about her
Tbqh most people what they have until you take it away
*forget what they have
>It's been 6 months, and she's probably fricked like 10-15 dudes.
>he thinks this is "winning"
LMAO
you're a fricking homosexual
I feel you OP. Women can get all that even if they're just average looking, while above average males may be scouring every day just to get a scrap of attention, a heartfelt cuddle, not to speak of actual sex. And if a girl's really hot, then she likely is on par with a male movie star regarding her options in social and sexual life.
All that hurts all the more if you broke up and are lacking all that, because right now you'd like nothing more than what she's got. There's no good solution for this, the only tip I can give you is to be caring and compassionate towards yourself, forget those comparisons, get her out of your head and your life. this will be the fastest way to get to a place where you get what actually matters in life, and spoiler: as nice as parties and sex are, it's not parties and sex.
You're the only in those whole thread so far who actually understands where I'm coming from.
Pretty girls like her don't know how easy they have it socially. If her and I switched spots she'd beg to have her social advantages back.
I'm sick of this hating men culture when women have it so much better in life, social life is way more important than career.
It's so defeating, no matter what I do, she'll always beat me
the moment someone complains about gender problems but doesn't mention the issues men also have is the moment you can 100% write them off
if you can't see what other people have to deal with and have unfair from your own experiences and seeing it, then you straight up don't care and are just out for yourself.
The lady talking about her career in this thread, not even talking about other issues women face because she doesn't have them, let alone the problems men have, is just 100% self serving and cannot fathom others problems unless they are shoved in her face and even then denies them
this is most people by the way, men and women, just women are being very loudly stupid in recent years, men are starting to pick up as well here and its going to be a whole thing in the future as well.
yes I totally understand, my breakup was very recent and my ex is not only fricking guys, but also girls (that I'd like to date) from our common pool of acquaintances. which makes it even harder because those girls then don't want to, uhm, "play both sides of the fence" if you catch my drift.
But really the only tip I can give you is: don't be bitter about it, it only makes it worse. the only thing that has really helped me get out of this is to distance myself of all this jealousy and bitterness and hatred, take a step back from dating and focus on myself and who I want to be (apart from all sexual topics), and become that. then everything becomes easier and clearer, and those things don't mean that much anymore. you can go to 100 parties and frick 200 people, but you still have to wake up every day and deal with the person you are, and parties and sex usually don't help much with how much you like the person you see in the mirror.
>It's so defeating, no matter what I do, she'll always beat me
Why are you competing with her to begin with?
Of course I'm competing with her, it just happens naturally. We were together 2 years, it was a bad breakup and she hurt me deeply, of course I'm going to have that competing mindset
It's so discouraging and hard not to be bitter. It's so deflating to know she's getting easy sex and social attention
>she hurt me deeply
And there you go.
Literally everything else you wrote in this thread all stems from this. Understandable, but you can stop pretending you're being in any way objective now.
I'm being objective in the sense that she's winning in life post breakup because she happens to be a pretty girl, that's fact
But also, fine yeah. It's just hard to accept and not be bitter about it. I'm jealous she's excelling, and hurt and insecure she's winning
Just move on and live your own life instead of getting roped into petty games of one-upmanship with your ex.
A game that's completely self-imposed and one-sided mind you. Because I can promise she's not thinking like this.
>It's so discouraging and hard not to be bitter. It's so deflating to know she's getting easy sex and social attention
You're seeing this all wrong. The girls in this thread are right: the odds are stacked against them. And here's one thing: Comfort is a slow death.
A woman that relies on sex and social attention for gratification and advancing in life will wake up one day and realize that she's not that hot anymore, not that young anymore, and get increasingly desperate because those cheat codes she used when she was hot in her 20s don't work anymore. Now she actually has to put the work in. And maybe she can't because she's so used to getting shit handed to her. So she gets desperate, looking for a guy. Maybe she gets the wrong guy because she likes them for all the wrong reasons.
If you look at really successful, competent and happy older women, they are often not the party-hard-and-get-fricked kind of girl. That's because they had to put in the work from early on, getting rejected and dealing with it, like most men do.
its like, we're all together in one human struggle to create a life for ourselves... maybe we should be doing more productive things than arguing about who has it easier. im gonna go for a walk now
no, women are a different species entirely and men are disposable worker drones
we have nothing in common
I recognize that It's wrong to wish her ill, I wish I was more mature, I'm just insecure, jealous, hurt, and I feel cheated that it's so seemingly unfair socially. And I'm tired of hearing all the hatred for men. I'm unhappy, and it always feels like a slap in the face when I hear about that because of the advantages pretty women have.
