I'll be lonely as hell, I'll miss her a lot but that's better than her egocentric, toxic personality
Don't fall for the autistic gf meme, communication has to be one of the most important parts of a relationship, and unless you have unlimited patience you will be miserable
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I mean yeah, autistic people in general should be euthanized, men and women alike.
Starting with you, moron
what made her so bad? i'm a sperg male and need to take notes on this shit
- self absorbed,only talks about herself, barely asks any questions to you, doesn't seem to even wonder about you
- terrible at handling conflict, things either go her way or don't, will take between one week and a month of recovery after an argument (that means she'll be silent and distant and you have to reassure her which means endlessly chasing her)
- sees herself as a victim in any situation : you don't reply to her text? you're ignoring her. she doesn't reply to yours and you decude to not chase her? also counts as ignoring
- often makes weird intricate sentences using pedantic words, will get upset if you don't understand, that can go with a week of "recovery"
- sleeps or leaves in the middle of conversation, politeness is foreign to her
- has her own very strict habits, of cleaning herself etc. which will HAVE ti be done entirely even if that means missing out on a whole day or being late
- no concern about how what she says might make you feel (will be rude, blunt, offensive, will never apologize)
List could go on and on. Out of all of these, the most insufferable is having to reassure her while she stays ice cold for weeks after any argument
I think her case is a lot of immaturity too
>often makes weird intricate sentences using pedantic words, will get upset if you don't understand, that can go with a week of "recovery"
If my bf was a moron I'd be upset too. Have you considered ever reading a book?
no I mean literally using obscure philosophical vocabulary you wouldn't even find in the dictionary to explain simple things
I'm foreign so I don't know what an english equivalent would be but imagine post modern structuralism type of vocabulary iff that's even a thing for anglos
>using obscure philosophical vocabulary
This bothers you lol? I was joking before when I called you a moron, but I didn't realize how close to the truth I actually was
It'd bother me too if people mis-used ideas they saw on youtube and then got mad that people didn't care/understand.
But you just said you didn't understand her, Anon! Does that mean you're too dumb for Youtube videos about philosophy too?
Yes, we're all too dumb for philosophy youtube vieos. No one who needs to understand philosophy eill do so through a youtube video. Most posg modern structuralists won't be understood by an american youtuber dumbing things down for a 12 year old audience
I know this is difficult for you to understand, but I was making fun of you.
Even if your gf was wrong in her comprehension of something, you should still be able to *understand* what she's saying. But you seem to think not being able to do so means you're the smart one here, when in reality you're as stupid and mediocre as every other insipid person on this planet
Did you completely skip the part where she got her panties in a twist for a week because he didn't understand her bizarre phrasing?
Maybe she's upset about the larger phenomenon of having a complete moron for a bf? I know I'd feel pretty bad about being partnered with someone who was so transparently not competent
you sound autistic af
And the subtext is what; that allistic people are just kind of stupid?
I mean, i can tolerate that from most people because i can just play dumb and make fun of them but i can't take my anger out on my SO like that
I think we dated the same girl
congratulations,after year you realized your partner has imperfections.
you have them too you know? u cant see 80% of them tho
>imperfections
Unless the rest of your partner is a 10, even a single one of those is an understandable deal-breaker.
Did you really just white Knight even a c**t like this?
t. Doesn't know what narcissism is
autismo fembot here but it sounds like she has some other kind of mental illness in addition to autism more than likely anxiety or maybe bpd(..?) but based on what you're describing that might be a bit much
for the first point its probably unintentional and she was more than likely just excited to talk about her interests but in the same breath she should have made more of an effort to pry about you as well. second and third point reek of anxiety rather than autism, last just seems like bad manners. but hey thats just my take
How do you ask people questions about themselves or do small talk? I don't get it.
depends! not sure if this is a general question or in regards to OP specifically but i'll try to answer for both.
