i take great pleasure in talking about my boyfriend in every thread possible just to make people seethe
you will never have a girlfriend that does this
>How does that make you feel?
this board is run by boyfriended women now.
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I don't want an attention prostitute gf
he likes it because its attentino he gets about himself
if you feel threatened by your girlfreind talking to literal nobody randoms about you then you should have a nice day probably >_< idk...
no my bf uses the stock market...
>if you feel threatened by your girlfreind talking to literal nobody randoms about you then you should have a nice day probably
Protecting your own insecurities already, I see
literal subiq response idk what ur implying i'd be insecure about?
ur literally saying that youd be insecure if your girlfriend was flaunting you to people because she loves you. literally what is wrong with that?
id want my partner to flaunt me and show me off, its not attention whoring because its not personal attention, its indirectly giving attention to ur partner
>subiq response
Kek, you can't be below a standard measurement. The whole point of having a standard score is that it's relative.
>ur literally saying that youd be insecure if your girlfriend was flaunting you to people because she loves you
I did not say that at all. As with all attention prostitutes, you are an idiot and you are animalistic. That's why I don't want people like you.
are you fricking autistic? what is that reply kek? its called hyperbole Black person why you talking like a nerd
>I did not say that at all
>"you feel threatened by your gf talking about you"
>"youre projecting"
errmm... tfw men when it comes to explaining their point
>muh hyperbole
It's called being wrong
>why you talking like a nerd
Why can't I talk like a nerd?
I already told you in my last reply why I don't want an attention prostitute gf. Are you really so stupid you can't find it?
Does your bf use pregabalin?
That's amazing nona. i'm glad to see that romance is still real in the modern world. im sure hes very very lucky to have you and its amazing that he got a recent good job in IT, you mentioned that he doesnt have a degree and hes making a good career for himself too. I bet he isnt indian, I feel that most people who arent indian and have good social skills tend to do wlell in the tech sector, unless youre indian and then youre fricked. Ive recently got a good relationship too and it genuienly does give you a nwe lease on life.
omg yes!! how did u remember, ill tell u a bit more about him.
my bf is 24 hes really hot a bit older than me works in the IT sector (he got a high paying IT job recently its rlly awesome.) he is moving close to me soon which means we are gonna have a lot of epic sex maybe about all the time i think. he is super hot and has an angelic face chiseled jawline very hot body super hot arms hes really strong and charismatic too and he loves me a lot so yeah im reall y lucky i dont have freinds thats why im tellinfg people on here about him.
honestly just so u konw guys mature like 4 years later than girls so try get a guy thats 4 years older than you. because guys your age just wont be the same maturity level as u ngl. also most guys are super moronic so u have to just find one thats not too bad and then mould him to ur desired perception,typically they dont always make them cut and paste
every guy in his 30s wants to date early 20s women...
I also can't see myself molding anyone, is there no hope of them coming with non manchild mentality out of the box
Theres definitely a 'market' for guys out there that have good hearts but are a bit jaded or messed up by their experiences. tldr I also think it comes down to true compabitility, compromise and how much you do love your person and what that means to you.
My girlfriend has definitely moulded me and shes younger than me similar to OP, for me the feeling feels like I'm the guy from bladerunner and the 'prgoramming' is being melted off. basically a lot of really shit mental habits that were 'put on me' by my expereinces go away, because she saw me for who I am. I have definitely made a fwe mistakes in this relationship, and in general in my life, and it is frustrating because whilst i made them, theres also the feeling that 'it wasant me who did it.' that said im really thankful she was patient with me, and saw me for who i am and who i can be, and the way to move forwardw ith that is 'leaning into truth' in that regards.. hope that makes sense. Theres guys out there that are totally saveabnle, and id say its worth it, im definitely goign to marry my girlfreind (im 24-25 if that helps.)
in what ways do you think she helped you with the deprogramming?
the issue is I lack that skill. I can't really tell when it's a red flag and fabricated personality and when it's something I can help to change.
thats ok usually u need to be very in tune with your body/feelings and boundaries
i would unironically never suggest getting into a relationship until u can establish enough of a sense of self to know what those are for u, its how u stop people taking advantage of you and how u stop people infringing on your comfort.