When we dated, my bodycount was like 14 and hers was nearing 50 basically. I felt so juvenile with my sexual experience compared to hers. So when we broke up, I wanted to try to have more sex to "catch up" with my next girl, but it's so diffcult as a man. She gets to have so much experience, explore her kinks, etc.
Idk, it just makes me bitter towards women so much. I hate how much power my ex gf has over me, I hate that she's winning in life. It's hard man, hard to cope and accept.
I know it's petty and a toxic mindset, but she was so mean and fricked with me so much it's hard not to compare to her and be competitive.
That's the shitty part, you're right. She's not thinking like this at all, I probably haven't even appeared in her thoughts. She's winning in that regard too along with all the people she gets to frick.
I can't get out of this mindset, it's killing me.
actual schizo homosexualry, you've "only" fricked 4 girls in 6 months, wow bud that sounds like such a struggle
by realizing, that equally they do not get what they want, which is a relationship.
so there is really nothing to be jealous about, but you are being a b***h.
how is it equal if women can get sex easily, but men cannot get sex OR relationships?
There is, because a part of living life to the fullest is having sexual experience which goes hand in hand with attention. Pretty women get that effortlessly and complain about men.
But I guess the only solace I can take is my ex is not likely to have relationships with these men
I see where you're coming from in your post. However take notice about what you've pointed out as well here in the comments
"My ex does _______ and is still complaining and hates all men"
>women do this, because they're unhappy and project their self hatred outwards
"She's fricking so many guys"
>not a single one is sticking around for long term, because they see that she's coo coo for cocopuffs
Homie, you're a man. Nut up, you've already won. While she prostitutes around and does her thing, in her very limited time she has left to do so, you only will appreciate in value over time.
Just get your shit together (finances, property, job, fitness, etc) and you will literally have the pick of the litter. If you want to frick a different girl every night, you probably could, but it'll def help you maintain a lasting and loving relationship because you get to choose who gets what.
Never forget the ultimate truth, you as a man are the prize. Your victory may not be an instant one, but it is guarenteed.guaranteed. Hers is not, she has to be chosen. There is a reason why women have such a long list of criteria (which is ever increasing with each body they stack onto their count) and why men have very few criteria they look for in a significant other. You're the prize, you make the relationship, you're the one who does the courting, the one who finances everything, the one who elevates the life of the other.
Nut up, and become that man you want to be.
You will have my time
>being jealous of women for how easy it is for them to get laid
You are projecting your own experience onto beings with different minds. I used to be salty as you, but here is the wisdom that comes with experience
- Women are always unhappy and cannot be satisfied
- Women dont change for the better, unlike men, they just collect traumas and life baggage
Yes its easier to get laid. Yes its easier to get new honeymoon period. But they are not men, they dont analyse what went wrong, how to avoid it, how to attract a better mate, they dont really heal or clean up their character. They just run after new fresh shiny idol of worship, getting disappointed every time because they dont learn. Men are to blame, he wasnt the right one, why am I so unhappy deep down? Also they are penetrated by mens worlds absorbing external ideals and tastes to discard them later after disappointment. They compare all new men to previous men in small details, and the new guy can never measure up to this frankenstein ideal ex. They are terrified insecure children jumping from one heroin dose to another, while munching on superficial online attention. Plus most of the things they do (based on emotions) make no sense to them, and they often asks themselves why did they do that and whats wrong with them
Yes its easy for them to get laid, but getting laid is like fricking prostitutes, its banal. Its hard for them to have and maintain deep real connection and love, because they dont learn or fix themselves so they just wait for that unique wise don huan to come into their lives and do all the work
You as a man can be happy. Yes it takes time, but with skills and wisdom you get more deep happiness and fulfilment than these children
>It's been 6 months, and she's probably fricked like 10-15 dudes
>It's frustrating to know she's beating me at life
She may be pretty, but she is very insecure, she hates herself, she knows that her only selling feature is running out
>How do I stop being jealous of women for how easy it is for them to get laid?
Put less value in getting laid.
>NNNOOOO I GOTTA VALUE MUH SECKS AND MUH REE PRODUCTION
Stay salty then lol