My boyfriend broke up with me right when the pandemic began (2 years ago). We only dated for 3 months but I’m still not over him. I haven’t dated anyone since because it feels like I’m “ruined” or “damaged” so much from the pain of the breakup that I’m still not comfortable socially. What’s going on? How do I change?
How the frick did three months manage that. What did he do? And what did you do?
Also are you a cis female?
Yes
I don’t know, I loved him a lot, I still do ig. I still think about him often
Sorry. I ment to ask are your a CIA female?
Why didn't you just make him happy, OP?`
Were you that bad of a girlfriend?
Please wear this and wash my car. Thank you.
No
Lol lmao. Were you a virgin before you met him?
No but he was my third bf
What was so special about your relationship that you can't move on 2 years after the fact? How are you feeling different about this compared to the other 2 relationships?
>What was so special about ...
can't speak for OP but I developed a fetish for the person who was my most long term relationship that I still haven't been able to shake, even though those physical characteristics haven't existed for almost a decade
>almost a decade
Yeah there was that girl who was a concubine of a middle east dictator who posted here. He got killed but he still lived rent free as frick in her.
i didn't mean someone who posted here
Sometimes you just have a strong connection with someone and can’t cope when it ends abruptly. I’ve been with my girlfriend for almost 3 years, and I still frequently think about this girl I used to hang out and hookup with even though we never actually dated.
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Im not , or anyone else who responded, but idk why you
think you needed to respond to him when the guy was clearly asking with concern to OP's situation and not you. People who do that are either attention prostitutes, are lonely, or this idea has been living rent free in ur head and u just wanna rant about it. In this case ur comment itself is indicative of #3.
Bruh, let it go. When you do this to people irl, it just comes off as annoying and off putting that you couldnt move on. I say this in a tough luck way
Hmm, well, just hang in there. I lost years of my life dwelling on someone who didn't deserve it. Just don't go off finding anyone new out of loneliness or desperation. If you feel truly bad, consider going to a doctor about it. I did, after many years of just dealing with major depression. They gave me medication and I only took it a few times and felt better. Hopefully it doesn't get that bad for you.
I cut contact with a girl around the same time. We were never dating, and at the time I was convinced she had feelings for me, but I now know I was just being moronic.
I still can't connect to another female in any real capacity. Sometimes people just break. While I still think about her (often indirectly) all the time, I just defined to march on in other aspects of life. If nothing else, I'll be distracted by the riches of my accomplishments.
Have you tried meeting other guys? Also, now that most lockdowns have eased up a little (I sure hope you don't live in Shanghai lmao), you can go out with friends, trust me you need this.