its hard to differentiate between being irrationally upset and being upset but if youre feeling negatively theres always a reason u feel that way. i do genuinely believe that any sanely logical person will be able to deduce when their behavior or feelings are irrational, they just need to take the time out of their day to think about it.
if it is logical to you why you feel that way, you're never wrong for feeling feelings. if you notice that something they did or a trait they have infringes one of those things you established for yourself or makes you feel uncomfortable; you don't have to apologise for feeling that way, always prioritise yourself. the dating pool is too scarce these days it's not worth it to keep extending your whole self to leeches.
i try not to give second chances but i always do and thats my biggest curse, this is stuff id say to myself in the past probably. but unfortunately its not always set in stone, alot of it you have to play by ear.
Ill quickly summarise below as a, she saw me for me and by caring for me, as me, it encouraged me to be more true to myself.
Essentially she would see through a lot of my bullshit that worked on normies and people who are wrapped up in themselves and see me for who i was, in that case it would be stuff that I genuienly did like about me since I was younger and stuff that is hard to hide.
Its obviously different for everyone, but for my case it would be confidence, kindness, manners, social skills, humour etc, just positive traits that are a little different for each person. something like when you forget what you look like or care about what you come off as, and youre laughing/smiling and before you can catch yourself doing something like that. Everytime I would exhibit behaviour such as hiding or like saying i dont care abotu something, it had an element that was more like mental calcification or something like that, its like a 'learned behaviour' that wasnt inherent to who i am. a lot of people tehse days I think have a massive amount of learned regurgitated behaviour and thought patterns becuase of the way the internet is these days, anyway.
In return for breaking the programming, in an economic sense she has a great benefit of having a boyfriend that is a little bit more moulded to her liking, Im improving financially because less stress and anxiety and fulfillment externally makes for better gains in the wallet body mind etc. I would consider it true love, and i hope everyone deserves it , but i wouldnt say its easy; it is, however, simple. Its a two way street where you recognise them for their truths and who they truly are and can be, and then they put in the work to get there 'make you proud.' which imo plays off the deepest biological and mental desires of man and woman.
a..anon you sound like my boyfriend..
good post. happy you made it anon.
>you will never have a girlfriend that does this
Probably true, i'll get a better one though. Still, happy for you though.
Sounds like a nice life, wish you the best anon.
yess get a girlfriend you need to make a girl happy.being in a relationship is just as awesome as peoplemake it out to be. i hope u have a wonedferful fantastic relatinoship
No.
it is rare but they do genuinely exist cuz ive seen and experienced it, i couldnt tell u where to get them or how to look tho.
i will say, alot of guys know how to pretend they understand and appear emotionally mature but arent acutally. its hard to differentiate this cuz those people are 'aware' enough for manipulation but arent aware enough to change
tho typically u will see a few red flags at the start that u shouldnt ignore. ive learnt that its way more worth ur mental sanity to just drop at the FIRST red flag. its indicative like 90% of the time and stops u from wasting ur time and mental on it. not everyone deserves second chances tbh
>so try get a guy thats 4 years older
so I should date a 16 year old as a 20 year old
Find me a boyfriend and I'd do the same
how do I find a non manchild bf who wants to marry teach me your ways nona
>Teehee Im an attention prostitute
A foid who gets off on attention wow you are really one in a million.
this is why men are moronic and fail to make their gfs happy because they never make them feel special or desired. apparently its a heinous moral crime to flaunt and show off your partner because you love them apparently its attentionwhoring
no wonder all your girlfriends get upset when you dont treat them right, make them feel good or wanted or loved, bc u dont post them, u dont talk about them, u dont mention them to people
i know who you are and u need to frick off girl ur underage he doesnt want u
I mention my wife to people irl and compliment her, for all her flaws she isnt an online attention prostitute like you. You must be underage because you sound like a child.
