How do people actually get into relationships? Do you just ask someone out?
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How do people actually get into relationships? Do you just ask someone out?
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commit suicide once ur in europa all the girls wont wanna get with chad
How the frick am i meant to get there
Just swim bro.
I cant swim im black
You gotta be their friends first, talk with them for a while
but not too much otherwise they friendzone you. this is what always happened to me
The advice about treating women like normal people and being friendly with them works at first, but it ALWAYS neglects the part where you need to start flirting and laying the moves on them.
If you've only ever been treating her like a friend that's all she's ever gonna see you as unless she was crushing on you first. Asking her out at that point just comes out of nowhere from her perspective and she says no because she never saw you in a sexual or romantic light, because you never put that idea in her head by flirting.
Be her friend, but flirt with her from time to time, so when you ask her out eventually it doesn't come completely out of left field and it was something she's been thinking about.
idrk how to flirt. i know i *can* flirt because i've been told by friends "stop flirting with xyz!!!" but mostly i didnt even realise i was flirting to begin with so i cant really "just flirt" with someone.
can you try flirting with me
no i already said i dont know how
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You attend a house party or other social gathering with lots of people. You meet someone and talk with them. If they're into you they won't let the conversation end and will just keep spending time with you. The optimal scenario is that you both are so engaged that the party does down until it's basically just you two. At that point you offer them a ride home, or at least exchange contact information.
Once you've got the contact information you talk about how you want to see them again and take them out sometime. Pick them up, drop them off. This gives them context to invite you into their home.
Once you're in their home you just interact as late as possible, ideally staying the night. If you're sitting on the couch together that's social context to put an arm around them. If you're invited to stay the night it's context to take your clothes off in bed with them.
From there you repeat the process of going out, coming back home, and fricking. After a couple months you make it official by updating your relationship status on social media and begin presenting publicly as an exclusive couple.
That's the optimal flowchart. Tinder dates are awkward because you're skipping the organic meeting that would be held in a larger public event.
whenever i attend house partys or social gathering no one ever wants to talk to the troony
Tough nuggies. Hate to be the bearer of bad news, but lifelong partnerships usually need biological children to go the distance. No disrespect, but the flowchart is the flowchart. Not everyone's gonna be able to thread the needle, and queer life is about sex first and meaningful relationships second.
There are other midsized public events. Any major holiday, ideally ones with drinking. College campuses usually have events, even the community colleges. Most don't check for student ID.
Lots of ways to make an organic connection off casual conversation.
what do i do if my friends and friends-of-friends are simply not an option when it comes to dating?
I have attended "house parties" but I am still alone. I can be friendly with girls but nothing more. It's over.
yea me to im a troony
I'm not a troony and you're not funny
you brought this on yourself lol dont complain. you could have just not trooned lul
You have to get their contact information and follow up.
Here's the good news: if you can attend a party and talk to women, and they enjoy the conversation, you're halfway there. You need to learn to escalate.
Two tips: make her laugh. If you don't know how, work on it. I can't stress this enough, if you can make a woman consistently laugh your odds of success increase dramatically. I've been an average looking dude my whole life and I'm definitely a little weird (not total autist, but weird). I've had great success and 95% of it is due to making them laugh. That meme about being careful around funny guys is 100% true
Second, and this one is harder: you need to stop being afraid of rejection. It's part of the game. Every single guy who see who has an attractive woman on his arm got rejected plenty in their lifetime.
NTA but if I wanted to, I could get laid easily.
However, what I struggle with isn't the flirting and dating part, it's the romance part.
Like the moment you start seriously developping feelings for each others and act romantic.
I never managed to open my heart to let a woman enter it.
>house party or other social gathering
wtf do i do to get there
Yeah i'm sure i'll find people there who relate to me and vice versa.
>You attend a house party or other social gathering with lots of people
>You meet someone and talk with them
>If they're into you they won't let the conversation end and will just keep spending time with you
>The optimal scenario is that you both are so engaged that the party does down until it's basically just you two
And normies say there isn't a conspiracy to keep me a virgin. How the frick am I supposed to achieve THAT?
I don't know how these people even get to these parties. Do these things even exist after high school?
Probably as many whenever possible. Normies like to relive their school memories and their constant social interactions.
In theory, it shouldn't be that difficult to get invited as long as you integrate yourself in a workplace or college setting. The hard part comes AFTER that. Normies may invite us but we're still that weird awkward friend in their eyes (and maybe not even that, we're just their work acquaintance they're on OK terms with), so fully integrating yourself in their party isn't guaranteed, let alone wooing a cute girl. This is what extroverts don't understand.
I think I missed out on even that. My college was a small commuter school with mostly CS and engineering majors and ever since I entered the work force it's been drastically older people and Indians everywhere.
Agree with you in the sense I'd have zero fricking idea what to do if I even went to one of these things and it would be so obvious I'm out of my element completely.
Your post is worth a trillion more than any advice I had ever seen. Its the best explanation I have heard about how a normal modern relationship without dating apps starts. Practical, efficient, perfection. The only thing I would add is that you dont need to wait for the party to be near end, "just the two of you". If the partner is primarily only talking to you, and not interested in anything else in the event anymore, its already time to make a move.
>Chad
Do nothing
>Chadlite
Bro just talk to her lmao
>Non Chad
Random Luck
Wait are those 2 girls?
My friends say that I have had girls interested in me when we have been out but I haven't detected it myself.
when my mum used to pick me up from the train station sometimes she'd be like "oh that chick was checking you out" but i never noticed it
that very well might just be a mom thing
like my mom told me girls checked me out but i'm a 30 year old virgin who's been rejected every time i've tried anything with a woman
Women only want Chad
So it's standing in a corner existing with Chad genetics, then women come up to you for sex without trying
Do you ever get tired of saying that?
Saying the objective truth? Not really.
For me, if a girl interests me, I simply ask her to hang out and it starts from there.
It's really rare though, usually, it's the girl asking me out.
And I usually stop dating her really fast.