For the longest time I truly felt as if it was impossibe for anyone to ever love me, and it shaped all of my interactions with other people. I never made any efforts when it comes to dating, because why would you make an effort if you are unloveable? And even when women showed an interest in me, I interpreted all their actions to conform to my own belief that I couldn't be loved.
Obese since I was 12
General feelings of worthlessness and unhealthy relationship with food as a security blanket keeping me fat because I feel like it's too late to change and then try to bury the despair in melted cheese
Those feelings only increase and become more objectively true with every passing year I remain like this
Can't tell if autistic or just so ashamed of being alive and inflicting my repulsive presence on people that I developed hyperfixations to distract myself in my solitude
Unsupportive family (the only people I have) who demean and sabotage my attempts to better myself
Actually worked up the confidence to just trust someone who told me they found me attractive, and started a relationship, and felt like everything was finally turning around and started being happier and having motivation, only for them to drop me because I was still too insecure. So now I'm extra guarded against that happening again and don't think I can ever be with someone until I've perfected my physical form beyond reproach
i wish i could hug you through the screen.
everyone deserves to be loved, no matter what it seems like. i wish i had better answers but i'm in the midst of some personal shit myself, just know that you're not alone
I’m 28 and I’m a virgin.
I’m not ugly but I sure am not ok mentally. Nothing horrible, nothing drastic - I’m just having a hard time opening up to people, and being an adult virgin is my biggest insecurity. I mean, I turned down sex with a guy once because I didn’t want to confess I’m a virgin. Which is very counterproductive.
Oh, and being an insecure and passive lesbian doesn’t help.
As a 25yo mtf virgin it's not hard. Like I just feel so gross and nasty and unwanted idk if i'll ever have sex I kinda see myself as ending up forever alone because I don't think I could ever believe another human wants me like that
Kind of hurts w/that too when I'm legit actually ugly and overweight
I have a fricked up wiener and it makes me not want to even try. I also have too high standards for my own good. I'd rather be alone than in a relationship that wasn't exciting to me.
>I have a fricked up wiener
kek how fricked? mine used to have a really bad scar (it looks completely normal nowadays i treated it) but still got it sucked for like an hour, and i got ass too. i used to think that was huge deal, but lots of men have actual mangled wieners from circumcision (with loss of function and everything) which wasn't my case.
man phimosis isnt fricked up at all
does it make you worried about penetrative sex?
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like bad phimosis like if I get a throbbing erection it feels like my dickheads gonna fall off if my skin is pulled back bad
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That seems surgery worthy. Nta but I have phimosis too with only less than a centimeter on the head showing and sometimes I wonder if thats why I dont have any interest in topping.
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yeah I'm just terrified of getting anesthetised and being the infinitely small percentage of people who never wake up. I don't like the idea of a machine have to do my breathing for me, to put it lightly. Maybe I'll get over the fear, but I'm not a young buck anymore and it's equally likely that it'll never happen.
I'm 21, I've had four boyfriends, finally had the opportunity to have sex with the last one, I whipped it out and he started whining "wooow it's so big I don't know if I can do that."
not having sex i presume
it's called being lgbt and repressing.
have they done any studies on it?
>it's called being lgbt and repressing.
Honestly me, spent too many years ashamed of myself
its called being ugly and ethnic(?). LGBT community is mostly full of white privileged racists. im a 20 yo virgin and on track to be a 30 yo virgin.
based
how is it based u homosexual im suffering from no intimacy. if ur talking ab racism kys.
>LGBT community is mostly full of white privileged racists
Maybe shitskins should try being themselves instead of repressing then
we'll see if I manage to have sex in the next two years but I only got a vegana at 28
well that resets the odometer
runescape
they keep making the game shittier to try to make me stop playing and have sex and other social connections but i'm not falling for it
For the longest time I truly felt as if it was impossibe for anyone to ever love me, and it shaped all of my interactions with other people. I never made any efforts when it comes to dating, because why would you make an effort if you are unloveable? And even when women showed an interest in me, I interpreted all their actions to conform to my own belief that I couldn't be loved.
idk i got dicked down at 29 thankfully
Serious mental illness and bad family situation. Some incels are ugly, every incel is mentally ill.