>i know who you are and u need to frick off girl ur underage he doesnt want u
LMAO i have no idea who you are im just fricking with you but thats so funny
oh ok thank you
no you are a pedophile hope this helps xx
what am i supposed to do then wait until im 22 ?
i said women age up not men age down ??
how would women date up without men dating down
because if i told a 20yo man to date down then hed be dating a 16yo
but if i tell a 20yo woman to date up then shed be dating a 24 year old
this is a 18+ board of course my opinion does not extend to girls under 18
so who do i date then
anyone? just dont date a kid? what
im just trying to point out that your advice makes no sense from the perspective of a male
maybe because i was giving the advice to a woman and not men
i know that but its contradictory to say to date older guys but for guys to not date younger girls. if guys are 4 years less mature then by that logic there should be no issue with me dating a 16 year old since we will be equal maturity. not that i want to but thats the point im making
im giving that advice to only women because if i tell girls 18+ to date 4 years older, the "youngest" possible relationship would be 18-22.
if i give that advice to men 18+ (date down 4 yrs) the youngest possible relationship is 14-18 - which is children.
i am giving this advice only to women to keep it within strictly 18+ relationships.
does this make sense?
so why is it okay for me to date someone 4 years younger than me if i wait two years for them to turn 18 but i cant do that now? 16 is legal here btw. also you didnt answer the question if im on the same level of maturity as a 16 year old why is it wrong
>so why is it okay for me to date someone 4 years younger than me if i wait two years for them to turn 18 but i cant do that now?
it is okay to date an 18 year old because they are 18 and not a child. you cannot do it now because they are a child.
>16 is legal here btw
personally i think 18 is still a little young to date if you're 22 (just my personal opinion) but i wouldnt stop anyone from doing it.
however under 18 is just plain wrong. they are children.
if you base your morality off of the law and whats 'legal', you're a government bootlicker pedophile, i believe the majority consensus is that 16 is undeniably a child.
> if im on the same level of maturity as a 16 year old why is it wrong
i said "date 4 years up" to women on a 18+ board. thus my advice was to women 18+.
i did say men mature a bit slower but the extreme year to year differences start to muddy when you get older, however formative years like 0-18 are very different and unique. i do not think a child 0-18 has the same maturity as an adult.
i think once you get past the 18yo point you start getting more life experience and maturity as apart of your natural rites beyond that age. a 16 year old has nothing in common with a 20 year old and doesn't know any better. again, my opinion is not applicable to anyone under 18 and was never intended as such.
>if you base your morality off of the law and whats 'legal', you're a government bootlicker pedophile
you say this while also basing your morality off of whats legally considered a child
>i believe the majority consensus is that 16 is undeniably a child
16 is a teenager
using "child" implies they're literally incapable of making decisions but a 16 year old can drive, work, etc. a 16 year old girl is also done with puberty at that point if im not mistaken.
in the sense that they're not a legal adult sure but they are legally able to consent so they're not a "child" in that sense
>owever formative years like 0-18 are very different and unique.
fair point
>a 16 year old has nothing in common with a 20 year old
blatantly false
>again, my opinion is not applicable to anyone under 18 and was never intended as such.
i understand that and i have never argued that thats not what youre saying im simply pointing out that opinion makes no sense without also acknowledging that an age gap between 20 and someone younger also makes sense
by your logic what would you consider to be on equal level as a 20 year old male?
>you say this while also basing your morality off of whats legally considered a child
i literally just said that i personally think 18yo is even too young but i can't stop you because it is legal
16yo is illegal in most places therefore the majority consensus is that most people recognise 16yo as a child
>16 is a teenager
teenager and child im using interchangably here basically meaning that their brain isnt fully developed at all and theyre still in a developmental stage. i would never think its a good idea for a person still in their early years development to date someone that is an adult
>a 16 year old has nothing in common with a 20 year old
ok they can have shit in common but theyre not going to have the same mental capacity in common? maybe 1 in 1000 is going to be as mature and capable? but thats a shit statistic to make it ok to frick kids
>by your logic what would you consider to be on equal level as a 20 year old male?
i'm not sure, my 4 year thing was just a rough average. i think a 20 year old can date someone as young as 18 and as old as like.. mid 20s maybe. any older than that and i begin to question why the older person even wants to date a 20 year old
>i literally just said that i personally think 18yo is even too young but i can't stop you because it is legal
by that logic you cant stop someone from dating a 16 year old either
>16yo is illegal in most places
its legal in most of europe and a lot if not most of the us or there are romeo and juliet laws that allow 16 and a certain range for example 16 and 20 is legal but 16 and 30 isn't
>i would never think its a good idea for a person still in their early years development to date someone that is an adult
an adults brain hasn't stopped developing either and again if youre saying girls mature earlier than we would be on equal playing field. if a boy matures x years later than they would be in the same level if they're x years older.