i think a general rule of thumb for me is if im talking about something i'm really into i try to leave the conversation open enough so that they can give input otherwise you're just dumping thoughts onto somebody with no care for what you get in response - thats not really a conversation. if i think ive turned a conversation on myself too much or prolonged it with no input from the other person i try to ask them questions in a similar context (i.e if im rambling about bands i like i'll ask what bands they like. pretty straight forward)
honestly i dont talk to new people all that often and for the handful of people i do talk to i speak to very frequently (6-8 hours a day/pretty much daily) so im at the point of comfortableness where we can just say whatever so im not the best to answer that question lol
I have another question. Lately it feels like this autistic girl I am talking to doesn't really want to talk to me anymore for some reason. She doesn't start conversations like she used to and it feels like her replies are shorter. What should I do?
how often did you talk before and how often do you talk now? sometimes with autistic girls rather than focusing on the subject the amount of conversation can come into play partly as well. if its about the same however then i'd honestly advise just bringing it up to her politely and the chances are you'll get an upfront answer (assuming she isnt insane or has any other mental illnesses hiding in there)
sometimes i've noticed when talking to new people is that i can be really talkative at the start when there's a lot they don't know about me vs when i get to know them for longer theres less topics to talk about and conversation becomes more casual, is it possible thats happening at all?
>how often did you talk before and how often do you talk now?
We still talk nearly every day, but now I have to start the conversations all the time. She used to do that because I am terrible at doing that.
>is it possible thats happening at all?
It could be, I'm not sure. She doesn't really talk to that many people though most of the time. It just feels like something changed and I don't know what.
i see i see. i dont know either of you two personally so it's hard to say for sure but theres a chance she just got comfortable with talking to you if you guys talk everyday and doesnt feel the need to start them anymore especially if you're doing that now. my best advice would be to bring it up with her casually but try not to sound accusatory otherwise she might get defensive (i.e if you say "why are you not starting conversations anymore" she might think you're attacking her and start trying to justify why she doesn't need to, but if you just check in to make sure everything's alright between you two and theres no deeper reason things should go a lot more smoothly).
really though if you're still talking everyday i wouldn't say theres too much of an issue, but if its something that worries you you can do the above. hope you can work things out anon
Thank you very much for giving me advice, Anonette. I really do like this girl, I wish she could become my GF one day.
>self absorbed
>terrible at handling conflict
>sees herself as a victim
>rude, blunt, offensive, will never apologize
Sounds BPD to me
t. BPDgay
anon thats bpd mixed with ocd and not autism
> Lists traits of NPD
Can you explain to me how autism isn't literally just narcissism?
Lmao
That's called being a survivor. She's looking out for #1.
A lot of female autists are actually just cluster B's
I had an online female "autist" friend for months and she was so fricking abusive I'm pretty sure she'd been misdiagnosed
>A lot of female autists are actually just cluster B's
I've noticed this too. Some girl I talk occasionally is supposedly autistic but she's way too emotionally unstable and she checks a lot of the boxes off for BPD like suicide threats n shit
Cluster Bs are traumatized people tbh. Hence why autistic women get misdiagnosed with things like BPD
Why don't autistic people communicate?
I will take your word for it, then. Did you have sex?
Not like most of them have to settle for autistic men anyway.
Why are they so vocal about substance abuse? I wish she would get over it. I tried to explain that the alcohol doesn't hurt anything, but they just keep weirding out that I need to stop.
i am autiastic
need autistic gf
Autistic people are fricking exhausting to deal with
Just reading this board for a half hour makes me want to claw my eyeballs out
https://www.researchgate.net/publication/341523903_Autistic_peer-to-peer_information_transfer_is_highly_effective
She, individually, may have been toxic, but autistic people don't naturally lack communication/social skills and do better with other autistic people.
i wanna know how horrible you were to be with though, i have a feeling her behavior was happened for a reason. do you beat her anon?
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I feel like you're trying to trick me so you can keep all the autistic girls to yourself. Frick off. I WILL get an autistic psycho gf, i WILL get abused and i WILL be happy.
U know what I dont understand about autists? Their ignorance to just adapt and TRY to understand people even if you ultimately dont.
I feel like I really barely have any empathy for most people or interest in what they say but I still pretend to care just because I know they like that shit. Why cant autists do that? Its really not that hard
have a nice day Black person. Stop stealing the autistic women from us autistic chads if you can't handle them.
Please senpai, where do I find an autistic unicorn like this? Preferably a yandere BDP one too, I want her to burn my house down
The hardest part of an autistic gf is her penis
what would happen if you killed youreslf homosexual