Obese since I was 12
General feelings of worthlessness and unhealthy relationship with food as a security blanket keeping me fat because I feel like it's too late to change and then try to bury the despair in melted cheese
Those feelings only increase and become more objectively true with every passing year I remain like this
Can't tell if autistic or just so ashamed of being alive and inflicting my repulsive presence on people that I developed hyperfixations to distract myself in my solitude
Unsupportive family (the only people I have) who demean and sabotage my attempts to better myself
Actually worked up the confidence to just trust someone who told me they found me attractive, and started a relationship, and felt like everything was finally turning around and started being happier and having motivation, only for them to drop me because I was still too insecure. So now I'm extra guarded against that happening again and don't think I can ever be with someone until I've perfected my physical form beyond reproach
i wish i could hug you through the screen.
everyone deserves to be loved, no matter what it seems like. i wish i had better answers but i'm in the midst of some personal shit myself, just know that you're not alone
I’m 28 and I’m a virgin.
I’m not ugly but I sure am not ok mentally. Nothing horrible, nothing drastic - I’m just having a hard time opening up to people, and being an adult virgin is my biggest insecurity. I mean, I turned down sex with a guy once because I didn’t want to confess I’m a virgin. Which is very counterproductive.
Oh, and being an insecure and passive lesbian doesn’t help.
Childhood trauma. I'm in therapy now and getting better.
that's a cute cat
>Ctrl+F "shy"
>no results
For me, it's just being too shy to even ask anyone out, much less anything further
As a 25yo mtf virgin it's not hard. Like I just feel so gross and nasty and unwanted idk if i'll ever have sex I kinda see myself as ending up forever alone because I don't think I could ever believe another human wants me like that
Kind of hurts w/that too when I'm legit actually ugly and overweight
being a shut in neet afraid of change and unable to live
same
ugly, mentally unwell, poor, and repressing lgbt shit
I have a fricked up wiener and it makes me not want to even try. I also have too high standards for my own good. I'd rather be alone than in a relationship that wasn't exciting to me.
>I have a fricked up wiener
kek how fricked? mine used to have a really bad scar (it looks completely normal nowadays i treated it) but still got it sucked for like an hour, and i got ass too. i used to think that was huge deal, but lots of men have actual mangled wieners from circumcision (with loss of function and everything) which wasn't my case.
Just pretty bad phimosis and I don't want to go under to get a circumcision.
man phimosis isnt fricked up at all
does it make you worried about penetrative sex?
like bad phimosis like if I get a throbbing erection it feels like my dickheads gonna fall off if my skin is pulled back bad
That seems surgery worthy. Nta but I have phimosis too with only less than a centimeter on the head showing and sometimes I wonder if thats why I dont have any interest in topping.
yeah I'm just terrified of getting anesthetised and being the infinitely small percentage of people who never wake up. I don't like the idea of a machine have to do my breathing for me, to put it lightly. Maybe I'll get over the fear, but I'm not a young buck anymore and it's equally likely that it'll never happen.
Sex drive towards BDSM and fetishes with very little interest in sex and having someone in your face that's only interested in sex.
Being ugly and brown will definitely do it
Ugly + no confidence
You never approach anyone and nobody ever approaches you, simple as
nothing special, I'm not bad looking, I am gay, I just find the ideaof gay sex gross
having no sexual interest in anyone until I learned I was lgbt and stop repressing.
because sex is boring and dumb
I'll tell you if the answer changes in 9 years but for now it's having mental illness and repressing it, no fricking way I'm ever coming out as trans.
not having a desire to fck with a stranger but with someone you love and not having that person
Idk but in 5 years that will be me.
jokes on you I got raped at 9
I'm 21, I've had four boyfriends, finally had the opportunity to have sex with the last one, I whipped it out and he started whining "wooow it's so big I don't know if I can do that."
Guess I've still got time.
I'm still a virgin at 31
I guess by being lgbt, living in a shitty 3 world country, having an avoidant personality, and a bit of CPTSD