>maybe 1 in 1000 is going to be as mature and capable?
depends more on experience than physical maturity imo
>any older than that and i begin to question why the older person even wants to date a 20 year old
i agree
personally i think the maturity gap is about 2-3 years since thats the average relationship age gap
i love your boyfriend too
If I caught my gf making a thread like this I would take it as a red flag. It would mean that what she likes about the relationship is not spending time with me. Am I just a status symbol to you? Then I don't want you. If you can't love me without anyone knowing then you're not capable of loving someone for who they are.
this is an anonymous board. my boyfriend was never supposed to see this. i am talking about him because i love him and i want to tell people about it but i don't have anyone to talk to. you are all fake internet peoples so i can spew what i want meaninglessly. i spend about 15 minutes here where i spend my whole day with him otherwise.
it would be different if it was all i talked about irl. but im just telling people about him bc i love him.
sorry you small moron brains cannot conceptualise wanting to talk about the person you love.
unless you look like nahida, we dont care hag
I also do this with my bf, usually on other boards though. It's because I have no friends who I could talk to about him and how much of a unicorn he is compared to other modern men lol
i agree im glad you have a boyfreind boyfreinds are awesome what do you like about your boyfriend
>intelligent and well-read
>perfect combination of normie/weirdo
>social/extroverted, he basically taught me social skills
>very marginal interests and hobbies, same as me
>kinda chubby, but has a chad face
>empathetic, but also quite manly
>fun to be around, even doing something simple like watching youtube together with him is very nice
>when we duo in mmo's he's always willing to be the tank
>kind, the kind that doesn't just walk past when a stranger needs help
>he has cool friends and thanks to them we are invited to private concerts and stuff like that
>this is funny because before him i was just a completely friendless loser khhv
>somewhat low inhibition, definitely not a shy guy who's always afraid
>my first bf, hopefully also the only bf i'll ever have
maybe it got too long lol, I just enjoy ranting about him (even if I actually haven't done it in a few months now). what about your bf?
Nona can we date you don't have to tell him
Ok but I'm stackin so much money it aint even funny!
So is my bf hes gna be rich soon he has a high paying IT job!
GOOD ON YOU!!! im sure ou make her very happy
you will just find a girl and love her thats allyou gotta do....
Yes.
is it a red flag if all she does is talk about you
is that you...
>you will just find a girl and love her thats allyou gotta do....
thats the hard part
You'd be surprised. I had some pretty awful relationships where I felt miserable and alone, which sounds like it would be more present than loneliness but it's a million times worse. It's shit being with someone who you pour your heart out to and they don't even meet you with weirdness or meanness; something worse,w hen they try to listen and connect with you and thne theres a efeling that theres true incompatability and you more or less felt like it was a bunch of time and energy that could have been else where. I met my gf on /soc/ of all places, hit it off really well, melted down each others preconceptions of 'what should be' out of people and it basically re-ignited my passion for life and people in general, and I like to think the same for her. The be yourself meme erally does work, but you have to be truthful about it. because you will run into someone who will like you, so you wanna make sure youer as alligned with 'who you most are' so that when the person comes, they see you for who you are and like you for that
I love bragging about my wife on /NSFFW/ especially when people call me a liar.
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I hope I can make a girl this happy someday
do you have sex with ur boyfriend?
If I found out my girlfriend lurked in this place I'd drop that hoe in no time. Can't think of a bigger redflag.
I'm sure your bf loves you too nona
why go to NSFFW of all places to humblebrag? it's incredibly mean and demoralizing to hear you talk about how tall and muscular and chad-like he is. but also, it's just boring and not a real convo topic. do you not have any hobbies or interests outside of your moid?
i do, i have no reason to discuss them here though. i can discuss and engage in them with him.
i want to talk about my boyfriend in other places that arent directly to his face though as much as i do that already.
i dont know how its mean it should moralise you and motivate you to find a girl and love her so she can give u this treatment.
you literally say in op
>i like watching people seethe
>you will never have a gf that loves you like i love mine
this is pretty mean spirited and you are clearly trying to demoralize robots
you're still going to cheat on him howeverbeit